What would you do if...

[yvonne6]

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maka relate man ko aning situasyona oi. same in some aspects but naa pud dakung difference. in my case, almost 6 yrs mi sa amahan sa akong 5 yr old kid when he never changed, irresponsible gihapon. from the time nag mabdos ko, ako na tanan sa bata until now. grabe ka barkadista akong ex ug ni cheat pa jud several times. i got fed up and decided to move on with my life. april of last year i met a canadian through chat and he sent me to school and accepted my single motherhood. supported me and the kids. december he came and met me in person. my ex then, came back and admitted that he was so hurt that i am with another man. regretted all he did and asked for one last chance. i love him and our kid so i did take him back. ang kapaet, wala man lang gihapon nausab. he got even worse. 2 months ago, we finally broke up for good and it was ugly. in your case, dont ever think nga kuarta lang ang importante ts, because its not. miserable lang imong gf ug imong ipanghatag sa foreigner because u think its best for her. as long nga maningkamot mong duha, makapangita ra mog paagi. fight for your love and for your kid

[kir_ovs]

sure diay ka nga makuha pana nimo imo anak if times come? dili nana ihatag sa imoha and usa pa dili nman sad na mo duol nimo. Nag libog sad ko unsaon na nimo TS... Pro kung ako naa sa imo side dili ko mo sugot wui.. mangita ko paigi maningkamot ko nga mo asinso nya ipa mukha sa iyang mama nga nawng siya og kwarta.

[mitch_a888]

IMHO:

ang girl (or say, her family is practical). let her be. since the baby is 3 years old, you cannot take it away from her since our law grants that it should be on the mother's side until it reaches 7 years old.

just let her go. but make sure that you do your best to prove that not only you can afford to give moral support, but also financial. someday if successful naka, fight for the custody of your baby. no need to stick with a "material girl". she'll realize soon what she's missing.

good luck!

[sushikandi]

Put into writing that you still have the right to see your child. Although the child should be in the custody of the mother until she's 7yo. Ask her what's her 5yr plan? 10yr plan? And see if you are still part of it. You already decided to let go of your relationship for the ambition of her parents and hers. Good luck!

[PseudoSurgeon]

Hay kalisod pud. Uhm, TS, ig abot sa panahon na mastable na ka, unya imo na kuhaon imong anak, do you really think nga ihatag na niya nimo? Pila gud kayears niya giako ang responsibility sa inyong anak. I don't think it'll be that easy. You made your decision naman gud, and nakaunderstand man sad ko nga imong giprioritize nga maayo ang kahimtang nilang duha sa imong anak. But murag nahug man gud nga nibiya gyud ka and imo na siyang gihatag. Butang ta lang ma stable ka in 5 yrs, di man gihapon assurance nga mabalik ang dati. Daghan kaayo pwede mahitabo within those years. You would also have to consider nga basin IKAW, makakita sad kag lain nya marealize nimo nga mao jud toh imong ganahan diay. Ana gud. So akong ikatambag nimo, don't make big promises like that. Kay basin di na nimo makeep. Take it a day at a time, nya paningkamot!