im not yet married and im no expert in laws regarding this. sorry to ask but please correct me if im wrong, that your only motivation for marrying your guy is ang inheritance nga makuha sa imong anak from him? with the way i understood what you had written, seems like you care nothing about the guy, much more about love for him yet. as much as possible, ayaw usa pakasal kung di pa gyud ka sure as in. sorry to say but however serious and true man ang intentions sa imong future husband, kung ikaw di pa gyud sure, ayaw lang usa sud kay di gyud ka kadali2x og gawas. gasto ang magpa annul, usik sad sa panahon og emotions.
as far as i know, once you marry legally, sekreto man or di, lisod siya i break nga contrata.