GF Super Selosa: What is the Best Solution?

[insomiac]

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basin choy au ka bro nya bati au cya nawng! hehehehe live your life the way you want it bro, dont live your life on somebody elses way. hehehehe

[love2travel]

Put up or break up...
IMHO, if you really love her, you will put up with her idiosyncrasies and show her that you are worthy of her trust, and then maybe she will be less selosa
if she is pathologically possessive, I think you should break up with her and find someone else...

[BJMP]

first you need to understand why she is so "selosa" as you said. Did you break her trust? Do you promise her and forget about it? When you talk to her, do you keep mentioning other people as if comparing them to her? Are you transparent to her about your activities during the day?

Maybe, by this time, you got so tired of her that you started to be defensive. You started not to tell her about your activities "kay mao lang gihapon, mag selos man siya." You probably become colder that before kay permi siya ga selos.

Kung wala sa imo ang problema, it must be in her or in how you handle your relationship. Does she have a healthy self-esteem? Kung healthy iyang self-esteem, she will not be extremely jealous and possessive sa imo. read books or search on the internet on how to improve self-esteem. Read experts' advices on way to fight right so that it wont corrode your relationship further to dissolution.

btw sa... pero buwag nmn pd mi..
ge lng, chrge to experience..
sunod2x kng mka uyab ko ug ngon ana jpn ako na buhaton...

[jaed121907]

bai, unsay gimean nimo sa imong last sentence?

I mean, wala lang japun sya nag change. She promised me that she'll change but still she hasn't.

[jaed121907]

first you need to understand why she is so "selosa" as you said. Did you break her trust? Do you promise her and forget about it? When you talk to her, do you keep mentioning other people as if comparing them to her? Are you transparent to her about your activities during the day?

Maybe, by this time, you got so tired of her that you started to be defensive. You started not to tell her about your activities "kay mao lang gihapon, mag selos man siya." You probably become colder that before kay permi siya ga selos.

Kung wala sa imo ang problema, it must be in her or in how you handle your relationship. Does she have a healthy self-esteem? Kung healthy iyang self-esteem, she will not be extremely jealous and possessive sa imo. read books or search on the internet on how to improve self-esteem. Read experts' advices on way to fight right so that it wont corrode your relationship further to dissolution.

Thanks, chormatus. You know, I am as always transparent to her, but I don't know. She is aware though that she is selosa and she keeps on promising that will not be selosa anymore. She told me that being selosa is her weakness and that I have to understand her and my response was, if she can't do it then don't promise it, diba? YES, I understand her that much. Sometimes when she starts to argue about something, I just keep my mouth shot and ignore her 'cause it might only create a big problem. Again, thanks chormatus.

[marajaw]

dako guro kag bunal doh!

[rjbinghay]

I have this GF of mine na grabe ka selosa. Almost tanan na lang selosan, yes, as in, to the extent na wala nay mabilin nako. Kung mag dungan mi sya nay mugunit sa akong akong phones kay iya jung batayan nga basin kuno naay "textmate" nako na mu txt. Sa friendster kung naay mag comment awayun ko, dili bitaw ko tuohan? This is the cause of all our problems for 9 months. Mura ba'g mangita sya ug bilik. Ambot na niya ui. Wa ko kasabot. Hahay, saon na lang. I'm her first BF, but I'm not considering this as her reason and her excuse. Before makasabot lang ko niya pero karon mura'g dili naman jud sakto. What should I do guys? Need your advises. Mag 10 months nami karon Oct19 but still amo lang japun sya.

Bro, naa kay history about past girls? and if yes pila kabuok girlfriend nimo sa una before sa imu uyab?

if naa kay mga previous mischief then this is what I can say:

its not better to tell your gf everything about your past specially at these early stages sa inyu relationship
kay mag tu-o na siya nga hantud karon buguy gihapun ka even if you say nga usab naka. And bro not
telling everything does not mean that your cheating, hinay hinayun nimo gain ang trust niya bro then
hinay hinay sad ka mu sulti sa imu previous mischief... inig salig na niya nimo then dinha naka mu sulti..

unsa pamay selosan niya nga ning salig na kana siya nimo maayu? dibah?

if inluv ka sa imu gf bro antusa lang na hangtud ma pul-an na kana siya selos... ma pul-an ra lagi na...

BTW bro proud ko 7 years nako sa akong uyab diha nako kuhaa ang tambag nako nimo....

[neykolet]

If you think enough is enough, then break up with her. Some people think that it's okay
to being selosa to show how much they love their partners, but it's not. Too much jealous could
cause a relationship to break no matter how strong it could. It's one way of knowing that the other person don't trust you at all. But if you still have patience and lots of it... try to talk it over with her and settle things nicely. Think twice before you make a decision.

[jaed121907]

Bro, naa kay history about past girls? and if yes pila kabuok girlfriend nimo sa una before sa imu uyab?

if naa kay mga previous mischief then this is what I can say:

its not better to tell your gf everything about your past specially at these early stages sa inyu relationship
kay mag tu-o na siya nga hantud karon buguy gihapun ka even if you say nga usab naka. And bro not
telling everything does not mean that your cheating, hinay hinayun nimo gain ang trust niya bro then
hinay hinay sad ka mu sulti sa imu previous mischief... inig salig na niya nimo then dinha naka mu sulti..

unsa pamay selosan niya nga ning salig na kana siya nimo maayu? dibah?

if inluv ka sa imu gf bro antusa lang na hangtud ma pul-an na kana siya selos... ma pul-an ra lagi na...

BTW bro proud ko 7 years nako sa akong uyab diha nako kuhaa ang tambag nako nimo....

Yes, bro. I made a big mistake on this. I thought I'd be able to get her immediate trust when I revealed to her about my past. First month pa lang namu grabe nako ka-open sa iya, thinking that it may be a big help but I'm wrong. La ko kabalo gina-store lang diay niya sa iyang memory tanan and assumed everything and developed a phobia that I might do it again sometime at present and in the future. I should have kept it with me na lang unta sa? Thanks kaau, rjbinghay. Nice kaau imong advise. God bless.

[jaed121907]

And to all of you guys who in one way or the other have given all their advises, comments, violent reaction/s over my post, thank you very very much. Don't worry guys, I'll try to keep and keep my heads up about this matter. Istoryans rule!