Do you think I'm a bad Mother for my kids?

[beeprecious101]

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i have 1 kid to raise and also has responsibilities with my parents.. but despite that, i never thought of being apart/ away from my son.. bahala lisod kaau pwo kayahon jud nako para nila. i can't afford not having my son with me jud. what i do is i work harder nalang.. i find fulfillment on it man pd.

but with ur case, u r not bad at all.. u have ur own reason to do so, just keep d contact constant and also spend time to bond with ur kids! u r still their mom despite the distance.. just also make sure nga bsag ur apart from them, ur doing something meaningful in life nga para sa ila para they won't be thinking nga u are only doing things for urself only and wla nalang sila apil because they're with their dad.. i hope though that they will be fully with you someday! God bless..

[carbrill]

sakto ra man sad imong gibuhat there is nothing wrong with it... but wat if naa nmo ang imong mga anak then ang imong ex husband kay mao ray tighatag ug allowance sa mga bata den every weenkends adto ba sila sa ilang dad... kay at that age sa mga bata they need their mother...

[emow]

Ts, i guess dili ra imung asawa ang irresponsable.... you are rationalizing and convincing yourself that what you did is justifiable... to answer the title of the thread, yes you are a bad mother.... but it doesnt have to be that way forever... Dont let other people raise your kids.... ing ana rana ka simple.... maski kabaw ka irresponsable imung asawa, gibilin gihapon nimu ky it doesnt mean irresponsable iyang pamilya?....katawa lang ku ug ga lingo2x.... ing ana diay ka ka weak? if you are, then that is a better decision cguro.... but what i know is, kung mahimu na ug amahan o inahan ang usa ka tawo, he/she cannot afford to be weak....mangita gyud na paagi... Wala ka kuyawi mag daku ra na sa yaya imung mga anak? basta naa lang silay makaon sah, okay na kaau? basic ra kaau na TS.... i want you to be mad at me... because then, you might still have hope.... the fact you posted something like this means you are bothered...or just want to be reassured you have done nothing wrong.... to me, you are wrong...but you can still change it if you want....

[reginakrys]

sakto ra man sad imong gibuhat there is nothing wrong with it... but wat if naa nmo ang imong mga anak then ang imong ex husband kay mao ray tighatag ug allowance sa mga bata den every weenkends adto ba sila sa ilang dad... kay at that age sa mga bata they need their mother...

I agree.. At that age, mga adolescence, kelangan jud nag proper parental guidance.. Who do you think will explain things to them and guide them through this difficult stage? Their father who, as you say, is irresponsible? If they dont learn things from their parents, you can be sure that they will turn to something else.. Media, for example, or their peers..

[carbrill]

sakto c regina...

@ts mao ra ni akong na bantayan most of the female parent can be a father and mother but the father can not be a mother and a father to their children, mangita jud na silag kaparis para mo raise sa mga bata for example ilang parents. he can always provide the things necessary for the family but he can not give what a motherly figure can give...

[tenda]

i beg to disagree.

my relative stand as mother and father to his baby. he even sacrifice his job for the sake of his child. his mom offered to do the things but declined it.

btw, his wife passed away after giving birth. the child now is 2yo.

sakto c regina...

@ts mao ra ni akong na bantayan most of the female parent can be a father and mother but the father can not be a mother and a father to their children, mangita jud na silag kaparis para mo raise sa mga bata for example ilang parents. he can always provide the things necessary for the family but he can not give what a motherly figure can give...

[PURPZ LOCKHEART]

thanks for sharing guys and gals!

[ulyssa_marie]

I give you credit for putting ur priorities straight.

There are pros and cons to your decision -- ive read that most istoryans have enumerated them, and i agree with both sides of keeping the kids, and letting them go.

I'm too young to have my own family, but i understand the hardship of having to let go of your children. As a daughter, i know the hardship of my mother, of having to raise me with limited financial support.


But mind you, us children, do not need a luxurious life - sure, in the times of puberty, we will demand for such, but we grow up eventually, and begin to realize that what mothers have done for us, no matter how small, are important to our development.

Is it possible for you to give them their basic needs and also keep them by ur side? or must you let them go for a "luxurious life"?

Coz eventually, they will realize that luxury is only a want. But a mother's guidance is what they need.

[kiko]

TS i know your looking after the welfare of your kids... you swallowed your pride and that is in fact not an act of selfishness but an act of courage and motherly love... your no different from a mother who has gone overseas to earn more for her family... I know it pains you to be away from your children... they are so close yet so far... and its good that you spend time with them.... i hope that you always let them understand why your not with them.. let them know the circumstances as to why your family is not together... would they want to be in a family where you and your husband always fight? Let them understand that your husband and you love them dearly and both of you just want the best for them.. right now the best thing is for you and your husband to be separated from each other... this situation is the best for them... i only hope and pray that your husband wont take your kids away from you....

All the best to you and your children TS...

[PURPZ LOCKHEART]

thanks kiko. that is nice of you to view the side of a mother when in fact you're a man. for me it means you are open-minded and have a wide perspective in life rather than narrow minded. i like the way you analyze and approach things with your simple but concise thoughts. way to go bro!

TS i know your looking after the welfare of your kids... you swallowed your pride and that is in fact not an act of selfishness but an act of courage and motherly love... your no different from a mother who has gone overseas to earn more for her family... I know it pains you to be away from your children... they are so close yet so far... and its good that you spend time with them.... i hope that you always let them understand why your not with them.. let them know the circumstances as to why your family is not together... would they want to be in a family where you and your husband always fight? Let them understand that your husband and you love them dearly and both of you just want the best for them.. right now the best thing is for you and your husband to be separated from each other... this situation is the best for them... i only hope and pray that your husband wont take your kids away from you....

All the best to you and your children TS...