Originally Posted by
kenjie86
Play it cool. The first few months after a break up is usually spent, more likely, in explaining what went wrong to each and every friend of yours. Some would jump start talking trash about their exes, this is definitely not a way to deal with it. This will do nothing but harm to you and and your ex-boyfriend. It’s okay to say how you feel about it, but take some responsibility. Staying your lips tight will keep your name clear of drama.
Don’t play the victim. In the movies, women always tend to be wounded and helpless at the end of the relationship. A study was released by the American Psychological Association, stating that women are twice as likely to develop depression than men. For your own good, be strong and stay positive. Easier said than done? True, but feeling lonely and wishful thinking won’t take you a single step away from having a broken heart. Asking for sympathy just makes you more vulnerable. And the more vulnerable you are, the more you are to make bad decisions.
Work on you. After a break up we tend to wallow in our sorrows. It’s not bad, more so needed, for a certain period of time. You need to do your very best to get yourself together, stand up, and make your mum proud. Pamper yourself and live well. As Spock would always say, with split-finger: “Live long and prosper.”
Refocus your life. Like any other problems in life… after all the wallowing, you need to refocus your life. Take a deep breath and set your priorities… your family, friends, career and yourself. If you feel you need some counseling, perhaps attend a retreat, do so. It will give you a lot of time to think things over, until you can finally sleep soundly.
Break ups are optional. Many people break up and then they make up. The relationship became strong relationships, the second time around. It’s true, my own relationship is one living proof. Break ups are optional when you have the right information. Do you really want the relationship back? If so, there are ways, you just have to make it happen.
Moving on has stages and the journey to it is different for everyone. Some may race through stages that take others an age to pass through and some may choose to take the road less traveled. Asking why, how and what if — the plague of those kind of questions is certainly not the key to getting the closure you need and moving on after a break up.
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