I fell in love

[MollyMillions]

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T.S.

@affascinare16

Have you heard of Polyamory? I encourage you to check this out when you have time.

Polyamory - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

It is not cheating when everyone involved knows and consents to it. Prolly good to talk to all involved.

[Wynna]

^^ there's no way for a Polyamory relationship to work.. been there done that, lisod kaayo. lisod knowing na your loved ones love someone else, pero mas lisod if you're the one who's in the middle. The time, the attention and everything lisod jud i balance. The pressure is on you, on how to make up with all the time na wala nimo nahatag sa usa because you were with the other person. No person can occupy 2 spaces at the same time nor can serve to masters at the same time. Aside from that , dili jud malikayan ang selos, unless if the situation's all just for LUST..

OnT: TS, I think we're on the same boat, so let me help enlighten you a bit about your doubts. Consider me as the girl you're talking about in this thread (just for example) .. Same exact situation, I have a family,a baby, and a partner... and suitors/stalkers/admirers (perhaps most of them are girls/ feminine types to be exact, for they are just what's on my list of preferences) Anyway, we've been together for 5 yrs with my BF, I never had past relationships before him, considering that I wasn't really much into commitment. While on our 2nd year, I met a girl she became my GF, our rel lasted for a year and 4. While on the other hand , me and my BF had been struggling to work out ours since it has been so rocky, even before I met the girl. And became even more complicated while I was in a rel with her. It all started out as a Polyamory relationship but in the long run, it became a very complicated one. The first incident, I believe was an experiment.. daghan pag nisunod actually... But I really learned my lesson well, "Be Loyal, Stay Loyal". but sometimes, i just can't help but give motives, especially if I also like the person pero dinha ra ko taman. Indeed some words are just better left unsaid and all I could say is " kabalo baya ka sa akong situation" pero mind you, I almost gave up my family for my 2nd one, pero may nalang , I think I just don't deserve to have her in the first place...

If she really loves you, she'll let go of what she have. But If you really love her, don't allow her to...

Love will find a way, in time... remember that " the only constant thing in life is change" ...

[MollyMillions]

It depends on the consenting parties involved.

The link gave all the information about the Pros and Cons. and My husband have friends that are into it and they are still going strong. For years, it worked for them.

It May or May not work. =) Depende ra nas involved parties.

[sugarplum]

@MollyMillions; mormon, chinese,muslim and more a polyamory works because of their "Culture and traditions" but we Filipino are possessive and acquisitive so, n my own opinion it won't work.

OnT: TS, while dili pa kaayo sakit stop it, it's foolishness, read your story and you can see the picture..

She's in a relationship, family, kids...picture perfect ain't it?
She doesn't have feelings for you but curiosity and your attentions..she may be just bored at home?
"kabalo na baya ka sa ako situation" is the playing safe words of a player.. so, if i were you, I won't take the "kabalo na baya ka sa ako situation" it's a bait..unless you are willing to go through all of the dramas in life later on and based on your writing, I know you're smarter than that..and your intention towards her is for real right? so, since she already know how you feel, then let her do the math...

[MollyMillions]

@sugarplum

You're right it may be difficult but its doable. Not impossible.

As stated earlier , It May or May Not Work. Depende ra sa Involved parties.

Will they be able to go beyond culture and tradition? Beyond the norms? Depende ra gyud nas Individual. =)

[ChaosOrb]

I've read the story, yes sure it's long, but that's the only way we can understand your story.

have a closure with her for you to move on, you don't have to be stuck in a moat, you deserve better....and listen to Adelle's song....

[affascinare16]

Thanks sa tanang advice. I would really like to move on and give myself a chance to be happy as well because I know that she is happy with her life kay of course she has a kid. The sad part is I always think nga maybe naa jud chance and I'm someone who doesn't want to miss out on chances. I don't want to be asking what ifs. I want to be able to tell myself that even if I failed, at least I did my all and therefore I would not have any regrets. I also forgot to mention nga there was also one time when I told her: "what if magdala ko ug lain babay while magkuyog mi sa among barkada and naa xa." I only asked that to have some kind of idea about how she really feels kay as per her, maglisud cya ug explain sa iyang na feel. Then she said: "aw, ok ra." then she suddenly went silent ug niingon: "actually, I don't know how I would feel about that." Kana bitaw nga mga in.ana nga istorya nya mao ang makapa.huna2x nako nga basin naa sad cya feelings.


I know nga basin ako lang ni tanan ghatagan ug interpretation for myself but who can blame me if in.ana iyang istorya? I keep on telling her that I'm not asking her to leave her family or her BF for that matter. I only ever wanted to know how she really feels. I don't care if we stay friends till the end because all I care about is how she feels. Yes, of course, I would want a relationship with her. Kinsa may dli, dba? Kung love nmo ang usa ka taw, gusto man jud ka nga magkakuyog mo and kanang thought nga kibaw mo asa kutob ang boundary. Kay kami, there's always something holding us back kay pareho mi wala kibaw sa boundary. But knowing her situation, dli ko gusto nga ako ang rason iyang igive up iyang family. All I want is to know how she feels bitaw nga at least makaingon ko sa akong self nga naa jud diay cya feelings and it wasn't just my imagination. Because I don't want to be asking for the rest of my life kung naa ba or wala? Naa ba kaha cya feelings towards me as more than a friend? Or friendship lang ba kaha to? I DON'T WANT TO HEAR HER SAY NGA I'M THE REASON WHY SHE LEFT HER BF, RATHER, I WANT TO HEAR HER SAY NGA SHE LEFT HER BF BECAUSE SHE WANTS TO DO SO. Kung gusto cya nga naa mi relationship more than friends, I want it nga cya ang mo.decide. And not because I asked her to but because that's what she wants and that's what makes her happy. All I ever care about is making her happy and making her baby happy. And some people might say, katangahan or what but this is me and this is what I want.

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^^ there's no way for a Polyamory relationship to work.. been there done that, lisod kaayo. lisod knowing na your loved ones love someone else, pero mas lisod if you're the one who's in the middle. The time, the attention and everything lisod jud i balance. The pressure is on you, on how to make up with all the time na wala nimo nahatag sa usa because you were with the other person. No person can occupy 2 spaces at the same time nor can serve to masters at the same time. Aside from that , dili jud malikayan ang selos, unless if the situation's all just for LUST..

OnT: TS, I think we're on the same boat, so let me help enlighten you a bit about your doubts. Consider me as the girl you're talking about in this thread (just for example) .. Same exact situation, I have a family,a baby, and a partner... and suitors/stalkers/admirers (perhaps most of them are girls/ feminine types to be exact, for they are just what's on my list of preferences) Anyway, we've been together for 5 yrs with my BF, I never had past relationships before him, considering that I wasn't really much into commitment. While on our 2nd year, I met a girl she became my GF, our rel lasted for a year and 4. While on the other hand , me and my BF had been struggling to work out ours since it has been so rocky, even before I met the girl. And became even more complicated while I was in a rel with her. It all started out as a Polyamory relationship but in the long run, it became a very complicated one. The first incident, I believe was an experiment.. daghan pag nisunod actually... But I really learned my lesson well, "Be Loyal, Stay Loyal". but sometimes, i just can't help but give motives, especially if I also like the person pero dinha ra ko taman. Indeed some words are just better left unsaid and all I could say is " kabalo baya ka sa akong situation" pero mind you, I almost gave up my family for my 2nd one, pero may nalang , I think I just don't deserve to have her in the first place...

If she really loves you, she'll let go of what she have. But If you really love her, don't allow her to...

Love will find a way, in time... remember that " the only constant thing in life is change" ...

Thank you, @Wynna. It's good to know nga dili ra diay ako ang naka.experience ani. That means that there are people more knowledgeable about this than me and there are people who can advice me about this through personal experience. Daghan na man nag.ingon nako mga friends ra pud nga undangan na daw namo kay walay padulngan. And obviously sakto jud sila. And she knows unsa ang sulti sa mga taw. But I always tell her nga we are not doing anything wrong man. I mean, maybe sa pagtan.aw sa ubang taw sayop, but we didn't go beyond the boundary of friendship man jud. And I tell her nga I'm happy just being able to be with her and she feels the same way. Ang ako lang is, hangtud kanus.a? How long will I endure? Should I just be moving on already now that she's not here anymore? Ang kapait lang kay sige ghapon mi ug communicate.

[affascinare16]

I've read the story, yes sure it's long, but that's the only way we can understand your story.

have a closure with her for you to move on, you don't have to be stuck in a moat, you deserve better....and listen to Adelle's song....

How can I have closure with her? I want to talk to her bitaw and say nga I want to be moving on na. I know I don't have to ask permission from her but gusto pud ko nga at least makahibaw cya. Gusto ko nga magka.istoryahay mi with full honesty about our feelings kay lisud kaayo ang kinabuhi nga puno ug WHAT IFs. Para lang nako ha.

[affascinare16]

Regarding the Polyamory, I don't think that is possible for us. I keep on thinking about the baby. I don't want her to be hurting or to cause any pain sa iyaha. I learned to love the baby na man gud and we grew closer as the day pass. And maybe some would say nga I already caused pain sa bata just by having feelings sa iyang mom but I didn't intend to feel this way. If I had the power to choose exactly who to love, I wouldn't choose someone with such complicated life. Kinsa man sad mosulod ug mopili ug complicated nga pamuyo, diba? All I want is for her to be sure about how she feels. It might not be me nga iyang makadayon but gusto bitaw ko nga sure cya sa iyang feelings. I want her to be sure nga love jud nya ang iyang BF kay sometimes man gud mubuhi cya ug istorya like, nagsisi xa nga katong lakiha iyang gipili. And she even said before nga if not for her baby, dugay ra nya gbuwagan iyang BF. So sometimes I think nga dili sad cya sure sa iyang feelings. In the end, cya ra ghapon ang magsuffer or masakitan.

[Cebu Properties]

Feel in love with whom?what? Love is romantic. I am always in love with my parents and the people surrounds me...