Ask me any question about relationships

[Fern]

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nganung inig buwag ninyo mura akong nabantayan ang laki man gud masakitan..

others say ang babae ang masakitan...others say lalake masakitan.... ako nasakitan gyud ko... pero ki kumkum lang nako ....... wala ko nagpakita sa "beach" nga na hurt ko sa iyang ki buhat.

@YM24.... depende na bro kung kinsa ang ni hatag ug maayu sa gugma...

[Soul Doctor]

Doc... sa amung relationship...wala gyud ko nag binuang. ki devote a nako akong time sa iya....
but one time... murag wala na cya clear nga communication sa ako (thats 9 months after me nag ka uyab)...mu balibad na cya sa kung mu hagad na ko ug suroy or outing. ... until i called her on her cellphone and then i "purposely" instigated a little quarrel para slip iyang tongue... ni dako samot amung away until...

then.. she told me samtang uyab pa mi... naa na cyay other guy pa aside sa ako ... and she said nga ki sugut ko niya because she thinks im a good and innocent guy.. and told me to date someone else.

(i think her reason was so shallow...dili gyu ni mao ang reason)

sakit akong dughan paka hear ani doc... i cant sleep ato nga time... her words bothered me for a week.. after that i stopped communication... and forget her... (but hell i cant erase her number in my phonebook and also iyang friendster....i tried to pero dili ko ka press sa "ok")

a year after (that karon nga month)...3 ago she called me i did not answer her call (murag 6 times na cya nig sige ug call)... she even called my mom's office number to try to get a hold of me..

until one time...nga ni tubag ko sa landline...thinking it could be one of those jobs i applied...

it was her... she said she wanted to talk to me... cya na ni hagdad ug suroy.. and etc.

i was speechless... i tried to respond back... "ok ok ok " ra akong mga response.. until i hanged up the phone..... and i just dont know how to handle that situation...ganahan unta ko mu say ug bad words... pero i just hanged up...

mao gyud ni ang story nako doc.... mao nang naka get over ko ato nga time because i let my hate take control of me...

Im not a open woman hater gyud... infact i have great work relationship with my female colleauges..( for work politics reasons... but deep inside i have dark feelings sa ila).

i just realize that i need to move on na.... after i kornily saw a "couple sa SM..together.." ..but hadlok lang ko doc.....

Ask ko nimo about niya.
Is she in need of money?
Girl who came from large family ended up supporting the rest of her family.
This takes toll on her relationships with her boyfriend.
Maybe her family have someone better for her as a boyfriend.
Probably someone with a lot of money.
Women are concern more on security and survival bro.
Maybe she felt more secure with the other guy.

[Soul Doctor]

unsaon mag nmu pag solve sa problema about sa karibal sa gugma?

It useless to compete.
If she have someone else then you should not insist on loving her
(it's only on the movies that the guy gets the girl, but in reality-- its the opposite).
Save face and let her go.

Bro, focus on your self.
Be internally empowered.
Explore your hidden talents.
Learn more skills.
When you gain enough skills, you also gain confidence.
This confidence will show on you
and you will become attractive to more deserving ladies.

[Fern]

Ask ko nimo about niya.
Is she in need of money?
Girl who came from large family ended up supporting the rest of her family.
This takes toll on her relationships with her boyfriend.
Maybe her family have someone better for her as a boyfriend.
Probably someone with a lot of money.
Women are concern more on security and survival bro.
Maybe she felt more secure with the other guy.

there three of them sa family nila.... his big bro, herself, then her baby bro.
her family is a broken family.. his dad has another wife.
shes a freaking nurse... shes a clinical instructor.
murag iyang uyab2x karon is fellow nurse sad.

well if she needed money... I can give... but i would think thats not practical if sugar daddy ko sa iya.
but during sa amung realtionship...she never asked me about it... in most of our conversation... she always mentions that im to gwapo for her (basin ki ilad ra sad ko ato) and alot of ETCs... basin siguro inferiority complex.

basin sakto sad ka doc...she felt more secure with that other guy.. basin same ra sad niya ug level GRRR
same level of pokpokness

[Soul Doctor]

there three of them sa family nila.... his big bro, herself, then her baby bro.
her family is a broken family.. his dad has another wife.
shes a freaking nurse... shes a clinical instructor.
murag iyang uyab2x karon is fellow nurse sad.

well if she needed money... I can give... but i would think thats not practical if sugar daddy ko sa iya.
but during sa amung realtionship...she never asked me about it... in most of our conversation... she always mentions that im to gwapo for her (basin ki ilad ra sad ko ato) and alot of ETCs... basin siguro inferiority complex.

basin sakto sad ka doc...she felt more secure with that other guy.. basin same ra sad niya ug level GRRR
same level of pokpokness

Maybe she made plans with him.
Maybe if he goes out of the country first
he would arrange for her to be with him there.

As I've said, its about security.

[Fern]

Maybe she made plans with him.
Maybe if he goes out of the country first
he would arrange for her to be with him there.

As I've said, its about security.

doc.... unsaon ni nako pag get over sa iya? she just called me again yesterday... its like gusto cya makig balik or something ..... its like ki lo-od na ko sa iya... shes already a vomit taht i dont want to again.

[Soul Doctor]

doc.... unsaon ni nako pag get over sa iya? she just called me again yesterday... its like gusto cya makig balik or something ..... its like ki lo-od na ko sa iya... shes already a vomit taht i dont want to again.

If you have pride as big as mine,
then you would not entertain her anymore.
I know I would not.

To get over her means you have to have closure.
You can have closure---
If you yourself want or need closure.
You can talk with her.
Find out her reasons.
It does not hurt to know.
No promises, no commitments.

[joowen]

question...

nagkalabuan mi sa ako yabz lately.. but we were able to patch things out but then suddenly... nawad.an napod xa ug gana makigkita or to spend time with me.. what happened was my parents arrived here in cebu.. ginataguan nako xa sa ako family coz of other reasons.. dugay naxa cge ask na unta maging open na xa sa ako family and cge ko ingon soon just give me time..

karon mao ni nahitabo. cge na xa ug likay nako, not sure ug nalain xa when i told her dat she cant come over sa apartment coz my parents are around.. i kept asking na magkita mi sa mall or somewhere else but deadma ko niya.. daghan rason then i found out nagcge xa ug disco lately with her friends...

then ngwork mn ko ala xa pakita for 3 days. nagcge xa disco.. inom.. hantud naa xa na mit lain... then the next day nagkita napod sila adto and that someone kiss her while dancing sa disco and wala niya pugnge... or nidili sa tao . ggusto daw niya to.... after 2 days i tried to contact her and ingon xa the reason why naglikay xa was because ngkamali xa... now my friend texted her.. asking here whats the reason why nagkalabuan napod mi...

ingon xa sa ako friend gkapoi na daw xa sa situation namo na patago.. insulto daw sa iya part.. i told my yabz na we'd go on separate ways na coz i was hurt sa iya ghimo.. now my friend told me i should have tried to tell me parents about her.. but then am confuse coz of what she has done..my point is, nistorya nalang unta xa nako na nalain xa rather ignoring me dba? but ingon ako friend nagrebelde daw xa coz disappointed daw ako yabz coz maskn moingon xa, wala lang daw ghapon koy himuon.

i admit am partly to be blamed.. but ngana jud? ingon ako yabz nahan daw xa adtung na mit niya... libog ko.. i dont know ug unsa sakto himuon.

is it worth the try to tell my mom after what happened? should i make a move to introduce her after what she has done? am thinking man gud na maybe gkaboangan rako niya and she just used that an excuse.. or did that really happen coz she was tired sa amo situation na nahiubos xa? coz before pa niabot ako parents medyo cold xa lately after me naging ok... am not sure so sure what to do.. i need to decide na coz molarga na ako mom...

advice naman....

[YM24]

lisod daw og move-on ana cya??

[haiasi]

doc what is your definition of love?