How do you handle Negative and sarcastic people?

[rosygemini]

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Hi istoryans! I dont know where to post my thread but since the story i will share to you is also about me, a person who wants nothing but to correct my mismanagement to my money and whatever experience that I should face to know more in the business industry.

Istoryans been posting my stories pod since the day I joined this forum. I met an old friend yesterday. She was with her future husband whom I know pod. Her fiance is a friend of my ex. So I can say that we really quite know each other but not anymore since my ex and I broke up 3 years ago.
I was with my friend pod. Niduol ko nila just to say hi but since they offer the chair nilingkod nlng pod ko ky naa mi s usa kafastfood bale ng 1 table nlng mi.

Si old girl-friend ky nistart na intriga nako bout my life, work and love life. nistorya ra pod ko paspas nga I dont have work na (I was a medrep before) since my mom doesnt liked it man pod but im doing business and sideline I dont have plans to go back to work yet since my priority now is to pass the pharmacy licensure exam.

I was a bit surprised when she directly throw me some sarcastic joke.
"Alangan di jud ka mapasar ky sige ra man pod kag inarte"
katawa lang ko ky for me twas just a joke. Then iya napod ko gipangutana.
Her: "Curious ko sa imo business unsa klase". ako ra pod sya gitubag nga
Me: "Monkey business"
but she was a bit too pushy nga to tell her my business.
I just told her nga "I invested some of my money sa Pilmico since my parents is also a distributor sa samar then ginagmay nga business from manila to samar" ..
Tando ra sya.

The second attempt was when she had this very negative comment about people who's doing business at a very young age rather than working.
her: "Kahibalo ka para jud nako mas nindot jud na magwork ka compare anang maglingkod ra ka igo raka magdawat sa imong ginikanan. Para nako if someone is working in a big company that person is doing good and living in a very productive way. Dili wasted ang life sa taw in that way"
...(I was about to blown up when her bf mura nakafeel nga mura taklisa na sya)
bf: Ly, lahi lahi man mo pananaw sa kinabuhi. What if iyaha ky sa business sya mosuccess.
me: btaw Ly, not to mention the 3 banks nga naopen nako although tanan sila beyond maintaining balance lang. dili that dako but im happy.

3rd attempt.
her: U know what amiga man jud ta nuh! but I think mas di ta sayang imong life kung nagdayon mo sa imong x. Awa mi ron magpakasal najud mi.

After the third attempt. Thats it naka ana ko. I have to speak up na.
Me: Mao ba. Anyways Ly, where do u work gani?
Her: sa tacloban sa hotel.
Me: ahh.. unsa imo work didto?
Her: Front desk staff.
Me: Mao ba. Di ba lisod mo work didto? u know gamay sweldo unya ang kaprecho not to mention the branded clothes u really dying to save just to buy those kind of luxuries..

I was really pissed off yesterday. Maybe guys u might wonder nganu wa ko kaayo nidefend og maayo sa ako life considering the fact that she was actually looking at me as if I was just something so little compare to what she has. Im libog pod. I hate myself everytime di ko kaayo katingog sa mga ingon aning klase nga mga taw. Cos I was trying to figure out if I was really talking to an old friend which surprised me a lot like in my hilarious way nga I cant believe theres such person who could be such an asshole and such a bitch right infront of me, with my friend who they dont know and with her bf.

But in all fairness to me. If theres one thing I could be proud of myself is, I started doing ginagmay business when I was 6 or 7 yrs old and whatever I have learned I always try to apply it in my real life.
Like
PATIENCE. be patient even at the edge of ur anger.
LISTEN AND OBSERVE. cos they might say something that could help you, it also lessen the mistakes and bad decision you could do.
FORGIVE forgive them not because you pity them but you care for yourself enough not to waste your time thinking about them. Its also one way of not killing urself thinking having a less sleep. of how to get back on them.
MOVEON. theres a lot more in life than dwell on things you cant change anymore.

[cloudduster]

How do you handle sarcastic people? I don't. I stay at least a mile from them. But kung imong boss ang sarcastic, aw luom nalang, while nangita og lain work

[rosygemini]

How do you handle sarcastic people? I don't. I stay at least a mile from them. But kung imong boss ang sarcastic, aw luom nalang, while nangita og lain work

Thanks bai. Nagning2 lng ko bai why theres such people nga against jud s business. I think thats d part nga nahurt jud ko. I was about to lecture her about young people who's doingn business at an early age. But dah! She might cant handle her brain.

[sammedriano]

My stance on this matter:

1. How do I handle sarcastic people? I don't either. I detest them and keep my headlight off their pathway. I don't deal with these type of people, instead I mingle with people who think like me.

2. "Kahibalo ka para jud nako mas nindot jud na magwork ka compare anang maglingkod ra ka igo raka magdawat sa imong ginikanan. Para nako if someone is working in a big company that person is doing good and living in a very productive way. Dili wasted ang life sa taw in that way"

- is theoretically correct in a sense that this "someone" is working and is showing independent attitude, which is great. Nonetheless, you're not just asking alms from your parents, instead you invest in them. This woman you just spoke to, doesn't even understand the value and importance of business. All she ever know is how to get dressed for work and undress at night to sleep.

She's gonna work til the last of her breath, while you may soon succeed and enjoy a happy retirement. Stop thinking about her.

[cloudduster]

Thanks bai. Nagning2 lng ko bai why theres such people nga against jud s business. I think thats d part nga nahurt jud ko. I was about to lecture her about young people who's doingn business at an early age. But dah! She might cant handle her brain.

Well, experience tells me nga you should NEVER lecture a narrow minded person. It's like banging your head on the wall, it's not going to work. Leave it as it is. Compared sa U.S. nga ilang mindset is geared towards business creation, dinhi sa Pinas, it's like we're being educated to find a good job after graduation, so, in that sense, you can't blame her.

Matud pa lage nila, ang insik mo skuyla para mag himo og business while ang pinoy mo skuyla para adto trabaho sa insik (no pun intended)

[jackdi]

How do you handle Negative and sarcastic people?

You probably were good friends sometime ago. Kay kung dili pa, wala unta ka niduol, right?
Wala man ko kahibaw sa inyong history, so i wouldn't be able to comment based on your story.
Be it a history of love triangle, wa kabayad sa utang, or wa nituman sa old promise, or etc... naa jud siguro mo'y history.

Pero if based lang sa question : How do you handle Negative and sarcastic people? , here's my say:
1) Deadma ra! Why bother...
2) If im in the mood, i fight sarcasm with an innocent sarcasm.
3) Kung gikan sa Boss ang sarcasm, i just say 'yes' or 'ok' and smile. Di ba mawad-an na siya'g gana nga ma-sarcastic nimo.

Pero ang pinakamaayo, being "cool-headed" is the best approach.

[brownie]

mao ni ang rason that i only have a handful of friends left why?

1st. As a businessman also, nobody can relate with that I do.

2nd. I don't talk shit such as this. The topic must always be politics, economics, history, business, sports, a slice of life, anything but gossip and stupid discussions like what you have mentioned.

3rd. I am not really open even to the closest I have.

4th. I only speak to my wife most the time not with others unless it is business related.

in short, pili-on ra nako ako tagdon.

[rosygemini]

You probably were good friends sometime ago. Kay kung dili pa, wala unta ka niduol, right?
Wala man ko kahibaw sa inyong history, so i wouldn't be able to comment based on your story.
Be it a history of love triangle, wa kabayad sa utang, or wa nituman sa old promise, or etc... naa jud siguro mo'y history.

Pero if based lang sa question : How do you handle Negative and sarcastic people? , here's my say:
1) Deadma ra! Why bother...
2) If im in the mood, i fight sarcasm with an innocent sarcasm.
3) Kung gikan sa Boss ang sarcasm, i just say 'yes' or 'ok' and smile. Di ba mawad-an na siya'g gana nga ma-sarcastic nimo.

Pero ang pinakamaayo, being "cool-headed" is the best approach.

U know what bro that i really dont understand and it feels like there's a twisted story behind. Cos the last time i know is sya ang nakasala nako. Good thing i really dont hold grudges in my life that i still manage nga tagdon sya since thats the first time i saw her for 3yrs after what she did. But anyways im fine namn pod.
I asked my very close friend how to fight sarcasm with an innocent sarcasm. Haha cos i usually dont talk alot when i find the person disrespecting kaayo.

[rosygemini]

mao ni ang rason that i only have a handful of friends left why?

1st. As a businessman also, nobody can relate with that I do.

2nd. I don't talk shit such as this. The topic must always be politics, economics, history, business, sports, a slice of life, anything but gossip and stupid discussions like what you have mentioned.

3rd. I am not really open even to the closest I have.

4th. I only speak to my wife most the time not with others unless it is business related.

in short, pili-on ra nako ako tagdon.

Boss thanks so much s reply. I let my closest friend read your reply. She told me nga u reminds her of her very successful boss. 👏👍 i will always remember that.
I believe im also a person who dont enjoy late party topics. I enjoy talking politics and economics. Im 24yo but mostly my closest friends age 30's and up. And i find them more interesting than people with my same age. Maybe i talk so much sometimes thats why maka bump in ko sarcastic and negative people like my old friend.
Im not bitter nor judgmental but im just saying what kind if person i saw after 3 yrs.
but anyways thanks for the reply. Helped me alot.

[diablo85]

pasagdahi to...gamitan unta to nimo sa imong power of the mind...
LOSER man to...WINNERS man Ta...hehehehehe...
keep it up what your doin!
god bless...