What to do about a daughter who has been doing NOTHING since graduating from college?

[sui.caedere]

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ahhh... I think you have to spoonfeed her into a job. Like tell her what to do jud... pero not sd in a "you're a failure" way... hehe like ikaw jud mangita sa job.. then tell her to apply for this and that.

I think mu excel ra cya wherever you place her... dli lng cya mu initiate

Maybe lang

Exactly.. she has the potential.

However, that is all she is.

She aces all the company exams she had been given.

[THE KID]

she's depress.............

[sui.caedere]

she's depress.............

she had been like that since she was a child..

she just does not care at all about anything..

hitsuraan man unta..pero dili gani kamao mangarte

[sui.caedere]

<< this is the reason behind my avatar here..

i am a failure..

[Lady-L]

she is 22 na sis.

i already tried to talk to her over these years. i even approached her favorite teacher in school para maoy musulti niya, pero she refused, rather, pushed us all away.

she obviously has no plans and do not care know what future is!

nah basin pareho nani cya sa bro sa akong officemate na-addict computer ug nakabuntis pa gyud karon bisan naana sila anak computer addict lang gihapon. be a mother to her u have to set a rule for her or make a deal with her like she has to be productive or else dili cya kagamit ug computer require her atleast to do the house chores before niya makuha kun unsay iya gusto ana man gyud unta ang trainy sa mga bata since gamay pa cla para dili maandan. ug ayaw cya tagae money sis para maningkamot cya. 22yrs old naman na cya dapat independent na dili na nimo obligasyon pakan-on cya besides nakahuman na cya eskwela its time na nga cya magbuhi sa iya kaugalingon.

[RemohDude]

it is more than annoying.
each time i see her, i am presented with my own failure, having raised a daughter like that.

see my avatar? that is how annoyed i am.

No, don't blame urself sis as a parent as well we did our very best to mold our children to be a better person we raise them spiritually, morally & financially in a decent way, but its no longer proper for a parent to spoon feed all they needs things will not last forever even us, she should get a living for herself because that is for her own good alone nothing more nothing less..anyway it's not the end of the world yet she still has time to think for herself maybe the timing is only crucial on when she will get her own nod.

[sui.caedere]

nah basin pareho nani cya sa bro sa akong officemate na-addict computer ug nakabuntis pa gyud karon bisan naana sila anak computer addict lang gihapon. be a mother to her u have to set a rule for her or make a deal with her like she has to be productive or else dili cya kagamit ug computer require her atleast to do the house chores before niya makuha kun unsay iya gusto ana man gyud unta ang trainy sa mga bata since gamay pa cla para dili maandan. ug ayaw cya tagae money sis para maningkamot cya. 22yrs old naman na cya dapat independent na dili na nimo obligasyon pakan-on cya besides nakahuman na cya eskwela its time na nga cya magbuhi sa iya kaugalingon.

in her case, na addict sya ug TULOG hehehe.

well she spends her waking time on the computer, but most of a 24hr day, she is just lying in bed, doing nothing. wala pud gani text2x kay wala may load iya celfon.

[kitty_kittens]

hmmm, if she spends a lot of time sleeping basin she'd depressed about something..

[Lady-L]

So tough indeed. I never knew what surrender meant until this!

She is not productive..not proactive too.

Her dont care attitude is wrecking me to the core!

she maybe a loner, knows her interest, things that make her happy ug diha cya ig-a...
much better if imo cya ipa-counsel para maungkat na tanan gi-kept niya inside maybe naa cya'y phobia, trauma or anything which discourage her to strive life. Ikaw ra'y makaluwas niya ug iyang kaugalingon...she might found her own world in playing computer games and that's a bad sign...

[sui.caedere]

hmmm, if she spends a lot of time sleeping basin she'd depressed about something..

coincidentally..she luvs kittens

i dont think she is depressed. she just does not care about anything at all.