How can I tell to him that I already had a baby? I need ur advise guyz (UPDATES)

[diem]

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[color=navy]^^@SheilaB, your words indicate actions not befitting an adult or a mother. You'll kill yourself if he would leave you? Then what about your child? I thought your child is important to you?!

Please clarify yourself and your intentions. Do not be confused by your emotions. Act now.

Again, I suggest that you make time and effort to meet him and tell him the truth. I don't think its good to start and maintain relationships based on false assumptions.

Again, you can meet him at your place or, if it would be more comfortable, in one of your high school friends' place. You should be the one to tell him lest he hears it from others.

I know you like him and is falling in love with him but right now for the sake of you and your child, please consider that 3 weeks seems too short a time to know a person well. To know a person for the truth of his/her character comes through time (like years) and/or trials(like this one.)

Please act maturely when it comes to these matters, learn from this experience and live on no matter the outcome. Live on if not for your sake but your baby's sake and welfare. Your child needs you, your child needs you to be more than this.

Wishing you all the best in Life and Love.

[SheilaB]

[color=navy]@SheilaB, in regards as to how your tell your boyfriend about your child, I humbly suggest that you tell him in a simple and direct manner. Please prepare for his worst reaction but also hope and pray for the best.

You can begin by simply preparing and practicing what you're going to say to him. You should anticipate his questions like "Why did you tell me only this now?", "Why did you keep this a secret?".

The best place to do this should be in a private place where you can have a slight advantage just in case good comes to bad.

I suggest that you invite him to your home or to your good friend's place to talk and inform him of your motherhood because in the worst case scenario that he leaves angry-- at least he leaves you in a place of comfort and reassurance, with your family and friends.

Yes, I will do that but as for now I don't have a guts to tell him directly about my situation. I want to be with him and feel his embraces and kisses eventhough for a short period lang.

[shaxyra]

...either way sis mogawas man gihapon ang truth so better tell him nalang.. if he can't accept you then he doesn't love you after all..

[justincharles16]

sheilaB

siguro kung ako yung sasabihan mo nyan!!

maiintindihan ko yan!! kasi i dont look at the past nagkamali ka and hindi ko na kailangan pang ibalik yung hindi maganda mong nakaraan,

tell him dyan mo malalaman kung mahal ka niya kasi kung true love yung nararamdaman nya sayo he will understand

then kung he back out accept the fact that he is nt for you!!!

continue life darating din yung karapatdapat na magmamahal sayo!!!

[SheilaB]

3 weeks is such a short time.

you can still tell him about your daughter....

yes.. I will tell him soon when I'm ready..

[color=navy]^^@SheilaB, your words indicate actions not befitting an adult or a mother. You'll kill yourself if he would leave you? Then what about your child? I thought your child is important to you?!

Please clarify yourself and your intentions. Do not be confused by your emotions. Act now.

Again, I suggest that you make time and effort to meet him and tell him the truth. I don't think its good to start and maintain relationships based on false assumptions.

Again, you can meet him at your place or, if it would be more comfortable, in one of your high school friends' place. You should be the one to tell him lest he hears it from others.

I know you like him and is falling in love with him but right now for the sake of you and your child, please consider that 3 weeks seems too short a time to know a person well. To know a person for the truth of his/her character comes through time (like years) and/or trials(like this one.)

Please act maturely when it comes to these matters, learn from this experience and live on no matter the outcome. Live on if not for your sake but your baby's sake and welfare. Your child needs you, your child needs you to be more than this.

Wishing you all the best in Life and Love.

I realized that I'm just too stupid to kill myself for that guy. Well, I have a baby why should I pay attention to her nalang?. If he will left me, then be it! I should accept the fact that this is life! I can find another one that can accept me for who I am. As for now, my goal is to tell him the whole truth, maybe this week if I have a guts. I will do what you advised diem and thanks for that, I really appreciated it. It feels so nice to be in here. Thanks anyway.

[shaxyra]

^^you're always welcome here!!

paminaw anang diem the best ayo na moadvice! hahaha

[joshbonz]

if he accepts you now.. then he should also be ready to accept your past.. and whatever comes in the future.. mistakes in life are inevitable.. acceptance is the key and moving on with life is the key to have peace of mind to oneself..

[maritess]

just have the gots to tell him nga naa na kay baby... murag test na sad na para sa part sa lalaki kung tinuod jud siya naay gibati nimu...kay if true iyang feelings nimu, maski pag usa ka dosena na imung anak, HE WILL ACCEPT YOU..

[SheilaB]

...either way sis mogawas man gihapon ang truth so better tell him nalang.. if he can't accept you then he doesn't love you after all..

Okey sis.. I will tell him soon...

sheilaB

siguro kung ako yung sasabihan mo nyan!!

maiintindihan ko yan!! kasi i dont look at the past nagkamali ka and hindi ko na kailangan pang ibalik yung hindi maganda mong nakaraan,

tell him dyan mo malalaman kung mahal ka niya kasi kung true love yung nararamdaman nya sayo he will understand

then kung he back out accept the fact that he is nt for you!!!

continue life darating din yung karapatdapat na magmamahal sayo!!!

really? I hope you guys are the same but what about if he can't accept it? and this is the worst scenario, he gets angry and turned down his respect to me and I'm too shy for that . Anyway, I will tell him maybe this week and I will keep you updated if what happens.

[diem]

[color=navy]@SheilaB, God bless you in all your efforts.

We're all rooting for you to have happiness and to have resolution to this matter. Have heart, take courage for I believe you've been through more challenging experiences than this and you've lived through them.