Secret Marriage??

[NudgeDELTA]

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I know naay existing thread nga ingun ani ug title but my case is different here and I need some advice.

Naa koy anak with this girl but wala pa jd mi nag lain sa among parents, 4 years old na ang bata ug akong gi supportaan since birth, Now I'm currently saving para maka lain na jd ming duha, The problem here is I want to marry the girl but I don't want to meet the expectations of her parents for a wedding. I just want to keep it simple yet romantic. So possible ba nga magpa kasal mi sa Church(not civil) without our parents knowing? Akong plano unta to is a wedding right after a proposal or a day after I propose or something close to that with just some close friends as witnesses or whatsoever. BTW I'm I'm 24 and She's 25.

According to the Family Code, you can marry her next year.

Art. 15. Any contracting party between the age of twenty-one and twenty-five shall be obliged to ask their parents or guardian for advice upon the intended marriage. If they do not obtain such advice, or if it be unfavorable, the marriage license shall not be issued till after three months following the completion of the publication of the application therefor. A sworn statement by the contracting parties to the effect that such advice has been sought, together with the written advice given, if any, shall be attached to the application for marriage license. Should the parents or guardian refuse to give any advice, this fact shall be stated in the sworn statement. (62a)

Although I'd advise you not to get married because of the following reasons:

1. You're marrying for the wrong reasons

In your previous posts you've mentioned your in-law's blabbering as the core reason. The culture that needs to change with us Filipinos and parents in general is exemplified in the saying, "Marry a Filipina and you marry her family too." Filipino parents just don't know when to let go of their children. More than often, they see them as prized possessions and as extensions of their ambitions in life. Moreover, sending them to school and rearing are concepts viewed as a "debt" more than a responsibility.

Sever your ties from your in-laws. If they can't respect you as their daughter's partner or grandchild's father, then let them respect you as a human being. There are a lot of women who have been left because of pregnancy. They should acknowledge and be thankful that you stayed despite the fact.

2. Financial Security

Don't sacrifice financial security in favor of a wedding. You might be wed and the next day after you're broke. You're better off working on your independence from the in-laws and saving for your child.

3. Divorce is nonexistent and annulment is expensive

Based on your age I'd say you still have a long way to go to really get to know each other. Build your relationship first and really know if you're compatible to be with each other.

[obelisk]

I know na ganahan ka secret lng. Pero mas nindot if atubangon nimo sila. Lahi dyod ang feeling if mag wedding mo na naa ang isig pamilya nnyo. Malain sad nuon ang parents ninyo ug samot if mahibaw.an nila na nagpakasal mo na wala sila. Mas masakitan tingali.

[longix]

kung dili pa mature inyong hunahuna ayaw intawn pakasal...with the way i understand your situation...binata ra gyud ang magsecret wedding kunohay nga naa nay anak...

Ang tanang ginikanan malipay sa adlaw sa kasal sa ilang anak regardless og pila ang gasto...dili kinahanglan ikauwaw nga mahibaw-an sa ubang tawo or mga silingan nga nakasal na mo...importante nalipay mo sa inyong pagpakasal...kung dili ka gusto tigbason ka anang imong in-law, pananghid intawn mo og tarong...ayaw pagbinata

ikaw daw ginikanan beh..mokalit kaminyo imong anak nga wala ka pahibaw-a, kadakong way batasan!

[lkjhgfdsa]

According to the Family Code, you can marry her next year.

Art. 15. Any contracting party between the age of twenty-one and twenty-five shall be obliged to ask their parents or guardian for advice upon the intended marriage. If they do not obtain such advice, or if it be unfavorable, the marriage license shall not be issued till after three months following the completion of the publication of the application therefor. A sworn statement by the contracting parties to the effect that such advice has been sought, together with the written advice given, if any, shall be attached to the application for marriage license. Should the parents or guardian refuse to give any advice, this fact shall be stated in the sworn statement. (62a)

Although I'd advise you not to get married because of the following reasons:

1. You're marrying for the wrong reasons

In your previous posts you've mentioned your in-law's blabbering as the core reason. The culture that needs to change with us Filipinos and parents in general is exemplified in the saying, "Marry a Filipina and you marry her family too." Filipino parents just don't know when to let go of their children. More than often, they see them as prized possessions and as extensions of their ambitions in life. Moreover, sending them to school and rearing are concepts viewed as a "debt" more than a responsibility.

Sever your ties from your in-laws. If they can't respect you as their daughter's partner or grandchild's father, then let them respect you as a human being. There are a lot of women who have been left because of pregnancy. They should acknowledge and be thankful that you stayed despite the fact.

2. Financial Security

Don't sacrifice financial security in favor of a wedding. You might be wed and the next day after you're broke. You're better off working on your independence from the in-laws and saving for your child.

3. Divorce is nonexistent and annulment is expensive

Based on your age I'd say you still have a long way to go to really get to know each other. Build your relationship first and really know if you're compatible to be with each other.

She will turn 26 this year and I will turn 25 too. So possible ba or do I need advice from my parents? If I got an advice from my parents possible ba jd nga makasal mi without her parents knowing? how bout sa priest dli kaha masangit?

And sa uban nga ni comment you're all appreciated. I know maka ingun mo nga mabaw ra kaau, but as I said there are a lot of complicated reasons, what I posted was just some part of the story. I just really want to do this and I need more inputs about it.

[H.Wolowitz]

She will turn 26 this year and I will turn 25 too. So possible ba or do I need advice from my parents? If I got an advice from my parents possible ba jd nga makasal mi without her parents knowing? how bout sa priest dli kaha masangit?

And sa uban nga ni comment you're all appreciated. I know maka ingun mo nga mabaw ra kaau, but as I said there are a lot of complicated reasons, what I posted was just some part of the story. I just really want to do this and I need more inputs about it.

posible kayu boss

inyoha nang kasal, and based sa imu story kay kamu man jd gasto tanan, so walay maka-buot nimu pila imo i-invite as long as apila sad intawn na ang direct families ninyu

nganu mag-secret wedding man ka kung imu problema kay ang expenses ra? pwede ra man na nimu ma-adjust according to ur budget hehe

[jntio]

murag dina kailangan kay naa naman mo trophy

[brilumz]

estoryaha ug maau ang parents sa babae bro musugot ra lage na sila...if dili jud..aw tabana imong pangasaw-onon..wa na silay mabuhat ana