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[Soul Doctor]

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hi brad..a.sk lang jud ko...uhmmm...buwag na mi sa akong uyab,,,and i have a new guy right now...but kato nagkita mi sa akong ex,nya wa ko niya tagda,na bothered ko.gisapot jud ko ato kay ni una ko ug tagad niya,nya mura ra xia ug wa ka kita nako..then gi delete pa jud ko niya sa iyang friends sa fs...mura man ko ug affected...ngano kaha...

Maybe your pride is hurt.
Thats why you are affected.
Ikaw nitagad unya wala ka niya tagda.
But it is just a normal reaction kay nagexpect man ka nga tagdon ka niya,
kay gitagad gud nimo siya.
Pero kung wala ra unta ka nagexpect nga tagdon niya, dili ra sad ka maguol karon.

But his pride is hurt too when you have this new guy.
So its quite normal for him to act that way.

Or maybe he is with someone new who is a jealous type.
Maybe he does not want her to notice you.

Or maybe he has not moved on yet.
And he does not want to deal with it.

[I am the bo$$]

Yah, soul doc is right. Girls are prejudgmental...

Mao saputon mi bsta dudahan nga dili tinuod...tsk2x

Bsta saputon nami meaning we're telling the truth.hehe

The problem with other girls is they judge their boyfriends right away.

Listen to both sides.
Don't go judging anyone first.
You already heard what your friends have said.
Now give him time to say his side of the story.
Note:
Do not judge him first.
Just listen to his story.
But, be observant of the way he talks.
There are signs when a person lies to you.
Look him in the eye when you are speaking.
Most liars do not look you straight in the eye when they are lying.
But, my daughter can lie with a straight face, so just trust your instincts.

Talk to him when he is ready.
Get your facts straight before you confront him with anything.

[Soul Doctor]

doc pwede nimo ilisan ang kanang mga dj sa FM stations nga murag korek?

Dili pwede.
Boring kaayo kog "audio".
murag tingog sa 17 year old.

Dili sad ko maayo moestorya.
Infact, akong wife makatulog basta magestorya na mi.
hehehe. Magpaestorya siya nako og salida sa sine, basta dili siya katulog.
Tinuod dili pa matiwas akong estorya, tulog na siya.

Maayo lang ko motubag.
pero dili ko maayo moestorya.

[Soul Doctor]

im 23 he's 22
he doesnt drink, walay bisyo, wala tanan
dali lang gyud cya malingaw ug isa ka butang like videoke, mag bike2x, dota or bsan unsa na lingaw..

ok rman nako na ang monthsary but ang amu anniv 2 times na niya nalimtan..ambot lang kaha ron ika 3rd namu kung mahinumduman ba niya..

You are 23,
He is 22.

Then you should be the one who adjusts in your relationship.
You are most likely more matured than him.
Don't expect too much from him.
He is young, he does not want to go on serious relationships with girls yet.
He just want to enjoy his youth
and enjoy his freedom as part of being single.

Remembering anniversaries to him is for married people only.
And you are not married yet.
He might be the intellectual type who find romance a bit boring.
He wants to be intellectually stimulated.
Play scrabble with him.
Play chess with him.
Sing-along with him.
Ride a bike with him.
Enjoy life.
this is how boys bond with girls.
I do hope you are intellectually compatible.

[Soul Doctor]

Doc, nakig-kita xa lastnight. And he wanted to patch things up, makigbalik xa. Pero wala pa nya gbuwagan iyang ka.flirt2x run. Kung ako lang, g.dump na nako xa. Pero naa mi baby. He wanted to fix things kuno, and he wants enough time. He really like to go out with our baby but im not comfortable na magkuyog2x mi dn naa xay mga butang na wala pa niya na sulbad. I want to give him chance, again! proved his worth into action na talaga. Pero im not affected sa iyang planu mkig balik coz basin storya nsad. Wla na bya sad koy contact2x nya. He keeps calling me pman. Pero now, ako ghapon i.continue akong no-contact-rule sa iyaha. Dli pman sad ko ka ingun nga sincere xa. Lisud man kaau isalig na ug tao nga ni betray na sa akong pagsalig. I deserve some1 better na dli player, womanizer or naay personality crisis. I asked him y nabuhat nya ingun xa personality crisis daw nya.

Thats the lamest excuse.
Personality crisis. my a.s.s.
Don't buy that line my dear.
Thats what irresponsible people do when they screw up.
Blame it on personality crisis.
But, its their own choosing to hurt you.
That pain is no personality crisis.
Take a hold of that pain and learn from it.

[Soul Doctor]

hmm. yeah.
i just want the friendship. that's all.
and i still need a friend of course.
so do you think what i'm doing is okay?

So do you want a girl friend or not?
Cause if you just want friendship
then you do not need a girlfriend.

Know what you want.

Why don't you make them all friends first.
Then, when you know which one to choose as girlfriend,
thats the time you can pick one for a girlfriend.

[elia]

do you think love jud ko niya? geesh.. wala man gud niya gi answer ang ako mga text ug tawag. pero usually naa jud days nga dili xa magtext. tua man gud sya sa leyte. naa sya negosyo nga guso. bz pud sya. he also sleeps early. Basin nagkataon ra nga nagaway mi last night and wala sya ning tubag nako karun. tapulan sad kaayo na sya mutext or mogunit ug phone. wala man sad gud kaayo signal sa ila isla mao iya ra na ibilin iya phone, ibitay para magkasignal.

Should i continue loving him? He already proposed to me doc, ga wait nalang jud daw xa nako nga muingon nga menyo na jud. pero i think ning serious na jud xa eversince nadawat xa sa ako parents. imagine gud Doc ha pobre xa, taga isla naa xay gamay negosyo nga GUSO. compared nako nga Mayor ako mom then naa jud mi sa higher level. I think sad kung naa man gani na link niya nga girls wala na niya tagda karun.. before man gud hadlok siya nga dili xa madawat sa ako parents. HE wasnt expecting that my parents will treat him good. Nainteresado gani sa iyang gamay nga business.

Ako lang sad gicompare ako self sa iya mga ex ba. Halos kuno tanan family sa iya x mata pobre. dili man unta mga datu jud ang mga x niya. unlike me daw naa na sa taas nga status then gitarung daw sya wala sya sawaya or whatsoever. So do you think Doc, he's serious with me na jud?

[Soul Doctor]

do you think love jud ko niya? geesh.. wala man gud niya gi answer ang ako mga text ug tawag. pero usually naa jud days nga dili xa magtext. tua man gud sya sa leyte. naa sya negosyo nga guso. bz pud sya. he also sleeps early. Basin nagkataon ra nga nagaway mi last night and wala sya ning tubag nako karun. tapulan sad kaayo na sya mutext or mogunit ug phone. wala man sad gud kaayo signal sa ila isla mao iya ra na ibilin iya phone, ibitay para magkasignal.

Should i continue loving him? He already proposed to me doc, ga wait nalang jud daw xa nako nga muingon nga menyo na jud. pero i think ning serious na jud xa eversince nadawat xa sa ako parents. imagine gud Doc ha pobre xa, taga isla naa xay gamay negosyo nga GUSO. compared nako nga Mayor ako mom then naa jud mi sa higher level. I think sad kung naa man gani na link niya nga girls wala na niya tagda karun.. before man gud hadlok siya nga dili xa madawat sa ako parents. HE wasnt expecting that my parents will treat him good. Nainteresado gani sa iyang gamay nga business.


Ako lang sad gicompare ako self sa iya mga ex ba. Halos kuno tanan family sa iya x mata pobre. dili man unta mga datu jud ang mga x niya. unlike me daw naa na sa taas nga status then gitarung daw sya wala sya sawaya or whatsoever. So do you think Doc, he's serious with me na jud?

I can not answer your question if he is serious or not.
Being of a higher level in the social scale is easy target for opportunist boys.
You have to be careful not to be scammed into "love".
For him its an uphill climb.
He has to gain your respect for one.
Then your parents respect.
I know he is good looking.
But you have to know his values.
Know his family.

Here is what happened to our youngest sister.
On her 18th birthday my mother (a vice mayor in minglanilla)
gave her a big party. And her birthday gift--a car.
There in the crowd was a boy who promised his friends-
I will marry that girl.

Soon he introduced himself to her.
They were schoolmates, but he is way too old for her.
Then he impresses her with jokes and his friendly charm.
Then he introduced himself to my mom.
He even took my sister and mom to Dumaguete where he
said his uncles are politicians.
My Mom was impressed so she allowed her to have this guy as her boyfriend.
To make the long story short.
She got pregnant. But unexpectedly she dumped her boyfriend.
My sister realized that he did not want to marry this guy.

She continued with her studies.
Took care of the baby herself.
She shift course and took up medicine.
Now she passed the medical board.
She is a doctor now
and she has a new boyfriend who is a Doctor.

What I'm saying here is.
What is in store for both of you in your relationship?
you have to look after for yourself and your future.

[elia]

^Thanks for the advice. This also made me think more about myself. Maybe i had fallen too much that i didn't know when to stop. OR maybe i have hoped too much. You are right, i have to love first before i love others.

[elia]

i will still love him. Whats good about him is right now i could sense he is working hard than ever. It's like he is having goals. His dreams was crushed when He didn't make it to the PBL years back. But i often told him Maybe God have different plans. And maybe he is destined for something else.