problema with my future in-laws

[gaea_mamta]

hi everyone...

i need advice regarding sa ako situation karn with my future inlaws..it goes like this..
actually nag live in na mi sa akong BF since nanganak ko sa among anak..mag 4yrs na mi na nag ipon...naa mi sa ilaha nag puyo..kadtong time na na buntis ko, gusto jud sa ako parents na makasal mi,pero d pman daw xa ready mao wala pud mi namugos..ni abot ang day nga i gave birth to our son..na CS ko kay breech man akong baby...ug sa dihang na wrong sent ang mama sa akong bf nakabasa ko sa iyang txt..unya ni ingon xa nga ako daw gi tuyo ug pa CS kay ako lang daw gi maru.an akong bf..kbalo na jud ko daan na wala xai gusto nako...mao to ako gi ingnan akong bf na sa amo ko mo puyo uban with our son,wala man xa ni sugot..dapat sa ila na daw mi puyo kay iya na man daw mi pamilya..mao dri jud mi namuyo.....ug dd2 na nag sugod akong kalbaryo...sa tinood lang,langit ug yuta mi sa akong bf..college grad xa,unya ako college level lang....kusog kau manulti ug sakit iyang mama..tackless..iyang e look down akong pamilya....nakg buwag na ko sa akong bf tungod ana...pero wa jud xa ni sugot..pasagdan lang daw nako iyang mama...usahay maau xa nako...pero perti na diay niyang libak nako.....

karn nagka gap mi sa ate sa akong bf.....nanghilabot man sa akong FB ug dd2 nkabasa xa nga gisaway xa sa usa nako ka amiga..nasuko xa kay nganu daw wala nako xe depensahi.....ug dd2 murag na moyboy na xa...karn ang mga taw dri sa ilang balay plastikay na ug tagad nako......ni sori na ko niya,ug ambot na pasaylo ba kaha ko ato......lain na jud akong feeling dri balay...gusto na jud ko mo hawa dri ug mo uli sa amo...pero gi ingnan ko sa akong parents na d mo hawa,huwaton lang sa daw nako na ma uli akong bf by june puhon...kay lain man pud daw nga nig uli sa akong bf wala na daw mi dri....

unsa man akong angay buhaton?.....pls tambagi tawn ko ninyo....

salamat daan.....

[epoy73]

pariha sad ni situation sa ako paris ron .

[cloudduster]

No question nga you love your partner and all these years, iyang feelings lang imong geh atiman. But don't you think it's about time nga imoha napud feelings imong atimanon? There's no point to suffer when you have the option not to.

[iwantmyboyfriend]

You know there is never any kind of perfect relationship with your in-laws in real life, especially if kalit kang naminyo or namabdos.

Miski unsa pana ka buotan ang in laws ninyo, they will not like you because you did not grow up in their household and you will destroy the balance that they created. This process is also vice-versa. Miski unsa pa na ninyo ka love inyong in-laws inig ka sugod, mu abot jud ang panahon na dli mo magka sinabot.

If I were you, mu move out giud ko kay kapoy kaayo ng uyon-uyonan nimo ang lain tao sa balay. You cannot be at peace when you are there. Maka sense pd baya inyong kids anang hostility ninyo towards you and your mom-in-law na lola nila.

And to say na gi tuyo ang CS, na unsa gud tawn na gi tuyo. Shempre dli lalim magpa gasto ug dako. If I could help it, dli giud magpa CS. Shempre mao ra giud na huna-hunaon inig panganak. haha. pero mas dugay ang recovery kung CS. nganong gusto gud tawn ka ana, d ba?

Misk unsa pa ingon sa mga tao na pinangga nila ilang inlaws or pinangga kaau sila.. it is there somwhere unmitigated annoyance towards them, but of course. They're your in-laws and you cannot change that. Ayaw lang pd ug antosa ug dugay kay basin imong health mag suffer. like seriously, ug imong kalagot imo jud taguan, dako jud na ug impact sa imong health. And you need to be healthy for your kids.

[quirkychinita]

I have always been taught by my parents and even my boss....

No matter what happens...

Never mess with two things: Mother nature and your mother in law!

if nalain ka, ay nag baws. hilum na lang. If wala ka kahibaw unsay itubag, ay na lang ug tubag, if di ka kasakay, ay pugsa, hilum na lang.... tutal, that's what the MAN of our lives are for.... the only person who could understand and empathize on your concerns... Let your MAN be the hero of your life, your savior. He knows better how to deal with his family. If people says sumthing behind your back, wala naka mabuhat, if mu-react pud ka, it proves you guilty.

It's not easy to ignore things that bothers you most.

And Oh! If you need an outlet from the frustrating things happening, we have girlfriends to talk and air it out with and of course, our better half! plus istorya.net is also one way to let things out.

Just do the right thing and everything will be alright.

You're somebody new to his family and you're just both adjusting. Give it time.

[Passport]

I have always been taught by my parents and even my boss....

No matter what happens...

Never mess with two things: Mother nature and your mother in law!

if nalain ka, ay nag baws. hilum na lang. If wala ka kahibaw unsay itubag, ay na lang ug tubag, if di ka kasakay, ay pugsa, hilum na lang.... tutal, that's what the MAN of our lives are for.... the only person who could understand and empathize on your concerns... Let your MAN be the hero of your life, your savior. He knows better how to deal with his family. If people says sumthing behind your back, wala naka mabuhat, if mu-react pud ka, it proves you guilty.

It's not easy to ignore things that bothers you most.

And Oh! If you need an outlet from the frustrating things happening, we have girlfriends to talk and air it out with and of course, our better half! plus istorya.net is also one way to let things out.

Just do the right thing and everything will be alright.

You're somebody new to his family and you're just both adjusting. Give it time.

hurot na gyud akong bilib aning quirky muhatag ug tambag.. pwede ni sya mopuli ni dr rosaroso

sakto gyud kaayo ni TS... hilom na lang.. adjustment period pa bitaw ka.. self adjusting ra na tanan basta mother in law..

[chill_angel25]

hurot na gyud akong bilib aning quirky muhatag ug tambag.. pwede ni sya mopuli ni dr rosaroso

sakto gyud kaayo ni TS... hilom na lang.. adjustment period pa bitaw ka.. self adjusting ra na tanan basta mother in law..

OT : basin pa basahon napud na ug libro unya boss

parihas na sa ako TS.. peru ako lang ang BOY, nya sa ila me nag ipon.. what i did was, naglahi me..
now we're happy na!!

[gaea_mamta]

thank you kaau sa inyong mga advice ha.....i just hope na maminaw sa akong gibati akong bf....i am praying for that everyday...

[yvonne6]

this is why its best nga mag lain jud no matter unsa ka lisud. kaning mga ingon ani stressful kaau ilabi na ug nanay history sa misunderstanding. ug maka buhi naman imong bf nimo, paglain mo oi. believe me, lisud man but its worth the peace of mind

[OEMe]

Lisod gyud basta ipon sa inlaws labi sis-inlaw na bentahosa.