why MEN go ASTRAY or having GF or MISTRESS

[dAmNseL jEnY]

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because most men (if not all) are UBER S T U P I D!!!!!!!!!!

STUPID j***s with their w*** on top of their heads.

[vladmire]

@spoil definitely agree w/ you...

[spoil]

I feel sorry for you damsel, you seem to have been hurt.. Don't put the blame on guys alone, what happens to relationships are the result of both person's efforts or the outcome of things they DID NOT do for each other.
Communication is always the key for improvement, knowing what the partner needs can help keep him/her in the relationship and stop him/her from looking for those needs elsewhere. OPINYON ULI.
I might even agree with you to the point that guys might not exactly know what they're looking for, thus stupid.
But as the partner, it is always the girl's job to help him find out what it is, and provide it if she can, and VICE VERSA.

[joshbonz]

deep rooted hatred can only be steamed up by past frustrations on previous relationships that have gone sour... or those downward anger can be brought up...especially if you came from a broken family when your dad has a mistress (w/c eventually led to family separation and as such)

I would go w/ such not to generalized the issue that ALL MEN are plainly polygamous..like i've said previously.. it just depends on your present disposition in life and how contented you are w. your present partner and also shelving more on uplifting your family (if you have one) or solidifying your relationship w/ your gf...

the more busy and prioritize you have w/ your goals in life... the more less you are tempted for this 'short stops or detours'.. - why i consider them as short stops or detours?.. because these mistress are just what are tagalog friends would say... 'panandaliang aliw'

[MAURICE]

Share lang po....met this college girl last year at an event.didn't really got her name but a friend of mine had his eye on her that night, the bad thing was this other acquaintance of ours also was eyeing her. the following day I checked my friendster and she surprisingly viewed my profile. so I added her and asked for her no. since she was into digital media and she was pretty good at it plus I needed some help from her. we sent messages and met a couple of times with a group of friends but that was it.
A few months ago I met her again. I had to give her something unimportant. what was supposed to be just a casual meeting at 7pm with a couple of cold beers ended with both of us having no clothes at a seedy motel. it was almost 6am when I dropped her at her place. her family really freaked-out.
Forgot to tell you. I long have met my partner in life. we have been together for the some years now. We have long been married and we have a cute and intelligent son.
But what occurred that night was...something she herself described as surreal. even I had not deemed of such an outcome. (ok!ok! maybe somewhere in the back of my dirty mind)
but really all i wanted from her was to be a friend...i admired alot of her peculiarity.
I thought we would never met again but we did. we had an affair... i guess that's what we can call it. but we never thought about it as one. both of us were oblivious to what was happening in the real world. we had our own altered version of reality. we wanted to be more than lovers, we were more than just kissers, we both held each others hands and we made ourselves make-believers. we had alot of plans.lol.or so we did.
And like every rollercoaster ride without the seatbelts, it had to end. she reached the light at the end of the tunnel first. i was devastated really. she growed on me...every little piece of her. Blame it on Catcher on The Rye and everything in-between...lol.The little devil in me emerged again. I contacted every piece of college easy-ass that i know and I played again with fire but this time there was no cuddling, no references to your favorite line from a song, no fictional characters were mentioned.It was purely animalistic.And sadly I didn't enjoy it.
Yes, i know karma will reach me someday but i'm covering my tracks for now.
I can resist temptation i've been in such a situation a couple of times but i never yielded maybe because the trigger itself wasn't that potent or maybe i've fallen for her strangeness.

a few weeks back i couldn't listen to PORTISHEAD'S ROADS it was really too much for me.

[vern]

@maurice ... Good story ... reads like a soap opera plot.

[Kishin888]

gi pul-an sa ilahang partner

[Serene]

I guess, i might have insulted the entire male race when i replied to this post. I didn't mean to make anyone mad but im not going to retract anything because that's how i feel. And i always believe in being true to myself. We are different from each other and so it follows that we have different ways of viewing things. The key here is respect and acceptance.

I apologized to all (except for one...you know who you are) who are offended by what i said. Im glad that i was able to express myself and not get judged. To the one who reacted quite violently (suggesting ways like jumping off the cliff and smacking my head, etc), you should be ashamed of yourself. I was speaking generally..while you are attacking me personally. Can't you state your views without being violent? I wonder how you are as a person...you must have been disenchanted by life. Now, i am usually a reasonable person but i will not be spoken to like this. Do this again and i might have to report you. Then, we will see if Istorya is really fair. And fyi, i might be separated with my husband but "cheating" was never our issue. This is to those who are tempted to "psychoanalyze" me.

About the topic...i still believe that there is no reason to cheat. If you are not satisfied with your partner, then you have the option to dump them. Have mercy. Don't string them along. They deserve to be happy too. And if you let go, they might find love again. Regarding the children, i believe that it's not healthy for them to be in a household full of unhappiness. They might not know what is wrong but they can feel the difference. Be MAN enough (mature) to end a bad relationship. Don't be selfish. You are not special. God didn't decree for you to have both women in your life. Karma works in mysterious ways. This is what i mean that men are selfish and immature. They always have a choice and sadly, most will take the cowards way out.

[vern]

Baby, first of all my first post wasn't even directed at you. Did I say ... Serene ... pls smack yourself? Did I say ... Serene, please jump off a cliff? ... yet you seem to respond to my first post like I was talking to you.

This post however is directed straight at you. Serene, my dear, the world doesn't revolve around you although to you, it may seem that way. Serene, yes you baby, you have personal issues with men. I feel pity for you ... but I have no interest in hearing about your broken relationships. You've seen too many soap operas. Serene, honey dear, if you really believe that people have different ways of viewing things and that we are entitled to them, don't lecture. You are no judge of what is right and wrong ... and that wasn't even the point of the topic starter. Last but not least, Serene, threats don't work ... feel free to report me. That feeling you have of abuse done unto you by me ... that is just the soap opera in you.

[Mrpogi]

Why only men? tsk, tsk, tsk... inappropriately titled thread. Why not we-men? Women too, I mean. Yes, cheating is a very big deal be it in marriage, friendship, business, casual agreements, etc. But to be specific, in relationships/marriage... First of all, it is not gender-sensitive. True that it used to be a man's crowning glory to have guilty pleasures, or to have another one and another one, but that was back when society (our society in the philippines) was patriarchal. Today, women do what men do as long as it does not need a male's genital organ to perform such tasks. To ultimately cheat, one just needs his or her own whatever it is. So to be politically correct about this matter, Why do men and women (or people in general) cheat? Temptations, temptations and temptations... oh how convenient! But to come to terms with whether people just happen to be tempted or are actively out looking for these temptations, that remains a matter of honesty. Are people essentially weaker than temptations? or are we premeditating to give in and "faithfully" submit to it even long before we find ourselves entangled in it then make it look like there wasn't much of a choice, or rather the lack prudence or good judgment and considering the very slim chance that the same "opportunity" will come by again in the same lifetime. It is for a me both a strength and a weakness to give in to such. It is strength of the body to have overcome one's weakening judgment... weakened by the pleasures of the body that consequently create a distorted version of reality and coming up with all the lame excuses and the hopes of keeping it a one-time and never-again incident that will be forever kept secret. But whatever scientific occurrence is taking place within the psyche of a cheating person, it is never justified, or go ahead tell everyone you were raped or blackmailed, you probably get away with it.

Bottom line is: Men (and Women) are not essentially cheaters though it happens to some of us. But everyone has some shortcomings to deal with at some point in life. As one who may have been cheated on, we can either forgive and carry on, or stay angry for the rest of our lives. Tough choice any way you look at it.