FOR THE GUYS: Love & Friendship 101

[angel_brey]

siguro dapat butangan boundary or limitation ang friendship. ang tendency ma fall jud kun super caring ang guy and viceversa.

KOREK! There should be boundaries jud or else, pildi ug masakitan ra ang ma in love masking na DILI diay in love ang person niya!

the only time you'll know is when he tells you about him

on this situation it's better cguro to be a little careful not to fall into some kind of trap that wasn't intended for you.

try to be friend with their friends to understand and know them better.

That would only and could only apply to MATURE individuals! What about shallows ones or psychotic ones? Basin ra unya magkasakitan ra OR WORST, e KIDNAP ang pa tweetums kaayo na GUY or GIRL na FRIENDSHIP ra ang intention, or LUMAYUN or e KIDNAP ug kung dili ma ilaha kay dili sila LOVE sa person, e CHOP2x nila para ILAHAUN gyud! And THOSE THINGS I mentioned up there we DO NOT want to happen to these types of individuals!

Mao na, I am asking you guys and imploring your help to SET THE BOUNDARIES on what is OKAY on a FRIENDSHIP LEVEL and what IS NOT anymore! Cge go guys and girls, FIRE AWAY!

[Exodus.Genesis]

True, all those things mentioned are things that are normal (depending on the personality and habbits of a person).

But one should ALWAYS take note of the possibility that someone might fall in love with you because of those actions. We should all take responsibility of our actions, right? We should think before acting, and consider how our actions may affect the immediate person. (they might fall in love or get hurt)

Also , it is the responsibility of the one being affected, to CONTROL his/her emotions. Before any confrontation/confirmation is made between the 2 persons, one should always keep their emotions at neutral, in order to keep yourself from self-inflicted pain.
If you fall in love with him/her ,nya normal ra diay toh, u've only got urself to blame for the hurt.

[Exodus.Genesis]

It's not "what is being done", but how you interpret the act.

[J.Abz]

@Miss Adhara


there are no Dos and Donts in a relationship or being friends... You have to lay down all the cards in the table so that both of you will know what are you really getting into....

No pretentions and assumptions.... Just lay it everything on the table....

[annerhexian]

I think its normal, what not normal is this.
KISSING with no commitment.
TOUCHING with no commitment..
*** PARTNER and yet in the end of the day...FRIENDS...


I think, caring someone, take care and respect someone is really fine..but talo lang tong una ma INLOVE..
Just put ONE BIG RULER an inch away from friendship and a lover or a fling for that matter

whew gudluck.. tugsaw mood

PS ayaw mo pailad lalaki.. mangingilad kay na. nyahahhaha

[nealotol]

so meaning ani, gi ilad ra diay.. klaro kaau ang tuyo aning taw han kay maka score ra, so better watch and be vigilant.

[Exodus.Genesis]

I think its normal, what not normal is this.
KISSING with no commitment.
TOUCHING with no commitment..
*** PARTNER and yet in the end of the day...FRIENDS...


I think, caring someone, take care and respect someone is really fine..but talo lang tong una ma INLOVE..
Just put ONE BIG RULER an inch away from friendship and a lover or a fling for that matter

whew gudluck.. tugsaw mood

PS ayaw mo pailad lalaki.. mangingilad kay na. nyahahhaha

True, but take note. Some cultures use kissing or touching as a greeting gesture. Or something that's normal. we should control our emotions so that we dont go falling in love right away. haha.

It's hard to find a definite line between love and friendship. so becareful..

good luck TS

[jofer]

aside from very physical intimacy like what a normal bg/gf relationship usually do, i think its okay to convey your feelings without hesitation or second thoughts that you might be misunderstood for your "amiga".most of my very close friends are girls.how the friendship started and its foundation is i think very important.i think there shouldnt be any line that should be drawn as long as what your intentions to your friend are clean and without malice

[angel_brey]

It's not "what is being done", but how you interpret the act.

If only ALL WOMEN were not SHALLOW but usually baya ang babae gyud ang DALI kaayo mu fall!

@Miss Adhara
there are no Dos and Donts in a relationship or being friends... You have to lay down all the cards in the table so that both of you will know what are you really getting into....
No pretentions and assumptions.... Just lay it everything on the table....

I respect your opinion dear, but for me, I guess there should be rules!

With this guy I know, there are certain "GIRLS" that he likes but then he ends up being striked down or biyaan ra kalit with no reason or explanation at all. Since I am a GIRL and I got to know this friend of mine really well, I guess the problem was because he got all the GIRLS confused by his actions! When they found out later on that THEY are not the only ones he is doing that to (eg opening doors, txting or messaging every now n then 4-5x a week), that is the moment they get FRUSTRATED, FLOP OUT & LEAVE and leave the guy feeling like just being a "BESTFRIEND."

It is easier said and done the "NO PRETENTIONS AND ASSUMPTIONS" thing you are talking about, BUT not all people GIRLS or GUYS think like we do! Mao na, I guess there should be rules!

I think its normal, what not normal is this.
KISSING with no commitment.
TOUCHING with no commitment..
*** PARTNER and yet in the end of the day...FRIENDS...

I think, caring someone, take care and respect someone is really fine..but talo lang tong una ma INLOVE..
Just put ONE BIG RULER an inch away from friendship and a lover or a fling for that matter

whew gudluck.. tugsaw mood

PS ayaw mo pailad lalaki.. mangingilad kay na. nyahahhaha

OT: Buing jud ka Rhex! Ato ra ba ning MIGO atung ge discuss diri! ngyahahaha! JOKE! Ug shodi mention gallur! On training ni nako ang usa! Na Love Guru nasad ko karun kay daghan mga na dilemma na kaila nako! Ngano mo uy! hahahaha

OnT: @ALL, we all have our own opinions! What I am saying here is that at the end of it all, MOST OF THE TIME, it is the GIRLS na alkansi or get to fall in love so QUICKLY with all those little moves that may seem normal to 1 person but when compared to every other guy would STAND OUT as something SPECIAL!

[angel_brey]

True, but take note. Some cultures use kissing or touching as a greeting gesture. Or something that's normal. we should control our emotions so that we dont go falling in love right away. haha.
It's hard to find a definite line between love and friendship. so becareful..
good luck TS

Dear, dili nato apilun ang LAIN na cultures kay ang atung ge storya is HERE in the PHILIPPINES or diri nalang sa CEBU kay mga sugbuanon man gyud ta!

It really isn't hard to find a definite line between love and friendship! Sayun ra man, but the only problem is that you have to consider 2 hearts! If ako na ang GIRL or GUY na ingun ana, I too have to consider that with what I am doing, I am not turning someone on or else I end up making them paasa na manguyab ko nila or sugton sila nako if manguyab sila kay "SPECIAL" gud akong pag treat nila!

aside from very physical intimacy like what a normal bg/gf relationship usually do, i think its okay to convey your feelings without hesitation or second thoughts that you might be misunderstood for your "amiga".most of my very close friends are girls.how the friendship started and its foundation is i think very important.i think there shouldnt be any line that should be drawn as long as what your intentions to your friend are clean and without malice

Yes I understand what you are saying! But we have to take into consideration that not all BF or GF understands that as "NORMAL" for you two with your friend and it takes a lot of time for BFs or GFs to understand that depending also on the MATURITY level of your partner. Mao na nga kailangan gyud ug thin line in between.

so meaning ani, gi ilad ra diay.. klaro kaau ang tuyo aning taw han kay maka score ra, so better watch and be vigilant.

NOPE actually! He is really genuinely Mr Nice Guy gyud! The only problem is the dilemma the girls get when they get to know him! Sa mga dili kapugong, ma IN LOVE gyud niya! Sa mga mu really get to know him, ahw sayu pa lang kahibaw na nga "FRIENDLY" ra na iyahang pgka ingun ana!

Dili man gud jud na nato malikayan na people would fall gyud for people like these! Even I was a part of these types of people but then I had to learn it the hard way how to separate FRIENDSHIP from LOVE RELATIONSHIP! I am naturally sweet to every person I meet, but now I joke around so as not to mislead them or not get misconstrued in that case because I don't want to be the reason for a fight between lovers or worst, a breakup between married couples!