A kid who doesn't like school..

[Ms.Beau]

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i agree with you, ngel. gi abuso na sad ning ADHD...halos nalang tanan kaki-at sa bata i blame on this. most children "act out" because of conflicts at home (personally na kita jud ni nako). lisod jud nang naay medications ma invove na...naa juy side-effects ang medications. maypa pakan-on nalang ug healthy foods...less on junk foods kay kana maka hyper jud.

[n`gel]

Apo sa akong kaila diri kay ingon pud kuno ang teacher nga naay ADD, then gi medicate. Pag-abot sa mga lolo gi insist nga ipatangtang sa medication and tuonan lang gyud ug pansin ang bata ba, extra love and understanding, mas okay man kuno nga wala i-medicate. Naa na guy uban nga ADHD kids nga ug dili kainom sa ilang tambal murang ma pahong pahong, magkirig kirig sa ka hyper, mosiga ang mata. Pait kaayo.

Pero naa baya'y mga kids nga late bloomers. Karon kay di ganahan mo skwela then ig ka college mo graduate with honors. Basin kana nga bata dili ganahan sa yang teacher mao mas maminaw siya sa ya mom.

[Wadexx]

isulod ug sako, ibitay sa mangga tree then pa-asohan!

[evs]

not all kids who have ADHD are in medication here in the states guys and they don't medicate them right away either. it takes a lot of counseling sessions and observations before they resort to medication and it's only the last resort. I have work part time as an art teacher for two years for 1st & 2nd graders here in the states and was an assistant librarian for a catholic grade school for 3 yrs. I have encountered a lot of kids k - 3rd graders that misbehaves and throw fits at school. The good thing about schools here is they give you a profile of each kid, so naa kay idea as to how to handle it. Though i know one who is in medication kay di na gyud mada, di sya kamao mo interact sa iyang mga classmates then mosokol sa maestra di lang baya vocal physical pa gyud, malooy ka sa madool nya nga classmate kay iya lang itukmod nga way rason mababaye man o lalaki. they actually end up putting him in a special needs class. Di man na nila basta basta lang tagaan ug medication ang bata deri and teachers don't assess ADHD either, schools here have counselors who talks to kids when they misbehaves gravely. every now and then counselors also schedule a session for each kid, just to talk about school even in grade schools. Pag di na gyud mada kanang destructive na gyud kaayo ang bata mao na they have to let parents know during conference or right away og grabe na gyud and behavior. then it's up to the parent to decide wether to put the the kid in counseling kay professionals ra man maka assess ana nila.

i do agree that some kids are just a handful. it's normal for kids to be talkative, that's how they learn to interact, it's their nature to pushed the limits too. as far as i know most kids hate school, my 9 yr old who is tested gifted every year for kids his age hates it too . I think it's the studying and getting ready everyday and the pressure of following rules at school.
naa sad uban kids that are just slow and don't catch up easily, so they get frustrated.

being there for your kids helps a lot, play with them, talk to them, do things together. spend not just quality time but quantity, give them time to relax and give them space do their own thing.
I have notice that most problem child here comes from a divorce family, not all but most. I think the reason being is they did not get enough attention from their parents since either have their own family or single parent mom have to work full time or long hours to support for the family especially if there's more than one child. They are just not around that much.

[n`gel]

@evs I'm sorry but I have to disagree even they give it time to assess. Depends on which school man pud, coz I know for one, anak sa ako xhusband nga grabe gyud ang bata and kami tanan sa ko family makaana gyud nga ug naa siya namo kay di namo paimnon ug tambal mas mabuotan man nuon. Lahi man gud ta diri sa US gud kaysa sa Pinas, sa atoa walay ADHD², tan-awa ang mga siaw ug kiat nga bata eventually matarong raman gyud.

The truth is, most busy parents here don't have much time for their ADHD child mao they rely on medication. Para naku mada ra gyud na ilang condition especially kung bag-o pa nipakita ang bata ug signs ug extra care and attention and love.

If we only know what drugs comprise their medication ambot nalang. Mao man pud gud nay kalahian diri gud, ang mga taw grabe ka dependent ug drugs and as a personal conviction there's nothing as best as a mother's tender love and care.

[evs]

@ngel yep, i'm sure it varies from school to school. sa akong experience we teachers only voice out our concerns, tell them exactly how and what happens, we don't assess it co'z we are not trained to do so, that's what school counselors are for. the rest will be parents discretion of what to do about it.

i'm with you that kids should not be medicated, it's not good for them in the long run. If that woud be my child, i won't allow it either. pero lahi man ta god nila deri plus most people back home di man ka afford kay wa may insurance then taas sad ta pasensya unya we can discipline kids more, deri spanking is even considered child abuse. at least now, doctors are cautious about treating kids with ADHD due to some studies and criticisms it got lately, unlike a few years ago nga adhd dayon pasanginlan.

tinood gyud kulang ra gyud na sila attention, pero unsaon man pod dinhi nga fast man ang pace sa life, single parents can't be in two places at a time. ang priorities nila is to provide the basic needs of their children then naulahi na ang attention, i'm sure they're doing the best they could but sometimes their best is just not enough.

[junmar4]

Diri sa States ang mga teachers ang first gyud mo assess that a child has ADHD. I medicate dayon ang bata, mosamot nuon kabuang while sa atoa sa Pilipinas ang diagnosis ana kay "siaw" lang gyud nga bata or uninterested sa school hehe. Diri tungod walay pasensya ang mga teachers ADHD dayon and sus grabe raba kaayo ang tambal, ingon pa sa among kaila nga pharmacist mura kuno na'g shabu ang ilang tambl i don't really know why she said that pero thinking ba nga bata pa kaayo grabe na kaayo naa nay ingon ana ka grabe nga medication. So please intawn yaw dayon ingon nga ADHD, pasensyaan lang gyud ang bata, he needs to be shown special love and attention.

Mura'g dili man siguro maam based on experience diha. Lain man ang remedy especially if naay something ang bata. But dili sad ko ganahan sa remedy kay isgol ang bata nga assessed na naay "something" sa normal. Magsalig na nuon ang bata then mosamot ka tapulan.

Ira_mae
para nako no, dili lang kay kana bataa ingana, daghan na sila. And you know why? Because bata pa lang sila gipaskwela na, that means, niabot sila sa point nga laayan na.

[n`gel]

Bitaw pud sa... kids are kids. They need to learn yet have fun at the same time! Reminds me of the movie daddy daycare, sakto kaayo.

[Streetcar]

My two kids love school. I have a 12 yr. old who is an advance reader. Hurot na niya tanan Harry Potter books and 2 chicken soup books for the teenage soul. And she is only 12. My two kids love to read since mga bata pa sila. I remember they use to sit with me reading the newspaper each day. They both love going to the library and because they love to read, they also love and enjoy watching movies and dvds. Basta when it comes to movies, they know more than i do. Then kini akong 12 yr. old very consistent sa iyang academics since early as kindergarten i had no problems. There were already early signs that she is going to do well. Up to now. Chess champion akong daughter sa whole 6th graders . Me i dont even know how to play chess. Iyang report card shows consistently all A. Ma A- lang gani, she worries about it. She was always honor roll in the elementary grades, always student of the month very consistent since then. And i am seeing same pattern now that she is in middle school, Grade 7 and 8.

All i can share is when the kid is shown a lot of love and support in the home, that really inspires them to do well in school. I can guarantee you their school performance is better. Parents somehow need to express that love in actions too not only in words. I do not believe in pressuring my kids to do good. Each kid has their own capacity to expand and grow. Instead of me demanding that they bring home straight A's and nothing below that, i tell my kids to do their best. That's all. It helps to always motivate them and not impose and especially appreciate them but never yell at them and make them feel they are nothing instead, make them feel special and loved. Mao na as a parent makaingon ko, what behavior a parent shows in the home, the kid will pick up those vibes whether bad or good. My daughter is service-oriented kaayo. She helps the teachers, helps her classmates, very active in school activities, she is in student government, she is in Math honors class, she performs Philippine dances during FilAm celebrations, supports and helps with school activities, serves lunch to her fellow classmates, sells raffle tickets for the school for dances and trips, stays after class to help her teachers when needed, etc. And on top of that, she reads the bible at bedtime. Mao na akong blessings. I raised my kids well and my lifetime sila akong number 1 priority. Backseat ang mga lalaki. And if i have to choose a man over my children, i will still choose my kids.

[evs]

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I have a 12 yr. old who is an advance reader. Hurot na niya tanan Harry Potter books

hehe...my 9 yr old read most of the HP books too except for the last 2. his classmates parents can't believe it since that was last years and was shocked to find out how high was his accelerated reading at the end of 2nd quarter....i thought he's just like every other kid but i guess not....hehe....i think reading is something that kids pick up at home since me and hubby read a lot also.