What will you do if your relationship becomes this?

[lowid1234]

talk it over.... maybe u need more time to express ur feelings and hatred to each other. don't give up on love.

[jongchiu]

hala oi.. connected jud diay ni sa pikas thread? tsk! sayanga sa 3 yrs oi, but whatever would be best for both of you, naa ra jud na ninyo..

yehp sayang... here's little fact, mag buwag gani ang mag asawa nga naa na sa ilang golden years, kani pa kyha?hehe

I dont think time will be the best basis to keep the relationship......
relationship is not about time, it is more of being happy (of corz, naa sad joi down) with each other and without thinking about time....

I onced had a 4years relationship, sa manila m ga puyo, seems na dili nako happy sa amu situation, wa man sad m away2 or unxa, lahi nlng jud ang feeling nako para sa amu relationship, i know i still love her but im just not happy..... what i did, i told her i need to get back to cebu kai d nko happy.( hala, hilak to the highest level). mao, uli nko dre cebu, ga buwag m not because ga away m but bec d nami happy. we didnt mind how long we have been, we only cherish our happy moments, we dont even have any monthsary or aniversary, as long as were happy, payts na...........

[browniies]

buwag nani cla ky ang TS ug iyang sis mga BOGUS BUYERS man gud. LAWL.

[yhelz_18]

RUn away! tsss

[superidol]

don't surrender.. kay kana nga problema sayun ra e solve.. kulang lng cguro mo sa labing2x? wla na cguro mo mka abot sa nyong climax sa relationship.. or nag pa gawas sa mga lawasnong kalipay? proven n tested njd ni xa mga sis ug mga bro nga nka ncounter ani ron nga problem.. buwad naq ang solusyon.. ayw mo ug katawa, kay tnood anay ni.. qng sa tambal pa, ****** effect ang imong ma exprience f mo kaon mo 3 times a day ani..

always believe in a saying "to eat is to believe"..

inyong friend sa kalisod ug sa kalipay,
superidol a.k.a buwad vendor

[quirkychinita]

Hi, kemalzeppy!

First of all, I do appreciate dudes like you who still hold on to a shaky relationship like such... Seriously! Dili tanan lalaki ingana ka considerate to the point na mangayo ug advice when things like what you've been going on through happens! BOW najud ko nimu! What can I say? Guys like you are total KEEPERS!!!! You're a diamond in the rough!

This is the same thing I've seen among married couples and relationships that reached its third or fourth year (My boss once told me that the third or fourth year is one of the most shakiest part of a relationship, I asked my sister about it and they agreed)...

I asked my dad and my brother in law why do this happen, this is what they said:

-She/he nags about the littlest things... repetitively. (So ladies, gents and people in between, try controlling your pie hole sometimes. hehehe)

-She/he lacks appreciation of the efforts you've done.(boosting someone's ego is a good practice for a relationship. Nothing else feels good when the person you love appreciates simple things you've done for him/her)

-For the ladies... Sometimes, our guys wanted to feel needed, so if you're too strong or too independent, it's about time you seek help from your man and make them feel masculine. Let them feel like your hero. They don't wanna feel useless.

-In an argument, think twice before speaking. VERBAL DIARRHEA won't do you any good. Plus it's annoying.

-She/he monitors you like 24/7..... creepy! Plus it indicates the lack of trust. So tell me, gakita na gani mo 24/7 and you live at the same house and you see him/her even the first thing in the morning and you still demand knowing his/her facebook password and check his/her inbox I SERIOUSLY DON'T GET THAT!

-She/he is in doubt about the things about you and your reasons and she/he doesnt even dare to ask. instead he/she investigates.... Tawn, dali raman mangutana.


Okay. Those are just a few of the many reasons I've heard of them.


Now, we can no longer undo what already has been done. We can't even change ourselves in a flick of a finger.

So the only cure is to just fix it before it goes totally unfix-able.....

For your stage, kemalzeppy, the only cure for now is to talk it over with her. If she nags, try not to argue. If she stayed silent and got teary eyed, it means mada da na na cuz she realized she was wrong and she WILL try to fix the problem with you. Do not under estimate the power of communication. IT ALWAYS WORKS.... not unless di jud mu-cooperate ang isa. Do not raise your voice no matter what happens. Try holding her hands while you talk. And oh! (My brother in law always do this) Try buying her something sweet AND cold (e.g. ice cream) and feed her with that kay studies shows that if makig istorya ka sa tawo na nakakaun ug something sweet and cold, it calms that person down.... ever wonder why we women and some kids consider ICE CREAM as comfort food? There you go.

If worse comes to worse, cool off na lang sa.... If the efforts did not work... Let it go.... If it hurts, then it means it was one heck of a battle....


Hope this (VERY LOOOOONGISH response) helps, kemalzeppy.




Good Vibes!

[VinRex]

When saying "I love you" feels empty.

When texting her feels like a chore.

When calling her feels like a bore,

When hearing her feels like nagging

When holding her hand feels so cold.

When looking at her eyes you see nothing.

When speaking to her you feel hatred.

Will you hold on and try to get the spark back? or try to cool off with each other?I need your advice istoryans.

klaro nga wa na kay gusto. lain na imong gusto ts?

[kemalzeppy]

Dear readers of this thread,

I thank you for all your responses, be it be pro or con, i have weighed each reply and took time to think about it and it has been almost a year since i posted this thread and through the months from then to now i have tried my best to work as a team with my girlfriend ( who recently discovered this thread) there has been many ups and downs in our relationship but i have learned many things and experienced so much that it is enough to fill volumes upon volumes of books.

I have learned that depressions are normal, problems are normal, arguments are normal, fights are normal and evey negative aspect of a relationship is normal, and what is important is how you cope with those things and that is what matters.

I have dealt my problems with my girlfriend already and although she is a bit mad at me for not telling her about this post, but i had to have my little turf for myself to ask for advice.

To tell you honestly this peom of mine (if you call it a poem) is two sided,

Take for example;

"When holding her hand feels cold,"

It is not me who is feeling cold when i hold her hand but it means i feel coldness coming out from her, everytime i hold her hands

But it is up tou you how you interpret my poem, cheers

Ps, i love my girlfriend and i have no regrets to this day, and as i am typing this message i am now waiting for her so we can have our dinner togther in it park hahaha

God bless to all.

[spike412]

char! kay nasakpan man... hahahha bitaw joke ra.... glad to hear you settled your problem ts.

[walker]

Dear readers of this thread,

I thank you for all your responses, be it be pro or con, i have weighed each reply and took time to think about it and it has been almost a year since i posted this thread and through the months from then to now i have tried my best to work as a team with my girlfriend ( who recently discovered this thread) there has been many ups and downs in our relationship but i have learned many things and experienced so much that it is enough to fill volumes upon volumes of books.

I have learned that depressions are normal, problems are normal, arguments are normal, fights are normal and evey negative aspect of a relationship is normal, and what is important is how you cope with those things and that is what matters.

I have dealt my problems with my girlfriend already and although she is a bit mad at me for not telling her about this post, but i had to have my little turf for myself to ask for advice.

To tell you honestly this peom of mine (if you call it a poem) is two sided,

Take for example;

"When holding her hand feels cold,"

It is not me who is feeling cold when i hold her hand but it means i feel coldness coming out from her, everytime i hold her hands

But it is up tou you how you interpret my poem, cheers

Ps, i love my girlfriend and i have no regrets to this day, and as i am typing this message i am now waiting for her so we can have our dinner togther in it park hahaha

God bless to all.

Sounds like a sincere and honest declaration.

Best wishes to both of you.. and enjoy your dinner and things like that...