Ask me any question about relationships

[Soul Doctor]

is it wrong to fall in love to a person who is already committed (not the married thing) but committed to someone...

Yes you see this guy as a good person.
but if he had not been faithful to his girl,
then why would he be faithful with you in the future.

Obviously he got used of having someone around.
And when his girlfriend is not around
he found you convenient since you are mature enough to understand his situation
and not ask for more than what is at hand.

You are in this situation because you are confident that you wont get hurt.
But thats not really the truth, is it?
Sooner or later someone is bound to be hurt.
You, the girl, or people around you.
In short, I see no happy ending here.

[angelbymistake27]

Yes you see this guy as a good person.
but if he had not been faithful to his girl,
then why would he be faithful with you in the future.

Obviously he got used of having someone around.
And when his girlfriend is not around
he found you convenient since you are mature enough to understand his situation
and not ask for more than what is at hand.

You are in this situation because you are confident that you wont get hurt.
But thats not really the truth, is it?
Sooner or later someone is bound to be hurt.
You, the girl, or people around you.
In short, I see no happy ending here.

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nice jud kaau...it really taught me a lot...there are times man jud na confused ang tawo..and would need other peoples opinion kay dili man pud gud sa tanan higayon makita sa person unsa ang iyang sayop but ang uban na ang maka kita...

[daffodils]

doc unsa imo ka advice?

naa ko kaipon, we have a 9months old son, before kato wala pa me ng ipon, lajud ko kahibalo sa ya escapades during nyt out, lasad ko kasakop niya, first few months samo pang ipon pregnant pako ok raman me..cge cya laag pero wala naku cya g pugngan, coz dko gsto ma tuok cya...n was also thinking na he nids to unwind himself ky call center man cya ng work..not knowing na cge na diay cya ug date date ug chiks...

one day naa me nalalisan, wako ka agwanta ne layas ko wd my son, but one week lang nebalik rasad ko after...we ddnt reconcile as if nothing happens..

nasakpan naku cya tru txt, ng kalalis me grabeh..cya nsad ang nelayas..lakaw cya dec. 24 balik cya jan. 6, as if nothing happens nasad..

karun ang mas grabeh ky naa najud cya uyab..wapa lang jud ko kita nila sa akto..

how can i possbly fight the feelings i have..

what shall i do..to overcome all these problems

[Soul Doctor]

doc unsa imo ka advice?

naa ko kaipon, we have a 9months old son, before kato wala pa me ng ipon, lajud ko kahibalo sa ya escapades during nyt out, lasad ko kasakop niya, first few months samo pang ipon pregnant pako ok raman me..cge cya laag pero wala naku cya g pugngan, coz dko gsto ma tuok cya...n was also thinking na he nids to unwind himself ky call center man cya ng work..not knowing na cge na diay cya ug date date ug chiks...

one day naa me nalalisan, wako ka agwanta ne layas ko wd my son, but one week lang nebalik rasad ko after...we ddnt reconcile as if nothing happens..

nasakpan naku cya tru txt, ng kalalis me grabeh..cya nsad ang nelayas..lakaw cya dec. 24 balik cya jan. 6, as if nothing happens nasad..

karun ang mas grabeh ky naa najud cya uyab..wapa lang jud ko kita nila sa akto..

how can i possbly fight the feelings i have..

what shall i do..to overcome all these problems

This is a common problem when you are with a "player".
Are you his first live-in partner?

You have to deal it like a mature person would.
Ordinarily, you could go to the girl or her work place and make some trouble.
But it will only make things worse.
He may hate you for that and leave you and stop supporting you financially.

I can see you are in a quite confusing situation.

First.
You have to ask the help of your parents.
or his parents.
Is this possible?
I hope you still have a father.
You need his help on situation like this.
And don't hesitate to ask for his help.

[Soul Doctor]

doc ..nkoy ask..y man ang parents cge man cla compare nko sa ilang panahon saona..lyk uyab2 muana daun na cla na "sos kami saona paghuman na namo iskwela ng uyab2..kamo bata pa gani mo(3rd yir college na gani ko).."..??

Pero sayop dyud nang magcompare sa anak ngadto sa igsoon labi na sa ubang anak.
Kay ang kada tao unique man.
Lainlain sad og strength ang mga anak.
Pero dili lagi kalikayan sa mga ginikanan nga mokomparar.
mao nga negative sad ang reaction sa mga anak.

Ako kung mokomparar ko sa akong anak,
i-compare ra nako siya sa iyang kaugalingon nga performance before and now.
Kung na-improve ba siya o wala.

[miyay]

hi doc, ask ko if naay tambal ang pagkamanhid? i've never been inlove

[Soul Doctor]

hi doc, ask ko if naay tambal ang pagkamanhid? i've never been inlove

Pagkamanhid dunay intentional

Intentional-
kung tuyoon nimo nga dili ka makafeel aron dili ka masakitan in the future.
Example:
ganahan ka sa guy,
pero makaimagine na ka nga magbuwag ra mo in the future
sama sa nahitabo sa imong friend
so modecide ka nga dili na lang ipadayon ang imong gibati.
Imo na lang i-ignore kay hadlok ka masakitan.

Pero kung manhid jud ka nga dili nimo tuyoon, problema na.
Emotionally naa kay problem.

Maybe you decided when you are a child not to care to feel anymore.
Basin disciplinarian imong parent.
And the only way to cope is not to feel anything anymore.
This is a problem.
You need to talk to a shrink if this is the type of problem you have.

[eilrach]

naks.. dili lang ko patambag doc ha.. up lang ni nako kay nice kaau imo mga reply.. ^_^

[gkoopir]

Soul Doc, Unsay basihan sa imong mga ipangtubag ani?
Are studying about this?

[Soul Doctor]

Soul Doc, Unsay basihan sa imong mga ipangtubag ani?
Are studying about this?

Paspas lang jud moandar akong brain bro.
Especially bag-o lang ko mag-meditate.
I can easily understand a situation.
Wala say limit ang akong thinking.
As an artist and inventor, I "think out of the box".
That is why you may find my answers a bit unusual.
But mostly my answers come from experience.