Am I just paranoid or plain conservative?

[DyslexicHeart]

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Given that situation, neither are you paranoid nor plain conservative...
Jealousy would be the most normal thing to feel especially that of all people, this woman chose your husband! She could have asked her officemates, friends or relatives but to have the audacity to request your mister to accompany her shopping would surely unleash the green-eyed monster in you. Plus, this girl and also, your husband should be prudent and realize that things are not the same as before when both were still unattached.

What makes my eyebrow raise, again, is the husband having a girl best friend. Ideally, when one gets married, the best friend would be the spouse!

If you trust that Mister will never play hank-panky and that you are confident about yourself and your marriage, it may be that the Hubby will never replace the Red Ferrari in his garage with a Kia!!!

[BloomerBeak]

thanks DyslexicHeart, now I know being jealous that much is just normal and not paranoid. But you got me a little more nervous there..huhuhu

Now, I'm thinking more for your post, what are her intentions? Are they that insensitive of my feelings? And she knows he's married, why does she kept on asking such favors to him? At least my best friend respected my marriage, haven't been bugging me around since my wedding day (unlike when I was still single).

I do wish that my hubby will finally realize the same thoughts you have, DyslexicHeart. *sigh
Thank you very much for that post.

[BloomerBeak]

by the way, suggestions, reactions, and comments are still welcome. I really want to know what's going on in your minds about this matter. Thanks.

[bluefairy]

A big no, no for me jud. Anything can happen when a man and a woman are alone. I won't take that chance. Kung ako naa sa imong situation, I would talk to my husband about it. Make him understand that it makes me feel jealous to have him go shopping with his best friend in a place where I'm not.

[RQL]

You will get all sorts of arguments about what may or may not have happened. The most important question is whethere you trust your partner or not.

[DyslexicHeart]

Hi, BloomerBeak!


"What are her intentions?" Hmmm... We could speculate a thousand and one reasons from just a plain friendly favor of accompanying her shopping to the absurd - a scheming plan of recruiting your hubby to the latest pyramiding business involving lumboy concoction and mansanitas extract! The hard truth is we may never know her purpose.

"Are they that insensitive to my feelings?" Hmmm, again... Perhaps, you also need to express your thoughts (in a non-confrontational manner). Maybe, the Mister thinks that this 'shopping expedition' is perfectly fine with you.

"And she knows he's married, why does she kept on asking such favors to him?" Hmmm, the third time... Obviously, the virtue of prudence is alien to her!!!


You said that the Hubby works in Manila while you are in Cebu. Indeed, a set-up like this is a greater challenge for the both of you. Continue to communicate more often to keep the relationship stronger. Keep on sending thoughtful and romantic messages.

And, never ever forget yourself! Indulge to even just an hour or two of beauty pampering or anything that will make you feel good. Stay beautiful always... not only for the hubby but for yourself most especially!!!

[aablenriz]

There is no substitute to lifting problems to the Almighty. He predetermines our future. !

[black_vixen]

Little jealous of course..Just remind the husband/bf to know his limits and know their schedule kung asa cla.
If any odd things happen, konsinxa nana nila...Paligsi clang duha if msakpan nimo cla. Btaw, if the best friend shows respect man lang. She won't bother your husband. Have trust lang sa husband/bf.

[BloomerBeak]

thanks for the replies, especially to DyslexicHeart. Eventually, I didn't take the situation that good as my condition worsen (I cried every night before going to bed). But I finally had the guts to tell him what I was thinking (the worries of being away from him, and him agreeing to accompany her). Well, that was after I told him about my father who was having an affair.

I told him what if my father was telling the truth, and that nothing really was going on between him and that woman, and my father was just being a good friend to her, just like what my husband was about to do with his best friend. Thankfully, my hubby got my point and we talked it over, and eventually cleared things out. He understood well about my feelings, and that he also thought that being with another woman when a man is already married is definitely not a good sight.

But the night before the confrontation, I asked him if he really is ready to be a husband, and live with the life he entered (a married life). He said yes. But I was thinking, he still has that side of him being a bachelor. I mean, he's young and we got married at a young age, and we're not together because of work, maybe deep down inside him, he still wanted to be free from any responsibilities. He told me he wasn't that sure to accompany her, though, but the instance he agreed to her the moment she asked makes me really wonder, is he really ready?

Anyway, it took him days before finally coming up to a decision of declining from going shopping with her. Long enough to doubt his readiness (for being a married man), but at least it came to him. Hopefully this will not happen again (that is if his friends will be more sensitive).

[BloomerBeak]

keep this coming, guys and gals. This will be very helpful for our guys.