What if your loved one is a Pathological Liar? How will you help him/her?

[z3robeLow]

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lol. i had a friend up until this week, i finally confronted him/her on a number of occasions on the tiniest of lies, but it didn't stop her/him from lying. in fact, he/she tried to justify lying by coming up with incredible stories. d kaybalo mo accept sa iyang sayop, worst kay mamasangil pa sa mga taw. balihon ang story just to have an excuse. in the end I was more insulted that she/he thought i was so stupid to believe the most incredible lies (clonewars). i'm so relieved that i don't have to read into everything she/he says and wonder if its actually true. ahahaha

[sushikandi]

Theres no better way to confront the person by presenting the facts. Tell him he is still your friend but this has to stop. Its not funny nor healthy anymore. Its taking a toll on him, one day he'll actually believe in his own lies, that you dont want to happen. Good luck!

[quirkychinita]

@ts people lie for a reason.

everybody lies. naa ra juy uban na gapalabi ra.

my bestfriend himself is a liar cuz many prople cant accept his opinions and people around him even his family are simply judgemental. he tend to have the most darnest opinions na maskin ako gkaliki. he used to lie to me about anything.....

but i showed him what he wants to stop him from lying.... acceptance....

kada malain ko niya i just punch him and tell him that although i accept him, gkalain ko niya.... he fights back. we even end up shouting at each other cuz weve been honest to each other...

a lot of OUR friends say na were too brutl. .. we dont care..... were just honest....

people lie cuz they dont wanna hurt ur feelings or they want to feel important or they want to be praised for something or they dont want to reveal how miserable they are.....




as for him, he doesnt want to be judged and condemned and he wants acceptance for who he is.....

[jom22488]

Diha na mag sugod ang solution sa acceptance sa liar sa problem. I was a "pathologic liar" (I think, hahaha sige raman ko palusot if ma ipit ba). But then if mo abot nana sa point nga makahibaw naxa nga sayop na iyang ge buhat, grabe naman og dli jd na xa mag usab. kanus.a bagud na sakto ang liar. dli na xa ganahan mo abot nas point nga the boy who cried wolf, believe me makatagam jd na xa based on experience...xD

[quirkychinita]

Diha na mag sugod ang solution sa acceptance sa liar sa problem. I was a "pathologic liar" (I think, hahaha sige raman ko palusot if ma ipit ba). But then if mo abot nana sa point nga makahibaw naxa nga sayop na iyang ge buhat, grabe naman og dli jd na xa mag usab. kanus.a bagud na sakto ang liar. dli na xa ganahan mo abot nas point nga the boy who cried wolf, believe me makatagam jd na xa based on experience...xD

believe me.... all people lie. .... murag si abe lincold a.k.a honest abe raman guro ang dili... i think.


i admit even i myself mamakak kung maipit...

example: kanang maka absent or late ko for work..... i can't say na gitapulan ko or nahubog ko busa wa ko kasud trabaho wui! hahah!

there was one time i said na nabiyaan nako sa sulod sakong kwarto akong yabi busa wa ko kasulod sa balay to prepare for work.... hahhaha!!!!

im soooo evil!

but my point is, kung naay kahibaw mu accept sa sala na nabhat or kanang dili mu judge, nganung mamakak man ta?

[ayki]

^^ edit post #30: PATHOLOGICAL liar. ahaha. I was thinking of PSYCHO the whole i was writing that reply; nahimo hinuon nga psychological. wahaha.

[AntitaniC]

This is just like those cigarette addicts, they know that it is bad for them, but still they're puffing it.

And like me years ago as a cigarette addict, I chose to cure myself because I knew back then that I'm the only one who can.

Your Friend should also realize that TS.

[i_am_nikita]

Well I guess I am right in saying that he sounds PATHETIC and PITIFUL.
Luoy lang.
Grabe gyud kaayo ang tawo nga maka-antos og ingani nga klaseng tawo.

Otherwise, if you want this situation fixed.
Let that person make peace with his situation.
Let that person know that everyone know he is only lying.

Lastly, there are other methods of handling bad situations compared to lying.

lagi, pero nglisud gyud daw siya, she can bring all the evidence pero basin naay madamay na mga tawo

Theres no better way to confront the person by presenting the facts. Tell him he is still your friend but this has to stop. Its not funny nor healthy anymore. Its taking a toll on him, one day he'll actually believe in his own lies, that you dont want to happen. Good luck!

thank sushi

yes, im sure he will believe on his lies and Good luck to my friend on how to handle this.

lol. i had a friend up until this week, i finally confronted him/her on a number of occasions on the tiniest of lies, but it didn't stop her/him from lying. in fact, he/she tried to justify lying by coming up with incredible stories. d kaybalo mo accept sa iyang sayop, worst kay mamasangil pa sa mga taw. balihon ang story just to have an excuse. in the end I was more insulted that she/he thought i was so stupid to believe the most incredible lies (clonewars). i'm so relieved that i don't have to read into everything she/he says and wonder if its actually true. ahahaha

my friend do have a friend like yours z3robelow and she confronted him giving him all the facts but still he denies everything. but i think she dont needs to prove to people that believes in him for some of their friends believe in my friend labi na katong ninghatag sa iya ug detailed facts, lisud na makadamay siya ug tawo - mas ulaw

[i_am_nikita]

As the saying goes, "Love conquers all.". It all starts from there. It is very crucial that their support network deeply understands the situation. It's pathological so it means there's a cure and that's the good thing. Honestly, this is a clear case scenario of ADHD and lying is just a secondary manifestation. The person has to be fully aware of himself/herself first and the implications of his/her actions. A confrontational type of approach wouldn't really work and it may just make things even worse. A consultational may, however, prove to be effective as it encourages them to open up more and get to the bottom of why they had to lie. This is a very long process and may take months or years to accomplish. Time may come that you might get frustrated but if you really care for the person, you will have to bear with anything that goes along the way.

wow necromancer.. you get the point of my friend

it takes a lot of patience gyud and grace from GOD, but i think its more clearer to her now what about the situation.

mogawas ra biya gyud ang tinoud , wala man gyud aso makumkum. ang kuyaw lng ang effect ani nya?

[i_am_nikita]

Biyai na lang tingali...labi na uyab...you will suffer your entire life.
If family member, tubay-tubayi lang, or pabantaya og bata unya mao pastoryaan.
Kay hurot gyud ng bakak sigeg pangutana sa bata nga kulit og "ngano man? or unsa man na?"
If friend, can you really think this kind of people are capable of being friends, better be alone.

Pero kung wiling ka muhago Sis, then try Tough Love.
If you love the person, you are willing to do everything even hurting him if it is for his own good.

yep, even if it is for his own good the bad thing is nangita cya ug paagi na ang akong friend ang nahimong bakakon sa mga friends niya

but the best thing to do about the situation is prayers? am i right? and she wants to keep quite and silence nlng ky she knws - everything will go smoothly but few ra man ang ningtou ato niya, she keep all the allegations for she dont have to prove to people the situation mas maayu man pd na if she will going to solve it at least gamay ray nkahibalo sa sitwasyun ky to protect the other party as well