Unfaithful husband....kinsa man jud ang sad-an?

[yvonne6]

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its adding insult to the injury ug ato pang tanawon nganong nangabit ang husband or bf oi when the right thing to do is acknowledge nga ang sad an ang nangabit. although its almost always the case nga mag hatag jud ug rason ang nakasala nga nangabit ko kay mao ni mao na akong asawa. to tell u guys/boys, we women can think exactly like u do. oh yeah, we fantasize about hunk men, hung men. we think about how good they maybe in bed when our bf's are too lazy to touch us, and their/ your belly is hanging down their pants. but we can keep this only in our minds and a lot dont want to act on these fantasies because we value your trust, we value our promises, we value the family. although naa juy uban girls nga dili ka agwanta. but tabulating it, mas daghan gihapon males ang mo cheat. what im saying here is that cheating is not an answer for something that is missing. and its not the fault of the cheated partner. this is a personal matter and no matter how perfect your partner is if u have this trait of being a cheater, then it will always manifest

[legal_cd]

TS, the way you express your sentiments regarding your problems shows na your a very smart and sensible person. One who sees thing fairly and decide based on facts.

I know you can settle things up.

[3nZ0y]

^^Thank you. Perhaps because I've seen the worst of both sides.

My mother has a close friend (who became close to me as well) nga kabit. She did not know at first nga minyo ang lake. They bore one child. Later on she learned na minyo ang lake. But it makes me wonder why despite knowing it na kay nausban og ikaduha nga bata? Ang bana mag OT to support his second family but did not tell his first family. She told us what exactly happened and I understood why she did it. She had my compassion then and she made me realize dili tanan kabit kay dautan (in some ways, I know it is complicated so I will not attempt to explain myself. Kamo na lang sabot.)

But when it happened to my family nga akoang papa nangabit. I dunno. Perhaps tungod sa emotions na ang involved we can't think straight na. But I decided to fully understand the situation. In all fairness sa akoa mom, wala siya pagkulang. Wala ko na-satisfy sa reasons gihatag sa ako papa. On the contrary she spoiled him and up until now she understands him the best she can. I know that is noble;but rubbish all the same.

For now, all I can say is bahala na si batman.

[nilbud]

taasa sad oi hehehe

[legal_cd]

^^Thank you. Perhaps because I've seen the worst of both sides.

My mother has a close friend (who became close to me as well) nga kabit. She did not know at first nga minyo ang lake. They bore one child. Later on she learned na minyo ang lake. But it makes me wonder why despite knowing it na kay nausban og ikaduha nga bata? Ang bana mag OT to support his second family but did not tell his first family. She told us what exactly happened and I understood why she did it. She had my compassion then and she made me realize dili tanan kabit kay dautan (in some ways, I know it is complicated so I will not attempt to explain myself. Kamo na lang sabot.)

But when it happened to my family nga akoang papa nangabit. I dunno. Perhaps tungod sa emotions na ang involved we can't think straight na. But I decided to fully understand the situation. In all fairness sa akoa mom, wala siya pagkulang. Wala ko na-satisfy sa reasons gihatag sa ako papa. On the contrary she spoiled him and up until now she understands him the best she can. I know that is noble;but rubbish all the same.

For now, all I can say is bahala na si batman.

It's rare to find people who is open-minded enough to weigh things before expressing their opinions.

Thumbs up ko nimo TS!

[SundryBox]

A relationship is always two way. Maybe naay sala ang usa... maybe and usa wala or maybe both. But maski unsa pa kakulangan sa wife.... It is never just or fair or right na mangabit. Marriage mana... dli uyab2x. If dli namo gnhn get annulled then you can see other people. Being unfaithful will not solve anything... in fact musamot pa ang problem. I do not believe victims sila... Adults nman ta. We can very well tell right from wrong and we all have to try to be strong against temptation. If a person truly loves another, he/she will never allow that person to be hurt... in whatever way.

[legal_cd]

mao man pud na'y nakalisod sa atong lugar gud. ang lisod na i work out kay ipamugos jud -- sa church og society, unya og unsay mahitabo coz sa ilang pag mamugos wa juy buhaton ang church og society.

mo libak ra'g mo chismis... wa juy nada, mo ingon lang "hala noh!... blah.. blah... blah.."

[medjz]

ang unfaithful jud.. i have a friend na kabit, naa pud ko frend na nangabit iya bana ug giilis niya is older ug lau ra jud niya sa kagwapa. ang reason sa bana, na tempted ra daw sya kay but-an au..

naa jud tawo na ing ana. di makontento. mamakak., pero mu salute jud ko sa wife na magpaubos ug mag sacrifice nalang para dili maguba ila family. para sa mga bata. kasagaran man sa kabit, ug wala na kwarta ang lalake kay mangita naman pd ug lain. hehehe

[espadidit]

lisura sah? lain lain man gud ug situation.. pero, i just hope na if magpakasal gani mo, kana sad tawng tungod kay love kaayo ninyo each other and not just because sexy imong wife or macho imong bana! IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO! both have the responsibility to make the relationship work! dapat sensitive mong duha to each other's needs! people say nga usahay magbuwag daw ang couple kay nausab daw ang bana or ang asawa! for me, WAKE-UP! people change so learn to adapt! basta oi.. lisod iexplain.. kay kung nagminyo mong duha nya love jud kaayo ninyo each other.. maningkamot man ka oi nga mahatag nimo tanan para malipay ang imo partner.. MEANING! DEPENDE ra jud! ahahahah

[3nZ0y]

lisura sah? lain lain man gud ug situation.. pero, i just hope na if magpakasal gani mo, kana sad tawng tungod kay love kaayo ninyo each other and not just because sexy imong wife or macho imong bana! IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO! both have the responsibility to make the relationship work! dapat sensitive mong duha to each other's needs! people say nga usahay magbuwag daw ang couple kay nausab daw ang bana or ang asawa! for me, WAKE-UP! people change so learn to adapt! basta oi.. lisod iexplain.. kay kung nagminyo mong duha nya love jud kaayo ninyo each other.. maningkamot man ka oi nga mahatag nimo tanan para malipay ang imo partner.. MEANING! DEPENDE ra jud! ahahahah

Based in your post, it is safe to presume nga wala pa ka naminyo. Sakto ba? Anyhow, wala pa sad ko naminyo but even in my young age, daghan na ko nakit-an nga marriage gone bad. Example is akoang papa. Di man sad ta maka ingon nga dili dako iyaha gugma sa ako mama kay grabe man kaayo siya naka sacrifice before para lang makasal sa ako mama. Yet, nangabit gihapon siya.

The good thing is naghinay hinay na siya og balik karon. Naka realize ko nga at the end of the day dako jud og chance nga mobalik ra ang erring husband. Perhaps that was just a sign of weakness. Nadala lang siya.