
Originally Posted by
kenz
unlike most of you, I'm a husband and my family is living inside same compound sa my parents. and ,yes, agree gyud ko diri sa mga daughters in law. lisod to live with in-laws. not necessarily bad ang either side. its just the way things are... people coming from 2 different sides and way of seeing things mag lisod gyud og ipon. kapamilya gani mag away pa. how much more mga in-laws (mother and daugher) with opposing things at stake. as a husband and a son, am caught in the middle. pero ever since, dapat firm gyud ka to stick with your family. if naa gyud imo palabihon, which believe me naa gyud, it must be ur wife.
whats worse for me now is my mom is at a menopausal stage in her life. grabe ka insecure, grabe ka pessimist. even yaya / helper, patulan niya. and whats more difficult is dili ra ba gyud nimo ma estoryahan. so murag dead end ba. then on the other side, ako wife always complains. can't expect her to understand coz even I have to admit, bati gyud batasan ako mama as compared to her mom.
reason why we're still living in the same compund is because of my dad and a vow I made that we'd live with them. sila ra pud duha and at least kung naa mi, ma alegre pud ang house. living in another roof though same compound, makes it easier to live (peacefully). pero naa gihapon ang pagka hilabtanon nila. I dunno lang, its their nature cguro. Maybe when wala na ako dad, we will be transferring. At least now naa na mi gipa himo house just in case lang. murag plan B bah.
I dunno if naa diri other husbands same dilemna as me. sa mga wives, I know its not easy. I know how hellish it can be for you. Pero, please don't also forget to look at your husbands.... am sure they are carrying twice the burden as you also.
just my 2 cents guys. have a peaceful household!