Unsay imo buhaton if you get caught between your responsibilities towards your family and fiancée?

[greg_lewis]

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I'd like to help my parents achieve their dreams for our family but we also have our own plans and dreams with my fiancée. Most of the times they conflict each other in different aspects eg. time, financial, psychological.. etc.
kung gusto sa imo parents ingon ani pagbuhat para makatabang ka, but ang imo fiancee musugot man bt would remind you na basin madugay pud ug materialize inyo plans especially kung financial ang subject... hahaaiii.
anyone has the idea there, istoryans, or experiences and what's the consequences of your decision?

[isparkol]

pde raman nmo unahon ang inyong plans sa imong fiancee mas importante mana kai para mana sa inyong future duha. kung unahon nmo imong parents d japon na nmo ikalipay kai cla man imong g agad. manluod cguro na cla at 1st pro makasabot rana cla oi.. mura man clag wala moagi ug ingon ana sauna katong cla puy padong magminyo.

[alloring]

happen na jud ni sa family sa ako husband, katong bag o pa me naminyo, naa jud ng luod2 og away2 labina ang parents nag expect nga mu payback ang anak sa gigasto. hasol sad jud in ani- karelate ko sa imung fiancee nga musabot nalng but deep inside nag antos sad na likay ra na xa sa gubot,like nako sugot nalng para y samok bisag supak sa bout.maski wa me natigum nga amu. nya ang ending ana nuh....kamu ra japon magkalisud kay y matigum-utang nasad padung.been there.... done that.

[jkhfg]

Same here, my gani ka fiancee pana, ako naa nkoy anak. haha. Just keep things simple. Give them their needs not their wants.

[Tamblot]

Time and resource management. You just need to make both sides aware of the plans. If you become transparent to both, then it wont be that hard for you to let them agree. Sometimes, parents would eventually understand and give way.

Go ahead and talk to them.

[alloring]

Time and resource management. You just need to make both sides aware of the plans. If you become transparent to both, then it wont be that hard for you to let them agree. Sometimes, parents would eventually understand and give way.

Go ahead and talk to them.

If only in ana kasayon.... lisud man na labina ang parents mufight sad nga sakto sila-mahimu nalng away,mau lang ta di in ani ang u parents TS.

[Tamblot]

If only in ana kasayon.... lisud man na labina ang parents mufight sad nga sakto sila-mahimu nalng away,mau lang ta di in ani ang u parents TS.

There is a time in our life when we have to prove and assert to our parents that we are already the one who is in control of our life. This is the time when parenting ends and the child starts to be in charge of his life and take responsibility for his/her actions.

Assertion is not a walk in the park though for those parents who are over protective and still believes in traditional approach. But then, you know your parents more than anybody else, so you know what technique and convincing style works for them.

[psychologic]

ahmm in my side pod, since ingon ana na age, mature naman pod na ug panghuna huna gud. but mag depende na sa gibug aton sa imong prinsipyo ug baroganan.. now, kon family man gani ang imong gthink kay nahan ka na maachieve nimo ila dreams, ayaw lang pod kalimot na naa pod kay dreams na imo po e achieve.. balance lang..

[digitalsuperman]

i'll still help my parents pero i'll talk to my fiance if how much i can offer nga acceptible para niya para ma achieve both among plans and at the same time makatabang sa family.

[jofer]

Time and resource management. You just need to make both sides aware of the plans. If you become transparent to both, then it wont be that hard for you to let them agree. Sometimes, parents would eventually understand and give way.

Go ahead and talk to them.

sakto jud ni.pahibaw.a sa ang parties considered sa imong plano then start from that.