fight or give up?

[chelop]

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Guys, mangayo ta kog advice ninyo.

Dugay2x napud mi sa akong uyab, nya karon kay nikalit lang siyag murag "off" na sa ako. Especially naa ra kos amoa ron so wala miy kita2x..di pud siya makontak kay mokalit ug pawng iyang phone. Murag nagka way klaro mi. Nya lately akong giask kung unsa iyang gusto, ang pirme niya itubag nga atimanon lang sa nako daw ang akong kaugalingon. Ako siyang gibalik napug pangutana, mao to subay siyas mga sayop nako saona. Naglibog kos angay nakong buhaton kay murag ako ray sigeg gukod niya. Kung makigstorya ko niyag personal kay unya2x-on ra man sad ko.

Mopadayon ba ko? or igive-up nalang ang 8 years na relationship? Please advise. Salamat kaayo ninyo.

[MollyMillions]

Suggestion:

You both need to have a personal dialogue and clarify things. End it if its no longer working for EITHER one of you. Move on after.

I know its easier said but more challenging to get it done. But there, I said it! =) Happy Holidays!

Guys, mangayo ta kog advice ninyo.

Dugay2x napud mi sa akong uyab, nya karon kay nikalit lang siyag murag "off" na sa ako. Especially naa ra kos amoa ron so wala miy kita2x..di pud siya makontak kay mokalit ug pawng iyang phone. Murag nagka way klaro mi. Nya lately akong giask kung unsa iyang gusto, ang pirme niya itubag nga atimanon lang sa nako daw ang akong kaugalingon. Ako siyang gibalik napug pangutana, mao to subay siyas mga sayop nako saona. Naglibog kos angay nakong buhaton kay murag ako ray sigeg gukod niya. Kung makigstorya ko niyag personal kay unya2x-on ra man sad ko.

Mopadayon ba ko? or igive-up nalang ang 8 years na relationship? Please advise. Salamat kaayo ninyo.

[chelop]

thank you @MollyMillions.. I hope ma.okay pa inag human ug istorya.. kay di sad ko kahibaw unsaon pag move on.. wala pa ko kasuway..

[MollyMillions]

thank you @MollyMillions.. I hope ma.okay pa inag human ug istorya.. kay di sad ko kahibaw unsaon pag move on.. wala pa ko kasuway..

Dili bitaw sayun imove on if forced. But not all the things we get in life are according to our own preference. Prehas ra gud na if mamatyan ta ug loved ones, we grieve and somehow, we need to continue living. Naa pa daghan instances that we are not in the position to choose.

I wish I can say nga makaya ra na nimu if magbulag man gani sah but Ikaw ra sad makabuhat gyudu anah mem. Ajuaju...

[Nefarian]

I am no love doctor dai pero sakto jud nga "personal confrontation" jud ang needed ninyo. Then decide ug mo padayon paba mo or dili. Kay ikaw looy mag sige lang ka ug hope diha.

[vahnhelsing]

aguy... kasayang aning 8 years uy...

pero murag naghatag naman nig timailhan nga wala'y padulngan... tsk tsk..
istorya mog tarong...

mao ni nakaapan sa dugay nga relasyon, madugay mohupas..
maytag pagsuway ra ni.

[quirkychinita]

Guys, mangayo ta kog advice ninyo.

Dugay2x napud mi sa akong uyab, nya karon kay nikalit lang siyag murag "off" na sa ako. Especially naa ra kos amoa ron so wala miy kita2x..di pud siya makontak kay mokalit ug pawng iyang phone. Murag nagka way klaro mi. Nya lately akong giask kung unsa iyang gusto, ang pirme niya itubag nga atimanon lang sa nako daw ang akong kaugalingon. Ako siyang gibalik napug pangutana, mao to subay siyas mga sayop nako saona. Naglibog kos angay nakong buhaton kay murag ako ray sigeg gukod niya. Kung makigstorya ko niyag personal kay unya2x-on ra man sad ko.

Mopadayon ba ko? or igive-up nalang ang 8 years na relationship? Please advise. Salamat kaayo ninyo.

some women really dont say things na naa sa ilang huna huna kay basig sauna i confront ka niya nya gibalewala ra siguro nimu or maybe she just want you to realize something na obvious na kaayo TS.

naay gitawag na tagam.

TS, kapila na ba mo nag away? How did you resolve it?

How long na ba sya "off" nimu?

and so far what have you both achieved in your 8 years of relatuionship? are you getting something out of it? Have you been planning your future?

If I were a woman, I would question why after 8 years wa pay nahitabo namu na asenso or bisan plano man lang.

No woman is NOT scared of risking her everything, emotionally, financially, physically with a guy she's been loving for 8 years.

Maybe it's the commitment she wanted. Maybe she just want marriage but is afraid to ask kay traditionally, the guy has to ask or maybe even beg for it. She wants to give her everything and forever to the guy who'd give his last name niya. Kay maybe she's thinking "Why would I exert much effort to a guy I have no future with? Why risk my own when he can't even risk his?"

Maybe you have done something that hurt her... and simply refused to understand how she felt and even never bothered to apologize... Pagpaubos ug pride gamay. remember, the person you love CHANGES when you start to HURT him/her.

Or maybe..... she just fell out of love with you for so many reasons.... 8 years na na-accumulate and you failed to notice it.


but then it seemed like u did everything you can kay gagukod naman kaha ka. Try asking her directly if she still love you and if she wants to break up na. Cuz of the things you've done to hurt her in the past.

Maybe she just can't stand your habits and your inner monsters that once came out and show up on her. You don't want to live with a wife who can't stand you. Mag away ra mo ana pirmi. You can't even exert effort to change kay that's so not you... you dont want a fake relationship.



TS think about it.....

Everything is up to you....

Pag may gusto, maraming paraan, pag AYAW may dahilan.

[s3thk]

if there is still a reason to fight then why would you give up

[<SMILE>]

ang pirme niya itubag nga atimanon lang sa nako daw ang akong kaugalingon. Ako siyang gibalik napug pangutana, mao to subay siyas mga sayop nako saona

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Just to make sure that you still have that something to fight for,
give one another a space and see what's in between.
Sadly, It seems that you already occupied that chair alone.

[cuteboy_kahoy]

paita anang 8 years oi...tsk2x