My husband naay kabit help...

[icon_king]

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kani ingon ani wala gyud ni ayo...

[sushikandi]

I'm trying my best to understand your narration TS. Ang important is not to traumatized your kids with this situation. Gather evidence and seek help didto da family court. I hope imung work maka sustento sa imung two kids, hapit na baya abli sa skwelahan. You mentioned deport? Is your husband a foreigner? And nganu sa babae man ka natig away, nga imung husband man ang nangaliwa, and he done this few times before. You took the first step to leave. Now is to take proper and legal action. Ayaw i-agi sa scandalo and sugod to the kabit.

[yvonne6]

u really cant tell oi nga dili ka mag lagut sa kabit, esp if the other woman knows that the man she is with is so married with kids. klaro sad kaau nga baga ug nawong ang kabit ug siya pay mag isug2. ang mga wives maka relate jud ani nga feeling. once your feelings is badly devastated and hurt, mawala imong pinag aralan usahay oi. makapatay pa man gani ng uban. ug tarung sad ang kabit, why did she allow herself to be a mistress, and a homewrecker. love does not justify this type of relationship. too selfish

[dustin]

kung ako lang nasa imo sitwasyon mam, i kn0w nga sakit ni pero buwagi nalang ng lakiha ingun ana mam basta makabuhat na gani na ana ingun ana na gyud na siya unless makaila siya ug mo too na siya sa ginoo....Kay bisan kinta nga taw ang makapausab ana klaseha sa mga taw mam kung dili ginoo ra gyud...

[shakeshuffleroll]

if naa rkoy matabang

[yvonne6]

ingna ang kabit, ako legal wife. hehe. bitaw ts, i feel for u. act now. wala mana maluoy imong bana ug iyang kabit nimo ug sa imong mga anak, kasohe nana. kadtong violence against women and children ang ikaso

[kajrot1]

nanong mangabit paman mo panagabang nalang diay!!!

[lejean]

Based in your thread, your husband is a foreigner kay first - ang business is under your name kay kung pinoy pa na under jud na sa name sa lalaki or ninyo duha. Second, mura ne mention ka pwede ba deport or something...

Also, you said yourself na siya ra gasuporta nimo og sa moha anak... and they are both happy with the girl now.

Here is my POV.

I know tanan gusto hala file og kaso, adto abogado, etc... pero the question I am going to ask to you? Can you do it? Financially... It is not cheap to file a case against your husband and basin mapildi ra ka sa kaso ana labi na dghan sya kwarta and can afford the best lawyer in town, mura ka na pilde sugal ana TS.

Let's be logical and be practical here. Hala sige file ka kaso ang problema man gud dili ingon ana ka sayun ang trauma, stress, depression, mura ka di katog ana ui while knowing both of them are happy together. Nya kaw pwerte guol dha and di na kabalo unsa moha buhaton.

Kung file ka kaso nila duha kay lagi kabit, unsa may makuha nimo? Ma priso sila?Lisud baya ato balaod TS kay my pgka-biased ug na pabor sa mga lalaki. Kay ngano ang requirements (some lang):

1. dapat mgpuyo sila duha as husband as wife in one roof (common-law wife or live-in)
2. ilaha mura gilantaran sa community na mao ne ako asawa ron, etc.

ug uban pa...

Unya unsa ang punishment kung ma prove sa court na sad-an sila? Awa lang, ang kabit (babaye) kay destierro ra, which means ang babaye dapat mgpalayo sa vicinity or asa gapuyo kamo og moha husband simply put dili ma priso ang babaye ang moha ra bana.

From the Revised Penal Code of The Philippines

Art. 334. Concubinage. — Any husband who shall keep a mistress in the conjugal dwelling, or shall have sexual intercourse, under scandalous circumstances, with a woman who is not his wife, or shall cohabit with her in any other place, shall be punished by prision correccional in its minimum and medium periods.

Dara sakto jud na requirements ai:

CONCUBINAGE

I. How committed/Concept: The crime committed by a married man who:

1. Shall keep a mistress in the conjugal dwelling
a). the concubine must live in the conjugal dwelling even for brief periods of time, and not where she occasionally comes for a tryst or to spend the night therein


2. Shall have sexual intercourse with her under scandalous circumstances

a). Proof of *** is not necessary but may be inferred
b). There be a public or open flaunting of the illicit relationship so that the public is scandalized, shocked, or the conduct give rise to general protest, or that the relationship sets a bad example.
c). Example: being seen with the woman in social and public gatherings; introducing or treating the woman as though she were the wife
d) Since public reaction is gauge of the scandal is there concubinage if:

(i) openly going out is in places where the two are total strangers
(ii) relatives and acquaintances accept the fact of the relationship, as when the wife left the man who now is cared and loved by another woman?


3. Cohabit with her in any other place

a). To cohabit is to live together as husband and wife.
b) QUESTION: Is concubinage committed by the man in providing the woman her own house or apartment but does not live with her though he regularly visits her thereat, at which time they engage in ***?


II. Unlike in adultery, the fact of criminal conversation or sexual intercourse with a woman does not per se give rise to concubinage. Further, each sexual act is not a separate offense because concubinage is treated as a continuing crime.

Note: In adultery the penalty is the same for both the woman and man (Prision correctional medium and maximum) but in concubinage the penalty for the man is lower by one degree ( prision correctional minimum and medium) while the concubine is given a separate penalty which is destierro.

III. The woman is liable if she knows him to be married (even if unhappily at that and even if her purpose is to provide comfort and companionship)

IV. The defenses available in adultery also apply such as consent and pardon.

source: CONCUBINAGE

Maka file moha husband either ane tulo ka kaso depende kung unsa ka grabe kato imoha siya gikulata.
Kane duha can lead to imprisonment if found guilty.

Art. 263. Serious physical injuries. — Any person who shall wound, beat, or assault another, shall be guilty of the crime of serious physical injuries.

Art. 265. Less serious physical injuries.

Art. 266. Slight physical injuries and maltreatment.


My last advice nimo TS, think things through! Whether file-lan nimo og criminal case na concubinage moha husband or annulment para ma legal na jud mo na buwag.. it will cost you money. Dako kaau gasto para ana. Ang ka apan pud basin unhan ka og file og kaso na physical injuries priso sad ka.

It would be best for both parties to talk it over. If nahan ka, storyahe sya basin mgbalik pud mo (it's the most practical thing to do) dili ka mgasto og dako kwarta, laway ra moha puhunan ane.

Pabug-naw sa, yaw padala sa moha gibati kay di ka huna2x og maayo kay galagot paka maayo ron.. Think things through kay dili sayun ang imoha ma-agi-an...

(note: dko lawyer ha? naa ra ko na learn gamay skwela ko og law sauna, mayta ma enlighten ka gamay TS)

[ed168III]

gather ug evidence sa like ilang picture ga pda, picture nla together sa car, picture nla sa hotel, proof of scandalous manner

[kingoldz]

animala gud anang bayhana! bilib sad ko sa mga kabit kron sa? musukol ug legal wife! hahahah pero ayaw e-give up imu bana2 dha2 daun, i guess pwde na nimu makiha ug ayaw itugot nga malayo imung bana ug specially ang responsibility sa imung bana sa imung anak! sus, paet jud kaayo nang problemaha, naa pjud mo duha ka anak! mga bata raba jud ang apektado sa inganing problemaha! boang2!