Which is more Immoral (or Worse)

[supernova37]

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i disagree Nova.. about being immoral.. love is never immoral. in fact, love is not subject to issues of morality.. but that is just me.

hi passport, i never say love is immoral... what i said is that it is NOT a sin to be in love with a married person..what makes it a sin is when you commit adultery...I am a catholic and that is what i believe..love is a beautiful gift from my God..

[<SMILE>]

Both of them are immorals,
but the husband is more than immoral
a devil in disguise, instigated his wife to become
immoral.

[Passport]

hi passport, i never say love is immoral... what i said is that it is NOT a sin to be in love with a married person..what makes it a sin is when you commit adultery...I am a catholic and that is what i believe..love is a beautiful gift from my God..

so a catholic i am too.. yet, i believe that the Savior's lineage came from an luscious affair about 14 generations prior..

[yvonne6]

kung inlove ra siguro ka ug wala moy relasyon sa usa ka married nga taw, thats fine, but if you are carrying a relationship with a married person, you guys might have forgotten, this is also illegal, just as bad as ra 9262, you can go to jail for both. the resolution here is, if a wife or partner cant stand anymore the beating and maltreatment, free yourself from the marriage and carry on with life. if u r already free, then you can be with anybody you wish but not while still being so married. doesnt justify anything. one trouble to another, karambola ang gawas jud. gubot pas lukot

[HeartStops]

comparing both does not make the other one better.

Situation is like this : Your friend is a punching bag sa iyang husband and at work there happens to be a guy that confides her situation. Pila man ka gutlo nagkauyab sila blah blah blah.

My opinion: It's not the beating of her husband nor the affair she has in the office - It's your friend that's making it worst. She wont leave her husband in spite of the beating for the kids sake, then here she comes having an affair sa office mate. I think she really needs to focus on her priority which is the kids and herself. She's not making the situation better and now she's torn between decisions.
1st. She need to break-up with her office-mate
2nd. She needs to consult a lawyer or legal assistance about her husband's behavior.
3rd. Distance herself together with the kids and focus on healing herself (emotionally and physically but most of all spiritually).

Again, your friend needs to know that making another mistake does not make it better OKAY?

I know that since shes your friend and you only want whats best for her. Just make her understand though it may be a difficult thing to do but after all of these... It's worth it..

[high_heels]

Kani ra akong ma tambag sa imong friend.....

Rather than get confused choosing between an abusive husband and a possible caring/affectionate third party. May I suggest the wife to focus on herself and her kids. Let her see herself as an independent person with respect to her own being. Kay in fairness lang sad, if you respect yourself as a person. You will not allow yourself to fall as a VICTIM to anyone not even to an abusive husband.

Once she is free from the abusive marriage, let herself heal without complicating the situation by having a third party. That will only make things worst. Time will bring things in order. and once her life is on tract, love will come to her. At this stage, she needs to FOCUS on herself. Kay once ma accomplish na niya, she can manage her kids, her finances and break free from the horrible cycle of abuse.