Unfaithful husband....kinsa man jud ang sad-an?

[3nZ0y]

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Unfaithful husbands are one of the major causes of broken family. Ardent dreams are shattered, innocent hearts are ripped and unnecessary conflicts arise because dad fell out of love from mom. While it is true that the husband are selfish that they only think about themselves and their happiness-- in that they disregard the children and what their future may be-- it is also possible that the real cause is not the husband.

How many husbands stopped loving their wife since the latter are unworthy for ways more than one? How many husbands learned that there is a girl out there who can love them more than their wives could? How many husbands succumbed to the feeling that started when the other woman was the only one present when he needed someone else the most? Is it safe to presume that they are also victims who gave in to their feelings?

There had been a number of movies depicting this so this isn't new to you. I,myself, had an unfaithful man for a father. I am a hypocrite is I'd say that I don't hate him. But my sense of reasoning is telling me that he has reasons for doing that and that he was also a victim.

However,I need more enlightenment on that. So if I were to ask you: kinsa man jud ang (posible nga) sad-an kung mangabit ang bana? Please state your reason para mas makasabot ko. Daghang salamat!

[bowee]

There are myriad factors why a person can fall out of marriage and look for someone who he/she thinks is better than his /her current partner...

often, they look for the missing part that most if not, their current partner is unable to give or lack hereof...

Blaming the husband for illiciting an affair often is the all reasons of why the marriage crumbled and why there are so many broken families out there.. BUT, for me. that is just the tip of the iceberg...

We fail to notice tell tale signs why the husband (or in some cases, the wife), had look for someone else... Remember, it takes two to tango... and in any line.. it is composed of two points... Husbands or wives are mere human beings only.. needs love, affection, communication,care and bodily warmth... If one of these emotions and feelings are missing or if their partners fail to give them these.. then the end results of it would be for the other to seek solace to another person... in the pretext of social and physical need...

lets break these things:

1.) Love - The main core in marriage... But often mostly in marriage, the husband and the wife had failed to build back their ember because they are too busy and pre occupied already with their works, their careers and with their children... Sometimes, it would be good to rekindle still the love of your partner.. even if naa namoy mga anak... take time to still go out with each other.. places that you once went to (minus the kids, kamo lang duha)

2.) Affection - We guys are warm in nature.. Ever heard about a husband who complained that his wife is not being affectionate to him anymore everytime he comes home from work?? he just sits at the sofa and his wife is just talking to their neighbors... No more warm and kumustahan thing... Affection involves being sensitive to the person's needs.. a simple 'kumusta man imong work dong..' okay ra ka? naka kaon naka? .. or just to hug and kiss that person when he/she comes home...is simply an affection that is truly appreciative jud.

3.) Communication - This is where most broken marriage lacks... often the husband fails to communicate his needs to his wife and vice versa. Every time the husband comes to work.. instead of talking to the wife his day... he finds the wife not in the house... or if she's in the house, she is engross in other activities and doesnt want to be disturb of. Or she constantly yells and talks about monetary problems over and over that the husband is too tired to hear already.

4.) Care - How many wives still massage their husband (when they're too tired from work), or surprises him everyday with her delicious cooking or gifts to give. When you love a person katong uyab pa mo.. What you had given her /him emotionally should not change bisag minyo namo.


5.) and Lastly, Bodily warmth. Most marriages are consumated sexually. But as children comes in the family already, most wives doesnt care anymore about their bodies.. they just let it sag and wala na silay pakabana jud.

Let me tell you this to the wives out there. If you make your body as sexy as the first time you said yes to that guy (your husband), I doubt husbands would look for other mistress anymore. More often than not, when you marry..it is not the end of the world on not to make yourself beautiful and sexy still. Be sexy for your husband. Make him proud as he was proud of you when katong uyab pa mo.

Guys often talks comparing their wives (kanang mag inom inom mi) and most topics center on the sexiness of their partners.. The guy who has the most sexy wife oftens get the envy of his barkadas. Hot and may asim pa, as they would say

So there you go.. That is my own personal contribution to your thread TS..

Cheers!!

[3nZ0y]

Let me tell you this to the wives out there. If you make your body as sexy as the first time you said yes to that guy (your husband), I doubt husbands would look for other mistress anymore. More often than not, when you marry..it is not the end of the world on not to make yourself beautiful and sexy still. Be sexy for your husband. Make him proud as he was proud of you when katong uyab pa mo.

Guys often talks comparing their wives (kanang mag inom inom mi) and most topics center on the sexiness of their partners.. The guy who has the most sexy wife oftens get the envy of his barkadas. Hot and may asim pa, as they would say

So there you go.. That is my own personal contribution to your thread TS..

Cheers!!

Thank you so much for taking the time sir! I really appreciate it. However, I just find the last part of your post uncomfortable. Do you really consider your wives as some 'properties' nga dapat in shape para ikapanghambog? Wa man lang ba nasulod sa inyo mind unsa kalisod mag-atiman ug magpadako og bata? Sorry for the indignation, taas lang jud ko og panan-aw sa mga babaye.

As for the elements you mentioned,mao sad na ako dili masabtan sa ako papa. Sa ka buotan na lang gayud sa ako mama. Iyaha gud jud na paninguhaon nga mosabot sa ako papa. If dili ganahan motrabaho ako irresponsableng amahan kay iyaha ra sad pasagdaan, atimanon pa. Moingon dayon ako amahan nga sakit iyahang mao na mao ni, ako mama intawon atiman sad. Bisan in reality gitapolan ra to og trabaho. Tingali nasubraan ra sad ka buotan ako mama noh? Could that be one of the possible reasons?

Sa kabuotan sa ako mama, civil ghapon ang iyahang trato sa akong unfaithful father nga moduaw usahay sa sa balay para ra mag movie marathon. Naa man sa province ako papa kauban iyaha babaye.

Before amoa ta sila buwagon, but di man daw siya moari sa city kay di siya pabuhi sa iya mga anak. What a crooked pride. Moduaw lang siya usahay. Again, aron matulog ra o magtan-aw salida. Di man gani kaatiman sa mga bata. Ingon ana siya ka irresponsable.

Sorry if nag storytelling na ko diri. I hope mga husbands diha dili ingon ani.

[hOt&SpiCy]

"Sorry if nag storytelling na ko diri. I hope mga husbands diha dili ingon ani. "

ako dle jud. dle.

Bitaw usa sa factors nga pangitaon sa usa ka husband is for the wife to keep her figure after marriage especially after giving birth.D man jud na malikayan ang panghambog sa usa ka husband sa iyang mga barkada nga sexy japon iyang asawa. Ing ana man jud nang mga laki (sama nko). Mao ning usa sa akong nahuna-hunaan why naa juy unfaithful nga husband kay tungod mangita ug mas sexy sa asawa.

[cromagnon]

men are naturaly polygamous in genes ./
bsan unsa on pana .

men dont like to be owned/controlled by someone.

[b1 huck]

exempted to ani ha... padung pa raba ko mag minyo hehehehe

[hotdeity]

suuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuus..havng a 3rd prty s nt d answer noh f pdung na mfall out of love ang laki uie..he shud work things out xmpre wd d help of his partner..hmfFFfff

[necrotic freak]

mao nay gi ingon nga wala jud perfect nga taw.. tanan naay APAN! abi kay dili na sexy imong asawa ngita sad ka ug sexy? pastilan gadungag lang ka ug problema.

[bowee]

Thank you so much for taking the time sir! I really appreciate it. However, I just find the last part of your post uncomfortable. Do you really consider your wives as some 'properties' nga dapat in shape para ikapanghambog? Wa man lang ba nasulod sa inyo mind unsa kalisod mag-atiman ug magpadako og bata? Sorry for the indignation, taas lang jud ko og panan-aw sa mga babaye.

Hello sir, No its not an indignation to appreciate one's wife... I dont consider women as properties.. I consider them as partners in life (when you get married). Here's the notion that most of us are taught before... When you get married, you should only devote all your time and effort to your family and especially to your husband and to your kids... Nothing more and nothing less... Well... Yes you give time to them wholeheartedly, BUT! you should not forget to also give time to yourself. Kay minyo naman lang ka diay, d nalang ka pwde mangarte or mag care sa imong body sad? SO what's wrong if mangarte ug magpa sexy ang usa ka mommy na? is there something wrong with that? kay nanay na diay.. magpa losyang nalang diay ka? that's is really a stupid notion to think. Exercise is a form of caring one's body. I admire wives who take time to diet, exercise, does aerobics(if they have the time) even at their own homes. They value their body a lot.

Again, being sexy is not just for your husbands appreciation, it is for YOUR OWN APPRECIATION and PRIDE as well. Something that can boost one's ego especially to our nanays today who have so much things to do (tend the kids, financial matter and etc). They lost and forgot themselves already.

I am just telling those wives to bring back their own self sad. Give themselves a pampering and little treatment to their body. Anyway, it doesnt hurt being sexy to care to one's body right?

[3nZ0y]

So do you mean to say nga ang sala is naa sa asawa coz wala na siya nag-effort nga ma-sexy? And that is enough reason para mangita og number 2 si bana? Hmm...