CHEATING on your partner: Pwede bang majustify?

[madmike]

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cheating is cheating, but you wont be called a cheater if you dont get caught.

[Passport]

kung nahigugma gyud mong duha sa usag usa... there is never a justification for cheating..

[annerhexian]

Hi guys. My name is Jude. 28, living with my future wife and next year, we plan to marry.


However, even before ko misulod sa serious relationship, naa koy bisyo nga until now, dili jud nako mabiyaan. Although as compared a few years ago, mejo na-lessen na siya and I only do it once in a while. Ang bisyo, is picking up girls for s#x. I also had flings with two of my ex-officemates, but both are short lived.


Even nagpuyo na mi sa akong partner, I am very confident that we have a healthy relationship (including the s#xual aspects). The only reason why I hook up with girls/prostitutes, is to feel the excitement and satisfy the "sawa" factor. I am just being honest guys, but you should agree with me on this. No matter how loyal you are to your partner, you will always have that "demon" at the back your head, urging you to "taste" another delicacy, if you know what I mean.

Like I mentioned above, I only do this once in a while. Pinakamadalas, is every 2-3 months; and there was one point, miabot ug halos 1 year hiatus. And most importantly, I believe I am fulfilling my main responsibilities to my partner as well as to my family. I am not defending and trying to insist that what I am doing is right (which obviously is incorrect); gusto lang ko mangayo sa inyo ideas guys; nga what if imo nabuhat imong main responsibilities (e.g. if pamilyado ka, nakasupport ka sa imo anak education, needs/wants of your wife and family, provide entertainment/recreation like family vacation, etc), will doing such (being able to satisfy the urge) be somewhat acceptable?

Migo just be safe and ayaw idamay imo partner sa AIDS. If dli na ma pogngan seek help or else, pa checkup ha kau hala oi..kalooy sa imo partner na walay gbuhat nmo na daotan..
Undangi nana pls.

[pating]

3 words, ITS A TRAP!

[P-Chan]

Hi guys. My name is Jude. 28, living with my future wife and next year, we plan to marry.


However, even before ko misulod sa serious relationship, naa koy bisyo nga until now, dili jud nako mabiyaan. Although as compared a few years ago, mejo na-lessen na siya and I only do it once in a while. Ang bisyo, is picking up girls for s#x. I also had flings with two of my ex-officemates, but both are short lived.


Even nagpuyo na mi sa akong partner, I am very confident that we have a healthy relationship (including the s#xual aspects). The only reason why I hook up with girls/prostitutes, is to feel the excitement and satisfy the "sawa" factor. I am just being honest guys, but you should agree with me on this. No matter how loyal you are to your partner, you will always have that "demon" at the back your head, urging you to "taste" another delicacy, if you know what I mean.

Like I mentioned above, I only do this once in a while. Pinakamadalas, is every 2-3 months; and there was one point, miabot ug halos 1 year hiatus. And most importantly, I believe I am fulfilling my main responsibilities to my partner as well as to my family. I am not defending and trying to insist that what I am doing is right (which obviously is incorrect); gusto lang ko mangayo sa inyo ideas guys; nga what if imo nabuhat imong main responsibilities (e.g. if pamilyado ka, nakasupport ka sa imo anak education, needs/wants of your wife and family, provide entertainment/recreation like family vacation, etc), will doing such (being able to satisfy the urge) be somewhat acceptable?

para nako if dili ka emotionally attached it's okay... but based sa atong culture it is.. pero sa.on di gud ma justify ang cheating.. ako suggestion nimo TS....... It's a secret you have to carry until the end..

[care_bear]

Ingon ni TS nga dili sya maka undang kto pang 2013, I wonder kng iya na gi undangan or dili ba kha iya fiancee ang niundang niya?

Nag basa kos thread pages 1-7 (ka dghan makat-unan pero haskang taasa basahun hangtud 20..hehe) ug saludo jud ko mga maayo kaayo m0-tambag nga istoryans oie. Ako e-special mention sila @keen @silent-kill @manoyyani @jeff_bonz59 @kowalczyk @silentsky_042 @anne2x @jdane @Remedy99

Kibaw mo ang best reason why it's great to be an istoryan? IT'S BECAUSE ISTORYANS (mostly) JUDGE U OBJECTIVELY. Reading the replies and posts of open-minded people makes u a better reader and it reminds you that in this judgmental society u can also be one of those few that has deeper analysis of one's dilemma. It's so good to be an istoryan. Not just that, non-istoryans who read here by random browsing will also get a better undertsanding of things in life. Indeed, in the real world there's no such things as fairy tale and knight in shining armor. Walay perfect man dri sa kalibutan but people will just learn how to love those imperfections in that imperfect being.

TS kutob rko sa page 7. How r u now? Na minyo namo sa girl? Does she know na about u and those prostis? Are u still into that thing? It's been two years already. I hope convinced nka kng justifiable paba or never jud. Goodluck!

[keen]

thanks, sis @care_bear. serious lagi kaayo akong post some two years ago hahaha. bitaw, i wonder what happened na to TS.

to be honest, it's far easier to look at things differently and perceive them in several ways when you're not the one caught up in it. indeed, since this is an imperfect plane, it's what you do with what you have that matters and if you're doing it after you've considered all factors involved.

[dulasnom]

cheating can never be justified.

let's try to turn the table.
imagine if it is your partner who cheated.
would you accept any justification?

[care_bear]

thanks, sis @care_bear. serious lagi kaayo akong post some two years ago hahaha. bitaw, i wonder what happened na to TS.

to be honest, it's far easier to look at things differently and perceive them in several ways when you're not the one caught up in it. indeed, since this is an imperfect plane, it's what you do with what you have that matters and if you're doing it after you've considered all factors involved.

Yes sis..naa jud ni tatak nga imo gisulti... ingn ka nga ka u dnt have to be caught up in the situation to understand stuffs. Basta something like that. Agree kaau ko sis. Dili needed ma experience nimo pra makasabot kas sitwasyun. Pero kng ma experience nimo cguro MAS makasabot ka. I liked how u actually presented your side. It was stated neutrally. It may seemed u side with the TS but the details were properly told and made the readers think neutrally too.

[BanshEe]

Im pretty sure our answers doesnt matter to ts. He's still gon do it if he feels to. He knows whats he's doin but he feeds the bad wolf cause it feels good.

I might relate a bit, cause ive caught bf plenty of times with similar act. Ive forgiven plenty of times too and just kept faith that he would soon consider me & how i feel.. I just dunno if your gf would react the same as i ts. Consider urself lucky ths time. But i pray you'd change..