future inlaws

[vyrene321]

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ask lng ko ninyo..
if your not in good terms with the family of your boyfriend or future husband.. you feel out of place or left out.. are you willing to marry the guy or you will let go??

[carbrill]

knsa may imong minyo an ang family or ang guy? lol...

bitaw di na malikayan nga ma out of place ka specially kung bag o lang mo nag minyo, lay low lang sa, ila ilaha sa sila with their attitudes and let them know u pod para di sad sila ma lainan nmo.. kay basn pod same ilang feelings nga imong na feel...

[FukenGruven]

your marrying your future hubby not the family, although yes you would call them family na once you get married but try to thing positive, baka you guys would have a change of heart towards each other....

[xinevirtucio]

hahaha...

i so can relate to this...

three years...and wala jd ko masuod sa family sa ako fiancee....

i dunno..when i'm with them..murag i'm like the odd girl sticking out...

la lang...lahi lang jud ilang family ties compared to ours..and wala ko maanad...

I remember one time we were fighting and he told me.."you are starting to sound like my mother"...

and i was like..yeah mao cguro d mi mgkadug-ol sa iyang mama...too alike ang personality...

and it bothers me jud..nga di mi tight sa iyang parents..and siblings...

but then he told me....kinsa man imo minyoan..ako o cla....

and i was like.....sakto sad...why would I give up someone who made me so happy..who accepted me for who i am..who stood by me during the toughest times...just because i am not that close to his family...

so the answer is...marry the guy...deal with the family after the wedding....hehehehe

[reginakrys]

ask lng ko ninyo..
if your not in good terms with the family of your boyfriend or future husband.. you feel out of place or left out.. are you willing to marry the guy or you will let go??

you feel out of place if magkuyog ka sa ilang family? it should be sort of your partner's and his family's responsibility to make you feel welcome.. and you should do your part also nga mu-try pud kag reach out, chika2x, get to know them, etc..

but if dli gyud mabuhat, like if magclash gyud mo, then yes, still go with marriage.. as they said, you're marrying the guy, not his family.. but make sure lang to live far away from your in laws once magmarry na mo.. iwas gubot ba.. hehehe.

[THE KID]

normal rana.......

[neurain]

maanad raka paninguha lang sab nga ma okay mo sa iya family

[vyrene321]

thank you everyone for the advice.. i was once in that position.. the newbie and the ghost sa family sa akong husband.. but im happy that i belong to his family i love his family like mine.

i will make the situation more clear. this is my future sis inlaw.
we use to like her alot.. uyab na sila sa akong bro-inlaw for 9yrs na.. but 3yrs ago nag buwag na sila and we found out mga things na sakit para sa members sa family (sa akong husband) manglibak man sya about sa mga tita, paumangkot ang ilang balay (dili man mi datu) ug uban pang storia. and i feel the pain of my husband's family and i can't fight back for them. the sad part pa jud despite of this they got back together and getting married pa jud.. and tanan iyang nasakitan apil sa entourage..tungod sa love namu akong bro-inlaw wla nalang nag karoon ng lakas ng loob iyang mga parents and relative to open up anything about the painful things that she said. (he very much knows about it. kay part of those info gikan niya) if you are in my situation. gi saway inyong anak, tita, lola, ug uban pa. what is the best thing you can do?
i badly need advice kase dili nako kapugong sa akong kasapot everytime i see her. i might say things i will regret as an inlaw i feel helpless and i dont have the authority to get mad.

tnx tnx

[Genocide]

kasagaran raba kong ing ani na na situation kay ang mga inlaws moy dili jud nimo makisinabot.
labi nag ang fam sa girl kay purus mga adonahan nya ikaw kay unsa ra.

[ches1091]

nahitabo na ni sako with my ex . bf nako for 4 yrs unya iya mama nd other relatives really hates me . i dont know why jud . it's just iya mama ipokreta kaayo, hilig makialam sa among rel. she was a disaster to me jud . ipokreta kaayog batasan in which kabaliktaran kaayo sa akong family sa akong ex gnhan kaayo akong mama sa iyaha which is wla lng jud cla kbalo sa unsay tnuod btasan sakong ex . mao to isa sa reason nga gbulagan nako xa kay tungod sa iya family nd relatives . good thing buotan kaayo ang family sa akong present bf in which happy kaayo ko