Getting Married... Kalabad sa ulo (Here's the story)

[emow]

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best course of action bai...move ur wedding.... ma kuha lage nimu imung gusto pero either maglagot imung bro in law o imung pamilya....there are unreasonable beliefs in any given family.... so, just move it... your wife to be will appreciate you more.... let them reimburse you for the payments of course....

[wilx]

hala uy.. naa jud mga tao na libog (for both parties).. no offense TS.. sa ako ha.. dli mn ko mutuo anang malas malas gud ba.. ngano problema mn kau ninyu nang sukob uy.. tinuod ba gud jud na..? Pero I cant blame you sa imong beliefs or tinuuhan. imo mn sad na..

ako pa nimo, pasagdi nlng na cla.. concentrate on your wedding nlng. try to ask your suppliers if pwede ba mo ma move nlng ninyu ang date sa inyong kasal. Most suppliers are very flexible sa mga in-ani ba.. pasabta lng gud ninyu kung unsa ang sitwasyon. (Take note: hangyo ha.. dli mo masuko nila kay dli ninyu right mag suko suko kung dli cla musugot. kamo bya nag move sa date in the first place. hehe.. ). pero try lng gud ug hangyo. I guess, dli mn jud na nga i-ty ra nila ang imong gibayad.

kung naay gamay na fees, cge nlng! compared sa dli na jud mauli ang kwarta. And I think dli ra sad problema ang money jud kay ma move mn sya sa layo na date, napa ka daghan time to save up..

consider it a blessing na ma move ang date. it will give you more time for the preparations for your wedding Not just the physical preparations but the self pud. Dli lalim ang mag minyu bya. Lahi bya sa atong culture. you're not just marrying your girl, you're also marrying the whole family bya! hehe.

If ani pa lng daan na dli namo maka settle ug conflict sa iyang bro na wla pa mo nag minyu, unsa nlng kung minyu mo? Kagubot nlng sa inyong married life. learn to compromise. I'm not saying na you have to go their way jud pirmi, pero naa jud mga tao na libog kau, dli kasabot sa sitwasyon. I think in your part, ikaw man ang mas naay responsibility na mu give way or mu adjust ani na sitwasyon.. kay sa ila mn gud part, naa may need, nag dali cla tungod lagi kay buntis.

kay humana mn.. ayaw nlng ug point fingers kung kinsa mn jud ning sala. kay ila mn jud ni sala -- acting without thinking of consequences. pero kay naa nmn, ikaw nlng mu adjust.

lisod ba gud kau mu adjust?

Bro, kami bitaw mu adjust... I did mention in my post nga kami nalang gyud mu adjust ani. For some reason, Ang naka bati lang, kai kami na nuon na himu ug bati. Kami ang gi blame na which is I don't think is right. "We gave them options, kato sauna cause pwede pa ma likayan ang ingon ani, but they didn't even consider us."

[wilx]

best course of action bai...move ur wedding.... ma kuha lage nimu imung gusto pero either maglagot imung bro in law o imung pamilya....there are unreasonable beliefs in any given family.... so, just move it... your wife to be will appreciate you more.... let them reimburse you for the payments of course....

we will talk about it when the time is right. That's what we're planning bro to move our wedding. I never imagined that this will happen to us. Pero naka hitabo naman so good luck to them. I don't know if I can forgive them with what they've done to us, but probably in time....

[Insanitarium]

Kanindot pa ipatiklo anang imong brother in law oist. And seriously. It's ironic and amusing... this part....

Okay raman unta toh bah kung nag pa huwis lang unta sila pero dili gyud sila mag church gyud daw sila kai naa daw dignity ang girl.

If the girl truly had dignity, wala unta nagpalami sa gibati. Getting married only because they are having a baby? If they loved each other from the very start, he should have committed. They should have committed like you and your girl. They should have known better and considered the worst case scenario of what could have happened with their lovemaking sessions. They were totally unprepared! And it's not love as the reason they are getting married. Nor the baby. But it's because dili maenroll ang girl sa school kung wala nakasal sa church.

Now, gidali dali ug ikaw nalang jud naaning ani TS. Hopefully everything will turn out better on your wedding day in case it moved or whatnot. Until then, God Bless that your love for each other will always be there until your wedding and until death do you apart.

[wilx]

Kanindot pa ipatiklo anang imong brother in law oist. And seriously. It's ironic and amusing... this part....



If the girl truly had dignity, wala unta nagpalami sa gibati. Getting married only because they are having a baby? If they loved each other from the very start, he should have committed. They should have committed like you and your girl. They should have known better and considered the worst case scenario of what could have happened with their lovemaking sessions. They were totally unprepared! And it's not love as the reason they are getting married. Nor the baby. But it's because dili maenroll ang girl sa school kung wala nakasal sa church.

Now, gidali dali ug ikaw nalang jud naaning ani TS. Hopefully everything will turn out better on your wedding day in case it moved or whatnot. Until then, God Bless that your love for each other will always be there until your wedding and until death do you apart.

Thank you so much... That's how it is. I'll just force myself to be happy for them.

[ei]

Bro, kami bitaw mu adjust... I did mention in my post nga kami nalang gyud mu adjust ani. For some reason, Ang naka bati lang, kai kami na nuon na himu ug bati. Kami ang gi blame na which is I don't think is right. "We gave them options, kato sauna cause pwede pa ma likayan ang ingon ani, but they didn't even consider us."

dli ko bro uy.. sis ko.. haha..

it's good na kamo mu adjust. pasagdi nlng na cla uy kung kamo himuon nahimong bati.. naa jud mga tao na libog.. hehe.. don't stoop down their level.

Good luck sa inyu wedding and advance congratulations!

[reginakrys]

what's stopping you from pursuing your original plans? kanang sukob2x thing? hmmm. personally, i don't believe in that.. so if i were in your place, i would push through with my wedding.. but it's up to your own beliefs sad.. ikaw, motuo ka anang sukob?

if so, then move nalang your wedding date.. and make your future brother in law and wife reimburse you for your losses.. hehe.

[bosin]

ts: Okay raman unta toh bah kung nag pa huwis lang unta sila pero dili gyud sila mag church gyud daw sila kai naa daw dignity ang girl.

dle gyud na pwd ila g.buhat oi! nya unsa.on naman lang ni?

[bowee]

@TS

for me lang ha... since ilang pakasal was a shotgun wedding of sort, I think you should be the one to just give way nalang. Tutal wala man nila planoha sad ni tanan, though sakit man kau sa imong part nga you've been planning for these for months and even years tingali.. pero, if you would not give in sad sa imong pride ngadto sa parents sa imong GF... it would only show sad sa ilang part how low level minded you are to them.. Sama ra ka sa imong brother in law ug huna-huna.. I know your above level than the squirt.. so my advice is.. to just move your wedding at a certain date or time nalang.

Sakit man gali jud ang na invest na nimo nga money for the preparation of your wedding.. PERO.. makit.an ra man gud na ang kwarta bai... ang dungog ug ang respect sa parents sa imong GF ngadto nimo ang dili mabayloan ug kwarta... I think they would appreciate you more for giving in to these situation.

And to your family sad... Pasabta lang pud imong parents... I know your parents might be put in an inconvenient situation as these, but.. any kind of reasonable and logical thinking on your part would ultimately appease them down....

Basta sa akoa lang bro.. Ang kwarta makit.an ra lagi gihapon na nimo.. ang Respect sa imong soon to be in-laws dha nimo ang dili... You have to earn it big..

cge nalang gud bai.. cool heads solve solutions, hot heads doesnt solve anything at all...

[wilx]

what's stopping you from pursuing your original plans? kanang sukob2x thing? hmmm. personally, i don't believe in that.. so if i were in your place, i would push through with my wedding.. but it's up to your own beliefs sad.. ikaw, motuo ka anang sukob?

if so, then move nalang your wedding date.. and make your future brother in law and wife reimburse you for your losses.. hehe.

I don't want to proceed cause it makes me feel bad about my parents. I don't want them to feel uneasy and make them feel bad about our wedding. So that's why dili ko ganahan ug gubot nga kasal, I want it nga naay blessing both sa amung parents. That's why gi tarong gyud namu ug pama.agi amung kasal.