FOR THE GUYS: Love & Friendship 101

[Baeybe_Bryce]

Lemme just quote this:

"Hindi porke't madalas mong ka-chat, kausap sa telepono, kasama sa mga lakad o ka-text ng wantusawa eh may gusto sayo at magkakatuluyan kayo. Meron lang talagang mga taong sadyang friendly, sweet, flirt, malandi, pa-fall o paasa."

QUESTIONS:

1. What are the things a GUY/GIRL shouldn't DO or SHOW to someone if FRIENDSHIP ra ilahang pakay? (FRIENDSHIP 101)

2. What are the things a GUY/GIRL should do na dapat SPECIAL ra for that person THEY LOVE or intend to be with? (LOVERS 101)



The answers to these are subjective, but here's mine:

1. Don't flirt too much, don't say sweet words that you can't swallow and don't act like your the bf. In short set limitations.

2. I say it. My words are the confirmation.

[ives13]

Quote:
NOPE actually! He is really genuinely Mr Nice Guy gyud! The only problem is the dilemma the girls get when they get to know him! Sa mga dili kapugong, ma IN LOVE gyud niya! Sa mga mu really get to know him, ahw sayu pa lang kahibaw na nga "FRIENDLY" ra na iyahang pgka ingun ana!

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There's a thin line between being friendly ug magpadahom...

[yiennahs]

nakanotice ko nga there are times jud na a friend suddenly wants to court me but it's not really my type to give in to a friend cause first, they know me and mauwaw sad ko kay liman ka kaila gyud siya naku ug akong mga hugaw. hehehe but nakanotice ko ingun ana jud ang ubang guys, madevelop sila ug friend.


1. What are the things a GUY/GIRL shouldn't DO or SHOW to someone if FRIENDSHIP ra ilahang pakay? (FRIENDSHIP 101)

- put some limitations and turn him off lol

2. What are the things a GUY/GIRL should do na dapat SPECIAL ra for that person THEY LOVE or intend to be with? (LOVERS 101)

- kiss him and more lol

[reigel99]

kahinomdom nuon ko ani doc, Just a Nice Guy

1. What are the things a GUY/GIRL shouldn't DO or SHOW to someone if FRIENDSHIP ra ilahang pakay? (FRIENDSHIP 101)
- friends are friends... I won't sleep alone with a girl if she is not special to me...
I won't show myself naked
lisod man explain doc...
ahhh!! I won't be marrying her...

2. What are the things a GUY/GIRL should do na dapat SPECIAL ra for that person
THEY LOVE or intend to be with? (LOVERS 101)
haha I'll shout to the world that she's my girlfriend... and I love her...
and I'll marry her...

[angel_brey]

Quote:
NOPE actually! He is really genuinely Mr Nice Guy gyud! The only problem is the dilemma the girls get when they get to know him! Sa mga dili kapugong, ma IN LOVE gyud niya! Sa mga mu really get to know him, ahw sayu pa lang kahibaw na nga "FRIENDLY" ra na iyahang pgka ingun ana!
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There's a thin line between being friendly ug magpadahom...

KOREK! Mao na akong gipa learn niya na difference between FRIENDLY and making paasa!

nakanotice ko nga there are times jud na a friend suddenly wants to court me but it's not really my type to give in to a friend cause first, they know me and mauwaw sad ko kay liman ka kaila gyud siya naku ug akong mga hugaw. hehehe but nakanotice ko ingun ana jud ang ubang guys, madevelop sila ug friend.
1. What are the things a GUY/GIRL shouldn't DO or SHOW to someone if FRIENDSHIP ra ilahang pakay? (FRIENDSHIP 101)
- put some limitations and turn him off lol

2. What are the things a GUY/GIRL should do na dapat SPECIAL ra for that person THEY LOVE or intend to be with? (LOVERS 101)
- kiss him and more lol

Hhahaha kuwangan pa girl! Dungagi na! heheheh

kahinomdom nuon ko ani doc, Just a Nice Guy

OT jud ka reigel! hahaha Joke! Cge go tanawun ta na!

[ryeaka]

True, all those things mentioned are things that are normal (depending on the personality and habbits of a person).

But one should ALWAYS take note of the possibility that someone might fall in love with you because of those actions. We should all take responsibility of our actions, right? We should think before acting, and consider how our actions may affect the immediate person. (they might fall in love or get hurt)

Also , it is the responsibility of the one being affected, to CONTROL his/her emotions. Before any confrontation/confirmation is made between the 2 persons, one should always keep their emotions at neutral, in order to keep yourself from self-inflicted pain.
If you fall in love with him/her ,nya normal ra diay toh, u've only got urself to blame for the hurt.

It's not "what is being done", but how you interpret the act.

i have to agree with what you're saying... i am by nature, sweet to anyone i know... although that sweetness i only convey through words, some guys tend to misinterpret them and think i have feelings for them... so eventually, guys who would be close to me would want to bring our relationship one step higher... then diha na... asta ang friendship mawala kay lisod man sad mosugot ko nya wa jud koy feelings diba?

so karon im careful... i set limitations and boundaries na... sayangan kaayo ko sa friendship nga madestroy if mo-court na ang opposite ***...

I think its normal, what not normal is this.
KISSING with no commitment.
TOUCHING with no commitment..
*** PARTNER and yet in the end of the day...FRIENDS...


I think, caring someone, take care and respect someone is really fine..but talo lang tong una ma INLOVE..
Just put ONE BIG RULER an inch away from friendship and a lover or a fling for that matter

whew gudluck.. tugsaw mood

PS ayaw mo pailad lalaki.. mangingilad kay na. nyahahhaha

agree ko ana rhex... pildi jud ang ma-inlove... it almost happened to me... maygani i was quick to stay away from that guy... although i can say, gahan japon ko niya but atleast dili nako pareho sauna nga kiligon makakita hahahahha

True, but take note. Some cultures use kissing or touching as a greeting gesture. Or something that's normal. we should control our emotions so that we dont go falling in love right away. haha.

It's hard to find a definite line between love and friendship. so becareful..

good luck TS

agree ko ana ive learned my lesson jud... now im in control...

aside from very physical intimacy like what a normal bg/gf relationship usually do, i think its okay to convey your feelings without hesitation or second thoughts that you might be misunderstood for your "amiga".most of my very close friends are girls.how the friendship started and its foundation is i think very important.i think there shouldnt be any line that should be drawn as long as what your intentions to your friend are clean and without malice

mmmmm okay ra man jud.... but guys should also accept the fact nga kami mga girls, weakness namo na ang sweet ug nice nga guy... so if you want us not to fall in love with you i believe guys should also try not to be too sweet nga mainlove mi.. basta ako lang, sayangan jud ko sa friendship nga madestroy if ingon ana... kay not all people maka accept man gud defeat...

[ryeaka]

QUESTIONS:

1. What are the things a GUY/GIRL shouldn't DO or SHOW to someone if FRIENDSHIP ra ilahang pakay? (FRIENDSHIP 101)

if a guy is only after friendship, he doesn't have to text the girl every minute of everyday... He doesn't have to act as if concern kaayo sya with what's gonna happen sa girl in a day. Sus! kadali ra ba jud ilove sa tao nga ingon ani hahahahhaa... so better be careful nalang... he also has to learn to say no... kay mag-expect raba daun mi nga oi ganahan jud ni sya nako not just as a friend kay murag di man jud ka DILI...

2. What are the things a GUY/GIRL should do na dapat SPECIAL ra for that person THEY LOVE or intend to be with? (LOVERS 101)

kani pinaka sayon hahahahaha! you just have to put into action the love that you feel for your someone special... never let a day pass by without showing him/her that you care... and never give him/her the impression that you're also doing that to your other friends kay diha naman sad daun mogawas ang insecurities... you have to show him/her that he/she is much more important than your friends... this applies sa sweetness ha? not on the way one values the relationship... sometimes man gud over ra sad kaayo ang uban girlfriend or boyfriend nga di nalang sad jud pakuyogan ang ila partners sa ila friends... lahi nasad na... hehhehe

[Exodus.Genesis]

Girl's fall easily? -- well, it's nothing to be embarassed of. Females are emotional creatures by nature. That's one thing they have that men don't. Emotions tend to navigate their actions (most of the times, but not all). When it comes to romance, females tend to grow weak in the knees, regardless of how intelligent she is.

BUT, this shouldnt be an excuse. Like i said, learn how to control feelings. It'll take a lot of practise, but it's worth the effort, in order to keep yourselves from the pain. Keep your feelings at neutral to avoid being hurt. only if the guy spills that he has feelings for you, then let your emotions go free.

Men, on the other hand, we are rational beings. Therefore, we shouldn't use the excuse that "it's normal for us. i didnt mean to make you fall for me.". "most" men know what theyre doing and the effects of it. Most guys intentionally do these to get an ego boost. once they know that the girl likes them, they feel more "desirable". But ofcourse, this is ethically wrong! men need to consider that that female is a friend, and not a toy. Be responsible for one's actions and make sure not to step on others' feelings along the way. If a man can't do this, then he's perhaps too immature to think of others yet.

[annerhexian]

Originally Posted by Exodus.Genesis
True, but take note. Some cultures use kissing or touching as a greeting gesture. Or something that's normal. we should control our emotions so that we dont go falling in love right away. haha.

It's hard to find a definite line between love and friendship. so becareful..

good luck TS


CGe, ako nalang ni especific.. french kissing (tongue tied,lock up,jaw dropping kisses) , touching private parts.. ciaro..
hahaahaha mao na ako g mean na kissing and touching..
ok ra na beso2. kiss sa forehead, sa cheeks or hug goodbye pero ayaw sad ng morag tuko..

maka define man gani tag lust.. what more sa love..

its all in our mind how to control it man jud... and besides, we, are just human..
we need a HUMAN TOUCH.. would it be much more to ask.. a HUMAN CARE...
but if dili kaya. dili ta mogos.. ngeta tag lain freinds na makasabot nato..


and if by lover jd imo gipangita.. aw sorry cant relate..
resigned nako ana. HHAHAHA

OPEN COMMUNICATION and OPEN minded lang guru mo sa opposite ***
and it depends if u close or OPEN ur body to that..

thats ur decision na

[gARN]

Our actions can sometimes be misleading.. especially when the other party starts to over think the situation.. hence, in order to avoid frustrations, make it clear from the start.. ask, don't assume.. asking can save you from investing your genuine emotions in pseudo relationships..ú