Work Advice Please.

[cool_romar]

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Message originally posted by cool_romar on 11-19-2012 at 11:29 AM:

Hello istoryans. I’ll be posting this thread here since when I checked the posts in ‘career forum’, I see that this topic isn’t much related to the intended posts that we ought to see there. To avoid infractions and be safe, leme post this one here.

First thing, I am Mark and I am currently employed, under the banner of the biggest financial institution of our country. Moreover, I am in charge in generating sales. J geez. I am nurse by profession and you figured it out, I am obviously underemployed.

I am not to detail my blues here and how I succumbed to depression because of this job though it paid me well, yes, it paid me well like I earned more than double of what my mom earned in her almost 15 years of working as a teacher. It is not all about money indeed.

I hope you feel me. I wanted to quit working here and find something I want to do. I mean, I know what I want to do but I want to make sure it will also help me pay my bills. I need an advice on what I need to do first. Shall I quit my work now, go soul searching? I know eventually, ill be bored at home and will prolly look for another job after quitting.

I need to know how you guys overcome this burden and how you make yourself enjoy what you are currently doing. Afterall, life is always free. Why do things you hate doing most, diba? I’m afraid that should I’ll quit, I’ll be starting from scratch again and end applying to another company. Na-ah, I am really confused.



Hi all. I'm back. It's been quite a while huh. I've accidentally visited this post of mine since I'm browsing for newer car models I'll be using for work. Yes, I'm looking for one and will prolly purchase before the month ends. God has been really pouring much blessings to me since the year started. Let me share my story after ranting about self-work frustrations and dissapoinment.

Yes I stayed. I dint quit.

Now reading back and knowing my then 'before' emotions hiding in each sentences I've written in this thread somehow made me smile. Should I quit, I wouldn't be where I am now- Area Sales Manager.

Again, yes. I was promoted. At age 23, I am the youngest area manager my company has in the entire country.

The offer came to me mid December last month. They offered an officer position outside Cebu. Me handling Dumaguete, Roxas, Bacolod and Iloilo. No, I turned the offer down. Thrice. In my department, these are the identified Cities for development. Meaning, sales figure wise, they aren't good contributor. Knowing that accepting the position would somehow be detrimental to my work tenacity and the feeling of leaving my comfort zone in Cebu made me really scared. Bata pa jud d.i ko. Urong sulong ang akong decision. I decided yes but anxiety consumed me every night. Fear of the unknown.

Early January, I accepted the offer secondary to coercion I received from my bosses. Yes, there was a feeling of coercion. But I took responsibility in me accepting the position. I was displaced to Bacolod. I've lived there for 3 months. There were nights I couldn't sleep cause I'm sad. (o.a kaayo ko ba. samot na siguro no na naa ko sa gawas, Bacolod ra gani na ha! hehe).

Then I told myself, I'll be back to Cebu as Area Manager....

One day, nakadungog lang ko ug balita na my previous area manager has been demoted.

To make the story short, my region head wanted me back to Cebu and this time, not an officer but as an Area Manager.

Yes, I'm back here. I started last April. This whole thing that happened to me reminds me of a passage I've read from the book- The Alchemist written by Paulo Coelho. And I quote "And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you achieve it."

Paspas kaayo. Sometimes, when I do appointments with the members of my team, di pa gani mo sink in nako. haha.

You know, trials are always there. It is always mind over matter and how you'll cope with it. Remember that in Romans 8:28 "All things work for good to those who loved Him and to those who are called according to His purpose".

Live a wonderful life. If di maayo ang nahitabo nimo run, It is part of our Lord's wonderful plan. Remember again, that the end will always be good so If dili pa maayo ang imong kahimutang karun, meaning dili pana mao. You still are on your way to what good God has planned!

Will go back looking for a good car. hehe.

Carpe diem!

[THE KID]

log in in istorya.net more often....

[cool_romar]

log in in istorya.net more often....

Im doing that. even doing it now. (pero sereto ra nato ni) Lols. One thing that relieved my stress is when i read posts that i could relate most.

Wata nice advice huh.

[Intruder26]

First, you need to consider your expenses. Are you willing to let go your wants in life?

Last year, I realize my job isn't worth it already. I am no longer happy and I don't have time for my family but financially I can buy whatever I want to. So I have to weigh things. I realize that I have been working for the past five years for this institution. I rarely filed for leave and if I do, they would call me to consult on things. I missed attending my child's activities because problems suddenly occurs on that specific dates and can't even help her with assignments/projects because I often come home late. Relationship with husband also deteriorated. As the say, with power comes great responsibility.

There are just things that money cannot buy... I have a new job right now. Pay is 7K lower but what is more important is I have time for my family and I am happy as well.

[lhorenzoo]

you need to weigh things carefully , pros and the cons . think it over and over many times, sometimes , kapoy man gyud magtrabaho we tend to feel laay and lazy . like me, i always feel like i need to quit work but when i think that starting from scratch thing , makahinumdum ko unsa na pud ang mga adjustments himuon if naa napud sa new job , the job hunting is kinda hard what with all the commuting , interviews and etc.it all boils down to patience. hunahunaa makadaghan ts mao ra na ako ikatambag.

[kit_cebu]

let's face it......not ALL plans will go the way we want everything to be........

do you really think you'll be happy should you choose to go the other way and most likely, get a very huge decrease in salary (because you will need to volunteer/get a low-paying nursing job here)?

you can find happiness after work....family...friends...that would probably equalize some sort of disappointment sa imong trabaho...

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[cool_romar]

First, you need to consider your expenses. Are you willing to let go your wants in life?

Last year, I realize my job isn't worth it already. I am no longer happy and I don't have time for my family but financially I can buy whatever I want to. So I have to weigh things. I realize that I have been working for the past five years for this institution. I rarely filed for leave and if I do, they would call me to consult on things. I missed attending my child's activities because problems suddenly occurs on that specific dates and can't even help her with assignments/projects because I often come home late. Relationship with husband also deteriorated. As the say, with power comes great responsibility.

There are really things that money cannot buy... I have a new job right now. Pay is 7K lower but what is more important is I have time for my family and I am happy as well.

There really are things that money cant buy. I dont want to wake up someday, talking to myself and saying i should have done what i want yesterday, or years back. Mark Twain one said "twenty years from now, you will be more dissapointed by the things you did not do than the ones you did do."

You see, it is always a choice. Thanks for the thoughts. I will be praying for what my heart desires.

[cool_romar]

you need to weigh things carefully , pros and the cons . think it over and over many times, sometimes , kapoy man gyud magtrabaho we tend to feel laay and lazy . like me, i always feel like i need to quit work but when i think that starting from scratch thing , makahinumdum ko unsa na pud ang mga adjustments himuon if naa napud sa new job , the job hunting is kinda hard what with all the commuting , interviews and etc.it all boils down to patience. hunahunaa makadaghan ts mao ra na ako ikatambag.

Thanks lhorenzo. Appreciated your thoughts. But then again, i guess working is not just making money but enjoying what you do as well. lucky me i still have that chance to quit while others dont secondary to extreme family needs. Come the time if mag start back to scratch, if nice man sad ang work you wont feel starting from scratch then but growing.

[stealthghost]

if you have time, you can volunteer on some organization para ma-gamit nimu imu profession.

My friend before nga nurse kay nag work xa sa call center and volunteer xa sa ERUF.

wala lang kaayu ko details kung gi-unsa niya coz she's resting na.

Anyways, at that point, you can keep your job and do what you love.

[cool_romar]

let's face it......not ALL plans will go the way we want everything to be........

do you really think you'll be happy should you choose to go the other way and most likely, get a very huge decrease in salary (because you will need to volunteer/get a low-paying nursing job here)?

you can find happiness after work....family...friends...that would probably equalize some sort of disappointment sa imong trabaho...

.

I understand your coping mech with the kind of situation where i am in now. If this will go on, i am like fooling myself ten hours a day. But sure are my friends and family relive the stress in me. After work, whenever i got to talk to them, i forget the stressful enviromnment in the office but come the time ma ting sulod nasad, balik nasad. Cycle nalang always. Hahays. Will prolly concentrate working and try find happiness in it.