How to attract the right one

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HOW TO ATTRACT THE RIGHT ONE
by Adrian Ding

Disclaimer:
This is not my write-up or article. I just felt the need to share this to other people, and it might be big help to most of us, catching breath for a good relationship, good decisions and status.

Singles, are you listening?
A couple of realizations I've discovered in the course of transitioning from single-hood to getting married... hopefully it can help you:

1. Be a friend
Don't believe in the cliche "collect and select." It makes you a player or a social butterfly that will not land on the right flower. Instead, be friendly by making more friends. "Be interested, not interesting," as a famous author once said. You cannot expect to attract the right person if you're too kept, tied up, stressed-out workaholic, detached and walled up. Gentlemen, Miss Philippines will never come knocking on your door! Learn to make friends (go out in groups in safe environments...bars not included), because friendship creates a strong foundation for a solid relationship. This leads to number 2...

2. Be authentic
Don't be best-foot-forward by immediately showering a lady with flowers and chocolates. It's flattering for a girl to receive gifts (and why not?) but if she doesn't like you, she'll give the flowers away and eat the chocolate anyway. Besides, when women receive this stuff they become guarded and have to look 'perfect' all the time, when in reality, they can't. Ladies, refrain from pretending to be too strong and unreachable (especially if you had a bad experience before, don't depart from the real you). Be real, never pretend to be someone you're not and don't be afraid to show a little drop of vulnerability. Authenticity is the first step towards sincerity and when one is real, people appreciate you more. Of course you cannot just declare "This is me! Take me for what I am!" By being real, I mean being someone unpretentious, genuine yet humble. If ladies can spot a fake bag, what more for fake men? And guys also know the difference between reality and drama. Go figure!

3. Be responsible
With this I mean, take hold of your life. Don't behave like a boy or a girl anymore (this is when you're seriously thinking of settling down). There's a huge difference between being "childish" and "child-like." Responsibility is the ability to respond --- to family when they need you the most, to pressures at work (or a tyrannical boss), even to the smallest of things --- your laundry, your finances (and bills), your time management and all. You can't expect to welcome another person in your life until you're responsible for your own. It only complicates. Also, take care of your appearance! Your fashion choices and grooming counts. We still live in a world where we are judged by the cover. Gentlemen, dress up, get a haircut, shave! And ladies, there is no need for 'too much' make-up! Even in the gym or while running! Work on YOU without overdoing it... (vanity repels authenticity).

4. Be stable
If you're a guy, don't EVEN DARE to get into a relationship unless you're financially stable. How you handle your finances, is an indication of your potential to handle relationships. If you cannot take care of something simple, what more for something complicated (i.e. a woman?). If you can't pay your bills, let alone prepare yourself to support a family, then you have no business dating a lady and making her Mrs. Right. Ladies, be emotionally stable. You cannot expect meeting the "one" if you carry baggages with you and the temptation of meeting someone new should never be considered a "rebound." It will only defraud two people of something that can be beautiful. Fix yourself externally and internally.

5. Be contented
Just because you don't have a partner right now, doesn't mean you're unattractive. It only means you're on preparation stage. Like a dish that takes time to cook before it is enjoyed, the same thing is needed when you're looking for something serious. All the ingredients have to be in place and the cooking time is key. What is contentment? It's about being joyful with what you have and who you are. Where do you get this? Matter-of-factly, from God Himself. Why? Because He made you. He knows everything there is to know about you. He knows every bit of struggle, challenge and insecurity you have (whether its a pimple or you don't have a car). You can choose to focus on your pitfalls, or you can choose to be in love with God. It can happen because the truth is He loves you more than you love Him, which makes Him a great Lover! If something was formed and fashioned by Him in your mother's womb, how dare we say that we are unloved and uncared for? When you understand this, you have security, then you have contentment, then you have joy, then stability, then authenticity and eventually, you'll be ready to love and offer your whole heart to someone 'worthy.'

How do you attract the right one? By making God the "One," first and when you do, everything else will follow. I cannot promise you however that after reading this article you will meet a lifetime partner. But I can promise you that God is worth being a lifetime Lover. His infinite worth is matchless, His beauty is incomparable and His love for you is the greatest companion you will ever find in this world. Surely, His mercy and His goodness escort you all the days of your life.
I know, I know... you understand this and you still have that longing. But please be patient. Don't just jump into a relationship out of desperation (because of your biological clock and social pressure). Wrong love, right time is wrong. Wrong time, right love is still wrong. You want the right love, at the right time. Offer your secret prayer to the Lord, and let Him be the one to fix your heart, ordain your steps and lead you. I did, and it was worth it...

Have a great day!

[kageron]

Be Gentleman

example: Safe ka karon? lol

[AMD_infinium05]

Be Gentleman

example: Safe ka karon? lol

thanks for that nice/encouraging comment.

[blakrabit]

by also becoming the right one for that person.

[ThePerfectMatch]

Be yourself. Push it sometimes.

[SidlakMonster]

Go out. ayaw sigeg puyo sa inyu. dili ka makakita sa imung true love kung di ka mulaag. sige lang ka'g atubang kompyuter post sa istorya.net

[brackitz]

+ be humble..

[re_con]

How do you attract the right one? By making God the "One," first and when you do, everything else will follow.
God is worth being a lifetime Lover. His infinite worth is matchless, His beauty is incomparable and His love for you is the greatest companion you will ever find in this world. Surely, His mercy and His goodness escort you all the days of your life.
I know, I know... you understand this and you still have that longing. But please be patient. Don't just jump into a relationship out of desperation (because of your biological clock and social pressure). Wrong love, right time is wrong. Wrong time, right love is still wrong. You want the right love, at the right time. Offer your secret prayer to the Lord, and let Him be the one to fix your heart, ordain your steps and lead you. I did, and it was worth it...

A-G-R-E-E much.....

[Passport]

How do you attract the right one? By making God the "One," first and when you do, everything else will follow.
God is worth being a lifetime Lover. His infinite worth is matchless, His beauty is incomparable and His love for you is the greatest companion you will ever find in this world. Surely, His mercy and His goodness escort you all the days of your life.
I know, I know... you understand this and you still have that longing. But please be patient. Don't just jump into a relationship out of desperation (because of your biological clock and social pressure). Wrong love, right time is wrong. Wrong time, right love is still wrong. You want the right love, at the right time. Offer your secret prayer to the Lord, and let Him be the one to fix your heart, ordain your steps and lead you. I did, and it was worth it...

A-G-R-E-E much.....

at first glance, the impression was to agree with this, until the second paragraph..

love, if true, is always right.

there is no wrong love..

otherwise, that is not love

well.. if it is true, i reiterate that point.

and a lifetime is not a guarantee there will find us a true love..

time has nothing to do with real love.
love might be as cool in the early morning dew
or sizzling with the noontime haze
perhaps cast in shadows of twilight
maybe drenched in the black ink of midnight
love will still be love, and love it will be

oh there might be seasons if you may
love can shiver in the cold of winter
love can melt in the burning summer
may fall with the leaves in autumn
but love being it is, blooms in spring

and when love finds you both
smile, be glad and grateful
for everyday the soul blooms
with all the colors of love

[yvonne6]

be realistic and accept the fact that we dont always get what we want.