Is he my son?

[reigel99]

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brad, you spent time and effort, and perhaps invested some emotions into it, wala unta nimo gi erase. i would have wanted to read your post, as well as sharing it with others. this is the family matters forum, we are the istorya family here.

dili man to for "worst" gisulti sa pari brad..

"worse" ra man to

haha wala pa man gud ko makasal... well, you got my point...

sa tinood lang, plastic kaayo ko sa uban kay moingon ko nga di pa ko gusto magmenyo...
but, in reality, if given a chance, honestly? I wanna settle down... married, have family... have kids...
do the "daddy" thing... even if di akoa ang first child... ok ra ko (di lang sad duhaon)...

daghan man gani nanguyab og naa nay anak...
bisan ako, nakasuway ko...
you're lucky enough to have a family your own...
naa pa jud ka sa pagpanganak...
bahalag dili ikaw ang naghimo, payts ra na oi...

[RemohDude]

i consult nlng na ug medical expert imong doubts brad..dont make rush decisions kay in return ikaw lang gihapon ang masogamak sa problema..

[networkguy]

open up your problem with your wife and your family para maistoryahan na ninyo og tarong, lisod man gud na nga segi mo og kuyog unya your in doubt diay basin makabuhat ka sa dili angay mabuhat... pray lang sa sad jud Bai para malamdagan ka sa sitwasyon.

[kuyabog]

i consult nlng na ug medical expert imong doubts brad..dont make rush decisions kay in return ikaw lang gihapon ang masogamak sa problema..

since u mentioned about medical experts, some things are in boiling in my mind. our Ob Gyn, never mentioned or at least called my attention nga eight months premature ang bata. dili ba na iya ethical responsibility to do so?

[sendohr]

bro for my own opinion lang jud..try to talk to your wife kung unsa ba gyud kay siya ra maka tubag sa imong mga pangutana..wa pay bayad dba! and ask lang ko bro? why doubt nga imo dili na imong anak? pila man d.i mo ka months nag uyab before wala pamo nag pakasal? last one, so naa d.i nahitabo niya a month before nga dili pamo uyab? ask her that..godbless and goodluck!

[dearlabe]

Mau ni ang resulta sa mga tawng mag ka gf/bf gani mahimo dayong NBI (Na Buang sa I.y*t) if ma buntis gani, pakaslan dayon para ma elevate into FBI (Ferting Buanga sa I.y*t). LOL.

I bet you were young and innocent then when you had her noh? Kay dali raman kaayo ka natabunan sa sayal. Hehehe. Anyway, on to the topic. Since you have honestly declared that you married her out of responsibility, let me ask you: has your relationship and time together taught you to love her? Has your marrying her and building a family with her brought you more happiness in life than distraught? If you have learned to love her and if you are happy to be with her as your friend, lover, wife and mother to your child/children then start accepting the truth if and when the child is not yours. Learn to forgive her and move on with your marriage.

If otherwise, you answers to my questions are a big NOs then you should seek the truth. If you've been staying as a couple just out of obligation, habit, social norms and if you sincerely feel that your life would have been a lot better had you chosen that yellow brick road one stormy day in your life then I would say it's really UNFAIR- to you and to the child.

I believe you should seek the truth by asking her. If she's the type that's not going to really tell you the truth 'coz maybe she loves you and that she's afraid of you leaving her then try to trace the father. I hope you have at least a name or the company he works for. Maybe you can start from there. Basi naa ra sa FB gani, hehehe. Try to check your son's similarity to that of the supposedly father. Paternity/DNA test would be helpful but in your case nga purdoy paka, dli pa sad pwede but in time I hope you can do that. Hopefully bata ang imo son para mas dali ma kuhaan ug samples but if dako na, maglisod pud ka ug explain. Basi magubot na nuon ug samot.

I'm sorry for the trouble you have in your life now, lisod gyud na. For sure it would have been a different life now but then again we can't just blame it all to fate for obviously you really had the choice and now your learning your lessons- gargantuan time!

Now brace yourself for the whatever truth and head on for the remaining years. Just feel what your heart wants you to do, in the end it's you and yourself alone who is accountable to your own life. Good luck!

Sus, maniudto nko oi. Mapasmo man ta aning bisyoha. Heheheh.

[reigel99]

since u mentioned about medical experts, some things are in boiling in my mind. our Ob Gyn, never mentioned or at least called my attention nga eight months premature ang bata. dili ba na iya ethical responsibility to do so?

kung mag-question na man lang jud ta ani nga sitwasyona, oh bitaw, ask your Ob Gyn... basin pud malamdagan imo panghunahuna bro...
kay basin no need to doubt pud ba...

[asterisk]

brad i accept nalang ang kapalaran whether anak na nimo or dili kay number one: poor hunter ka. number 2: gasto magpaDNA unya kung tinood dili imoha magpa annul ka. labaw pang gasto. a problem cannot be solved with another mistake. think about it. that is your destiny. so be it. unya what if imoha jud diayng anak? nag gasto gasto lang ka. pangutan a nalang ang girl kung imoha nang anak kay siya ray nakahibaw sa tinood kung gibakakan ra ba jud ka niya. dili tungod kay lahig nawng ang bata dili na imoha.pasalamat ka healthy ang bata og walay abnormalities. og o naay possibilty na healthy na ang 8months. kay ako 2 weeks early pa sa due date healthy man ako anak. naa koy kaila. 7mos. going 8mos iya tyan wala ra gi incubate ang baby. question diay.. pilay timbang sa bata?

[kuyabog]

Mau ni ang resulta sa mga tawng mag ka gf/bf gani mahimo dayong NBI (Na Buang sa I.y*t) if ma buntis gani, pakaslan dayon para ma elevate into FBI (Ferting Buanga sa I.y*t). LOL.

I bet you were young and innocent then when you had her noh? Kay dali raman kaayo ka natabunan sa sayal. Hehehe. Anyway, on to the topic. Since you have honestly declared that you married her out of responsibility, let me ask you: has your relationship and time together taught you to love her? Has your marrying her and building a family with her brought you more happiness in life than distraught? If you have learned to love her and if you are happy to be with her as your friend, lover, wife and mother to your child/children then start accepting the truth if and when the child is not yours. Learn to forgive her and move on with your marriage.

If otherwise, you answers to my questions are a big NOs then you should seek the truth. If you've been staying as a couple just out of obligation, habit, social norms and if you sincerely feel that your life would have been a lot better had you chosen that yellow brick road one stormy day in your life then I would say it's really UNFAIR- to you and to the child.

I believe you should seek the truth by asking her. If she's the type that's not going to really tell you the truth 'coz maybe she loves you and that she's afraid of you leaving her then try to trace the father. I hope you have at least a name or the company he works for. Maybe you can start from there. Basi naa ra sa FB gani, hehehe. Try to check your son's similarity to that of the supposedly father. Paternity/DNA test would be helpful but in your case nga purdoy paka, dli pa sad pwede but in time I hope you can do that. Hopefully bata ang imo son para mas dali ma kuhaan ug samples but if dako na, maglisod pud ka ug explain. Basi magubot na nuon ug samot.

I'm sorry for the trouble you have in your life now, lisod gyud na. For sure it would have been a different life now but then again we can't just blame it all to fate for obviously you really had the choice and now your learning your lessons- gargantuan time!

Now brace yourself for the whatever truth and head on for the remaining years. Just feel what your heart wants you to do, in the end it's you and yourself alone who is accountable to your own life. Good luck!

Sus, maniudto nko oi. Mapasmo man ta aning bisyoha. Heheheh.

first, i am purdoy, so DNA is out of the question for the time being.

second, kinsa may dili ganahan ug NBI? maski gani pari muapil man ana. ikaw sis, dili ka ganahan?

third, the answer to your questions is one honest NO. and yes, i would really want to know the truth.

[dearlabe]

first, i am purdoy, so DNA is out of the question for the time being.

second, kinsa may dili ganahan ug NBI? maski gani pari muapil man ana. ikaw sis, dili ka ganahan?

third, the answer to your questions is one honest NO. and yes, i would really want to know the truth.

Did I imply nga dli pud ko nahan anang NBI? Hehehhee. Kanindot ana, ikaw man gani nag FBI man gani ka. Hahhaha. Kaun usa oi, mkabuang bya na ang wlay sulod ang tiyan.