Need your opinion regarding religion in the Family..

[psyche54]

I know that this is a very fragile thing to discuss and we are bounded by a very thin line on this issue.

But sa case sa ako family, one of my sisters nagchange ug religion from Roman Catholic to another sect. She was so immature that she was convinced by an officemate to join unto her officemate's church.

Well I also have friends from other sect but always maintain great respect to one's belief. However, kani nahitabo sa akong sister, I find it shocking because feeling namo, mura gipalayo siya sa amo. Kon di makatunga sa ilang mga services, gasige ug tawagan, sige texan...

And what is irritating to me nga mi-errupt jud ako emotions is when I saw her on her headset while the priest is reading the homily (kay nahimo na namong devotion sa pamilya nga magsimba jud every sunday)... I find it shocking, disrespectful and very stubborn..

I find the whole thing a slapped on my face as I am a music ministry member also of a catholic charismatic organization... Mao nga di ko kaayo kadawat sa maong butang...

We believe that "A Family that prays together, stays together..."

Unsa kahay angay buhaton namo aning situasyona...

[umpa-lumpa]

Naa mn gud uban religion bro nga daoton ang uban sects...ky ang ila lang religion kunu ang ma save..ang uban ky walay pulos...maybe this is the case sa imo sister...mrag gi brainwash siya..for me lang, there's no problem if mag change ang religion as long ang practices nila is good.

i would suggest that you parents do a one on one talk with your sister...let her feel nga wala mo ni supak ug change sa religion niya but she should just be open minded and not disrepect your religion. Im thinking man gud nga wa na ganahi nga mu kuyog na ninyo tungod sa bad things nga gi sulti siguro sa iyang current sect to your religion..let her understand nga respect should be there and dapat mu kuyog lang gihapon siya because it is one way for your family to bond mn sd dba...im sure you'll work things out as long as open minded ang duha ka party...imho

[pinkpumpkin]

Naa mn gud uban religion bro nga daoton ang uban sects...ky ang ila lang religion kunu ang ma save..ang uban ky walay pulos...maybe this is the case sa imo sister...mrag gi brainwash siya..for me lang, there's no problem if mag change ang religion as long ang practices nila is good.

i would suggest that you parents do a one on one talk with your sister...let her feel nga wala mo ni supak ug change sa religion niya but she should just be open minded and not disrepect your religion. Im thinking man gud nga wa na ganahi nga mu kuyog na ninyo tungod sa bad things nga gi sulti siguro sa iyang current sect to your religion..let her understand nga respect should be there and dapat mu kuyog lang gihapon siya because it is one way for your family to bond mn sd dba...im sure you'll work things out as long as open minded ang duha ka party...imho

agree w/ umpalumpa. naa gyud uban religion nga dautan sad ang uban. to the point nga ma-brainwash ang tao. maau siguro ug salestalk tong nakaconvince niya or nakakita cguro imong igsuon ug butang nga wa sa iyang previous religion.
anyway, imong parents ra gyud ang makasolve ana. or mas nindot nga whole family ang mostorya niya. pero ayaw sad ipafeel sa iya nga gitabangan siya kay mosamot na.
goodluck ts. sus lisura na gyud sa panahon karon.

[psyche54]

^^ Thanks sir...

Tinuod man jud sir and I also received the same thought as yours sa among spiritual director nga ok ra man jud as long as practices nila, ma-translate pud into real world doing...

Akoa lang jud ka-surprisahan is how she threats her old religion now... I find it very insulting nga manampong ka sa imo dunggan when the priest is reading the homily. After all, it's the word of GOD ang gibasa...

In fact ako mga long time trusted friends, naa jud sa ubang sect. Pero like I said, we maintain great respect to each one's belief. Dili gani mi kaayo magdiscuss bahin ana kay kabalo mi nga choice jud na nato tagsa-tagsa... Kani akong manghud, mura jud pinugusay... Grabeh kaayo kay sige bagting celfon basta makabalo iya kauban nga miuban sa amo ug simba... Mao nga nafeel namo nga she fall into bad companies base lang pud sa akong na-experience sa akong mga amigo...

Tinuod jud sir nga na "brain-wash" kay mura ug sirado kaayo iyang huna-huna bahin anang butanga...

[ondoy]

e respect lng cguro na bro, ayaw cya kanang murag ma separate sa inyo.cguro naa cya nakita sa laing sect..

pwede mana ninyo cya storyahon tibuok family in a postive way,kanang wala btaw saway2 sa?.pra pud makuha nimo iya side y ni sulod cya ana. Din ayha nimo cya e xplain ang kaayuhan sa 1 family with 1 religion,unsy importance etc..

kung dili patuo,bunali sa bakos (joke)

[walker]

@TS,

May I draw your attention to this line:

For no one can come to me unless the Father who sent me draws them to me, and at the last day I will raise them up.

I feel, our free will gives us the power to make choices, and be responsible for their consequences. And in the case of your sister, she made hers.

"am I my brother's keeper?"... listen to your heart sis.. you know what to do.

[jedophiledotph]

R E S P E C T for every religion is very important.

[KDThunder]

It sounds like she has had some sort of ''spiritual'' experience.. if u can sit down and talk to her without it turning into a fight, u might try listening to her. just ask a few questions about what led her to this, why she feels this way, etc.. do not try to change her mind during this particular conversation... after you've talked u will have a better idea of how to go about debunking whatever it is she feels she's discovered.. do some research, get your facts straight, and then go back and have a second conversation, where you try to gently discourage her from it.. if all else fails, you may have to resign yourself to the fact that she is no longer the person she used to be.. if u insult her or turn it into a big fight you may lose her, so decide what want before you try to change her mind.. would you rather have an own religious belief sister or no sister at all? Maybe you should ask her why she no longer believes those things,and listen to what she has to say and try to understand why she no longer believes them..you may learn something new...

[psyche54]

Thanks guys for your messages...

Actually, I decided to write it in this forum kay kami sad pamilya maglisod ug approach niya. Wala may mga arguments nga nahitabo between her and us...

In fact, we gave her space kay at first, we knew too nga basin naa sad siya'y laing gipangita. Actually, wala sad namo siya gi-discourage about her new found religion. After all, faith isn't a family tradition, but a devotion. Mao nga kami as much as possible we want to giver her space and time...

I haven't talked to her yet, 'coz I know that this is a very sensitive topic. Knowing that I am the eldest, nangita pa ko ug right timing kay I feel nga medyo sirado pa iya huna-huna for any discussion regarding it.

I wish nga wala unta ni nahitabo sa amoa but, hey everything has its purpose...

[cebu.opportunities]

I think you should also show respect on her decision. Why not try to attend pud sa "religious gathering" sa imo sister that you will know her side.

Sometimes, we need to be open to some possibilities in life, some changes that will come our way. It does not mean nga ni break na siya sa what is used to before, she is already wrong diba. Probably, she has seen something from other sectors that enlightened her up.