Victim of infidelity please help!

[bzseal]

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Good point ghostie2472. No disrepect TS but it looks like a demolition job... better to take it down TS if you made the wix site as it will only cause bigger trouble for you..

[rydeto]

What's the story TS? Give more details please. We can only give you advise based on the information you provide.

I have a feeling na ikaw ang nag create ng Wix site, there are too much personal information about him, the site is not even promoting any services or products, only photos, contact info, locations, even family members info. If so, better delete that site.

Those information were taken by private investigator i once hired. The site does not impose anything. If there are lawyers here, please do enlighten me as I really need help and advise. Hindi yung basta maka-pag comment lang kasi bago po yung thread. Wag naman po.

Here's the story.. that guy was a former officemate of my wife since 2009 and he knew that my wife is married to me. He's married as well and have 1 kid. Last month, i discovered via email conversation that they have something, and so I drilled down and confronted my wife. She admitted that there was something and the worst and hard part was something happened. The guy knew my wife is married and have 1 kid. The guy is out of the country and I don't have any contact information of the guy aside from email address he was recently deactivated. That was the reason why I hired private investigator. After getting pertinent information, I tried to talk to the guy but he's avoiding it(conversation) and act as if nothings happened. Since that was the case, I spoke to the wife and tell the wife everything even the documentation I was able to gather. My wife even called the wife to say sorry and admit everything. Still the guys is avoiding me and worst denying everything happened.

If this happened to you guys, ano gagawin nyo? wag na tayong pa-ipokrito or ipokrita pa or pa good boy/intelligent epek pa. Be rational lang, niloko ka ng asawa mo at may anak kayo habang ikaw sinu-subsob mo muka mo sa kaka-trabaho parang lang magampanan mo ang responsibilidad mo bilang asawat ama, para maging good provider for them. ANO PO ANG GAGAWIN NYO?

The site does say anything, it does not even have any legal obligation or whatsoever so please enlighten me why someone called it a demolition job and will cause bigger trouble? The guy for some reason is avoiding confrontation with me.

[bzseal]

Hi TS, as far as i know we do have Data Privacy Law here in the Philippines.. we cant just post personal and contact details of another person without their consent (kahit may kasalanan sya sa iyo). You may want to read up on that TS...

Regarding your marriage, I think the best way to go about it would be to try to get counselling for you and your wife if you want to save your marriage.

Also, from what you said the guy is abroad.. if you know when he will be coming home perhaps that would be the best time to confront him..

I hope this helps.

[rydeto]

Hi TS, as far as i know we do have Data Privacy Law here in the Philippines.. we cant just post personal and contact details of another person without their consent (kahit may kasalanan sya sa iyo). You may want to read up on that TS...

Regarding your marriage, I think the best way to go about it would be to try to get counselling for you and your wife if you want to save your marriage.

Also, from what you said the guy is abroad.. if you know when he will be coming home perhaps that would be the best time to confront him..

I hope this helps.

@bzseal - Thanks for your advise. Then, he has all the right in the world to prove it court ako talaga gumawa nun. Or else, I'm ready to revert back. Also, if he's not answering my call now, i don't think he will have the balls confront me. What will you do if this happens to you?

[bzseal]

What do you hope to achieve by confronting the guy TS? Closure? Peace of mind? Assurance na he wont go after your wife again?

[Scott Bernard]

- There is no assurance your wife will bang with him again, or another man might bang her.
- This is not entirely the guy's fault. It takes two to tango... Nothing will happen unless your wife permits him to do it, otherwise there is this thing called "rape".
- It is your decision... to leave your wife or to give her a chance.
- If you decide to leave your wife, you can find other girls out there who might be more beautiful and more loyal than her.

[ghostie2472]

Those information were taken by private investigator i once hired. The site does not impose anything. If there are lawyers here, please do enlighten me as I really need help and advise. Hindi yung basta maka-pag comment lang kasi bago po yung thread. Wag naman po.

Here's the story.. that guy was a former officemate of my wife since 2009 and he knew that my wife is married to me. He's married as well and have 1 kid. Last month, i discovered via email conversation that they have something, and so I drilled down and confronted my wife. She admitted that there was something and the worst and hard part was something happened. The guy knew my wife is married and have 1 kid. The guy is out of the country and I don't have any contact information of the guy aside from email address he was recently deactivated. That was the reason why I hired private investigator. After getting pertinent information, I tried to talk to the guy but he's avoiding it(conversation) and act as if nothings happened. Since that was the case, I spoke to the wife and tell the wife everything even the documentation I was able to gather. My wife even called the wife to say sorry and admit everything. Still the guys is avoiding me and worst denying everything happened.

If this happened to you guys, ano gagawin nyo? wag na tayong pa-ipokrito or ipokrita pa or pa good boy/intelligent epek pa. Be rational lang, niloko ka ng asawa mo at may anak kayo habang ikaw sinu-subsob mo muka mo sa kaka-trabaho parang lang magampanan mo ang responsibilidad mo bilang asawat ama, para maging good provider for them. ANO PO ANG GAGAWIN NYO?

The site does say anything, it does not even have any legal obligation or whatsoever so please enlighten me why someone called it a demolition job and will cause bigger trouble? The guy for some reason is avoiding confrontation with me.

Here's the best advice. Go to a Lawyer, like personally, in the flesh, you, and talk to a Lawyer, like in front of you, the one you can see, and ask for his advice. Remember, we can only give you advice based on what you present to us. It goes the same if you talk to a Lawyer. The more, detailed information you give, the better the advice. Remember TS, you can't just go to a Doctor and ask for a medicine because your 'sick', the doctor would always ask for more details about your 'sickness' so he/she can give the right medicine.

Now, with regard to the site, then it is clear that you had it made, by someone else, of course, but still it'll fire back at you. There may be nothing wrong with the site, I give you that, but do YOU want your photos or IDs posted on the internet without your approval? And how about those family member's personal info? You think they will like it? That their personal information is floating on the internet? Posted by someone for public FYI? I think it's something related to shaming a person, and I think they can sue you for that.

And these statements:

"If there are lawyers here, please do enlighten me as I really need help and advise. Hindi yung basta maka-pag comment lang kasi bago po yung thread. Wag naman po.

If this happened to you guys, ano gagawin nyo? wag na tayong pa-ipokrito or ipokrita pa or pa good boy/intelligent epek pa. Be rational lang, niloko ka ng asawa mo at may anak kayo habang ikaw sinu-subsob mo muka mo sa kaka-trabaho parang lang magampanan mo ang responsibilidad mo bilang asawat ama, para maging good provider for them. ANO PO ANG GAGAWIN NYO?"

You don't really have to be rude bro.

Let me ask you, it all happened na, what do you want to do? Sue both of them? Send both of them to jail? Or forgive her for her mistake and move on? Are you still together with your wife?

[cebu_doki]

find another good woman for you

[ghostie2472]

How old are you TS @rydeto? Mid 20s ka pa siguro noh?

[col.gate]

Hi mga ka istorya,

I just need help. I'm a father of 3 year old boy and i was a victim of infidelity. I've been married for 12 years. Gusto ko lang mag seek ng advise. Many thanks!

Here is the guy who wrecked my family. Paki click na lang po yung site nya and comment and vote na din po on what to do

Check ang post ni @connect mas malala pa ang nang yari sa kanya.