Ask me any question about relationships

[tams7154]

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why is it easier for me to extend help to my friends than to my family?

[Soul Doctor]

why is it easier for me to extend help to my friends than to my family?

Because friends are more grateful than family.

If you help a friend or even a stranger,
they will give you thanks and they can be very grateful
that it makes you feel good or makes you feel very happy.

But when you help a family,
it looks like a gesture of gratitude is not necessary
because you are obliged to help them because they are family.
The level of gratitude is so much lesser than that of a stranger or a friend.

[Soul Doctor]

why diay ang mga girls dili ka fight sa ilang relationship??

Because its not worth it.

Why would they fight for a "love" when they still need their parents.
They are the ones who looks out for their future.

Their boyfriends are just there for the ride.
I don't see no reason for any girls to fight for that relationship.
That's too shallow.

But when they are already married,
then by all means,
the girls should fight for their relationship.

[YM24]

nganung kong a girl makig buwag mura ra man wla nila??
nya kita kay naa sa kwarta nag pakahubog..nganu kaha??

[tams7154]

Because friends are more grateful than family.

If you help a friend or even a stranger,
they will give you thanks and they can be very grateful
that it makes you feel good or makes you feel very happy.

But when you help a family,
it looks like a gesture of gratitude is not necessary
because you are obliged to help them because they are family.
The level of gratitude is so much lesser than that of a stranger or a friend.

Thanks! your explanation is very enlightening. Follow up, so Doc, am I really obliged to help a family member?

[jlodarl]

Doc, why guys or maybe it just my hubby, that I need to repeat and explain what I said so that he will understand what I mean? or he just choose to not understand? sometimes dili xa ka gets nako.. ako sad..

[histrionic0311]

doc, i have a question.. why do we have to engage into a commitment when it comes into relationships??

[Soul Doctor]

nganung kong a girl makig buwag mura ra man wla nila??
nya kita kay naa sa kwarta nag pakahubog..nganu kaha??

It not always the case bro.
Most of the time girls are more affected than boys.

but it also depends on ones emotional maturity.
Maybe you expect too much from your relationship
that you think you've lost a lot when she left you.

[Soul Doctor]

Thanks! your explanation is very enlightening. Follow up, so Doc, am I really obliged to help a family member?

Yes,
As they always say---
Charity begins at home.

[Soul Doctor]

Doc, why guys or maybe it just my hubby, that I need to repeat and explain what I said so that he will understand what I mean? or he just choose to not understand? sometimes dili xa ka gets nako.. ako sad..

This is because you judge each other.
Your level of communication has not reach the highest level.
Your understanding only starts when you stop judging each other.
Something happened in the past
that made your communication a bit harder now.

You have to deal with that first.