Adopted Sister brings hell to our House

[drknyt]

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i got this sister of mine who is actually adopted, actually anak sa akong tiya nga gipamabdosan og lain while her husband is in Saudi in 1989, silbi ako Father ambot unsay nasud sa iyang mind maybe to save the skin of his sister during that time maoy nivolunteer og sagop sa bata way papers..my parents ask if ok ra ba nako during that time,,i am not a selfish person even though i am the only child i think of others esp, my mom who would like to have a girl in the family ma o to nga ni ok pud ko,,but now nagmahay ko...now this sister has been the curse of my existence and the root cause of all the dimalas that ever befall on our family yet still she comes out spic and span and picture prety coz she is very good in blaming all the mess in the family to every one else including me by making all these unsavory talks about me to my other gullible rel;atives. few words to describe her -very sipsip to the max and a 2faced traitor,user and ingrate..
ma au ka au mowitwit ug parayg parayg if na a cya ask favor from u but u could never even ask a favor from her like even ask for a juice or water..di masugo..reklamador pa sa sud an himili . ako nag boiled eggs pero siya giiskreto an ug luto ug fried chicken..ang naka parat ra ba ako ra ba ang tigpalit sa among pangkunsomo..dali a hurot baboy hotdog ug manok kay siya man kusog lamoy..ako tawn noodles na lang og pancit canton..di lang ko say even thou i see that coz di man ko gusto gubot,,pero now there is just a limit to htis bitch actions..puno na ko..sa kalagot..

consider this fact prima donna sa balay di masugo, ako pa mother ma o molaba sa sinina including panty....laysho ang gaga kusog mamressure sa ako parents to buy the latest fone.nya ako ra ba ang pangayu an sa ako father ug money to add para lang mapalitan ang pinanga nga adopted..spoiled to the max lami sagpa on..liman ka.ako ang nagpay the bills in ithe house, plus there was this time nga outing sila iya friends nagmaktol ang gaga kay way kwarta ako payday nako i went to the bank and bak to our house by taxi spending 200 bucks for the round trip just to be able to giv her 500 bucks aron di mahasol ako patrents iya pang lui od..karon nasakit ako father ako man gud giconfront sila para usbon nila ang unfair treatment sa ako a kay mas gipalabi man ang adopted,,now i was able to say some harsh words out of more than 15 years nako nga pag keep the pain and my dad was not able to take it all,,gi atake sa high blood ug na stroke..my sister was then quick to put the blame on me nagmalinis gi daout sa relatives aron iyahon tana ang balay and all that stuff...so i decided to move out and teach this ingrates and dysfunctional family of mine..

it has been like 4 months already since i moved out and never did i contacted or visited them, dey dont know i am in manila mao na reason sibat ko patransfer ko work here..i got news from my friend sige pangita sila nako, ni tawag daw ako mom sa ila c ge cry ako father daw c ge pangita nako..helo...duh...even though i was informed of that developement wala ko matandog....ma o na..bec..for friggin years ako nagbayad kurente balai, water and grocery ako nag suporta at least70% of our household expenses..karon wa naman ko ,,naglisod sila da..ngita man lagi..ako send letter informing them dat ang inyong adopted ang pasulbara sa inyong problema kay ma o man na inyo pinnangga..and to consider me not their son anymore..also telling them dat i am only good for them because of my money and not getting the respect from my generosity all these years....gusto ko motagam ning mga ingrato.

wat do u think am i too harsh on my actions..i am steadfast that i am not ever gonna see them or go bak unless wala na na ako devil adopted sister sa house. ma o pay adopted ma o na man ang hawod..i am even considering of going to her school to expose the falsehood of her birth papers para ma out siya sa exclusive school wer she is enrolled..


one thing pud diay, she does not know dat she is adopted...wat do u guys think ako na siya sultihan sa tinu od inig arrive nako here sa Cebu..ako parents are ultra gainst in that telling her the truth..di sila ok ana they prefer to lie to her, but i want to tell her the truth adopeted ra cya aron marealized niya place sa family nga adopted ra cya and hav no ryt wat so ever in fact pasalamat pa cya unta....

[rambutan]

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brad, advise lang.. dili masulbad ang problem kung dili nimu atubangon...

tell your mom to teach your adopted sister how to be responsible... just the way ur parents raised you...

tell them kung unsay tinuod nuimu na nafeel para ok kamu pamilya... lisod na magkontra-kontra ta sa pamilya, kay kung magkina unsa man gani, pamilya man nato japon ato last resort...

mao ra na ako ikatambag bai... gudlak!!!

[potterboy]

it won't do you any good if you continue doing that. in the end, you will suffer emotionally. why?


read here:

your adopted sister has the attention, because she needs it badly. you don't need that much attention because your parents know you can handle things maturely. you shouldn't love for a reason. you shouldn't help because you are required to, but because you wanted to. otherwise, you are expecting something in return.

try to put yourself into your mother's shoes. imagine yourself looking for your son for months without even a clue what happened to him. imagine her crying while mouthing the name which you were born and baptized with. Think of your dad. think how he suffers for not being able to tell you why they were doing that. have you ever thought of giving them even a second to explain?

or how about describing the feeling of helping your OWN family because you alone can do it. think.

one thing, how many times have u talked to your sister about her attitude problems? if you did, what was your approach?

go home. settle everything. you cant run away from a problem forever. it'll hound you until you face and solve it. settle it... coz you alone can.

[drknyt]

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brad, advise lang.. dili masulbad ang problem kung dili nimu atubangon...

tell your mom to teach your adopted sister how to be responsible... just the way ur parents raised you...

tell them kung unsay tinuod nuimu na nafeel para ok kamu pamilya... lisod na magkontra-kontra ta sa pamilya, kay kung magkina unsa man gani, pamilya man nato japon ato last resort...

mao ra na ako ikatambag bai... gudlak!!!

Thanks dude, problema sa gud nako ba..stoic ra ka au ko, even though pirti na sukoa sa sud kalma lang gihapon,,yeah maybe i should learn to talk it out nila,,hadlok man sad ko gud coz i might be able to say words masakitan sila mao na id rather be away.. maybe my absence would jar their senses..ma o bitaw big ako regret ako family,,we think da same way too ang family should be last resort but 2nd class citisen ,man ko nila beh..sila ray pamilya nga ma o pay mo duot nimo lagi..i tell u.God i wouldnt be even be dreaming of having this thread but bec.frustrated ka au ko. i got no outlet ,,drinking booze would not help at all but would just burn a hole on my pay check dats wy i choose to listen to peeeps lyk u guys out here who may sensible adviice on this matter..i realiized man p[ud that i should learn to see the problem from another persons binoculars maybe their view on this matter is much clearer and not clouded by unresolved anger like mine.

[drknyt]

yeah guys, i guess im so wrapped up my pain that i was blinded by it..bitaw true na inyo say..id dd not giv them 2nd chance...makonsensya man ko oi...

wen i get bak to Ceb soon. .i ll be hoping to buy u cool dudes a case of beer for the reailty check advices and for cheering up this dude who is now so uncool ..

one impt..thing should i tell this sister of mine that she is adopted bec, she is stil not aware of it..my parents are not okay on this idea of telling my sister the truth , instead they prefer to propagate the lie..

[zer0_cooL]

waaaaaaa....... in ani jud ang batasan sa ako cuzn.. pro dli to xa adopted ha.. spoiled lang.. ako gud to storyahan prmi na dli mag in ana.. maminaw lagi pro palapos sa pkas dunggan.. funny thing is kung naa makasab-an xa or mabunalan ako ingnon ug 'da, mayra.. ingnan btaw taka' hehehhe


sir, pa uli sa inyo and tell your parents na to go strict on her tell them na unfair man sad sa imo side but do not, take note, do not raise your voice or curse your parents..kay sakit jud na sa parents nmo especially your mother. and malooy sad ka nla.. ikaw baya ila gisaligan para sa gasto sa balay.. imagina nalang karn na wla naka maghatag nla kung unsa na nahitabo nla.. ask your self kung sakto bapa cla sa kaon or wla ba cla mabaon sa utang and the like... tell them na if possible na as a lesson to your sister na i transfer xa sa lain na school na mas barato pro quality ghapon and education or mag working student cya para sad na makita xa kung unsa ka lisod mangia ug kwarta (pro mas nice ang mag working student kay magkugi jud xa) and also tell your mom na ayaw tawn palabhi ang iya undies.. gosh! ka uwaw ana oist.. dapat mahibaw na xa ug household chores kay babae ra ba xa.. if padayonon man gud sa imo mother ang paglaba sa iya undies dli jud na xa makat-on ug buhat

and another thing.. if manglood imo sister let her be.. anyway ma uli-an ra btaw na.. knsa ra laway ma pan-os kung dli mo tingog... pasabta lang imo parents...

btw, kahibaw ba xa na adopted xa?

[drknyt]

dats the thing wala cya kahibaw should i tell her,wat do u think..,pero my parents would not want me too do so.. hey i am not kiding here ako btaw mom who does her laundry.. sucks right..gerabe..its like they have created a monster ako pud coz i did not do anything much to prevent that from happening. iya barkada mga laysho intsik..sa main..were not really that poor before we used to be well off, but when she came to our family iit was llike jinx..our family business folded up and everything started to go downhill from there 1989 up to now.

yup karon i admit naglisod na mi coz sa main man cya skol gud..pero v3 iya phone pero ako tawn 2nd hand sony ericson tag 1,5oo colon..pa et...no , hinay man ko sulti i never raise my voice pero the words i say are very hurting ..ma o likay ko storya nila..

[Velvett]

you are a volcano that erupted. congratulations.

okay, there's a place for anger and all that. it stops you from being a doormat. so congratulations you've found your way to and trhough anger.

your sister is a spoiled brat. i suggest you talk to your family--you, your mom, your dad. tell them how you feel. then you make an intervention plan like sticking to a household budget and informing your sister that the family cannot support extras like high-end phones and lakwatcha. you can encourage her to work so she'll have the money to support her lifestyle.

as to telling her she's adopted, i still believe that one shouldn't use that truth to get even or punish someone. that kind of truth can devastate someone, so it must be in an atmosphere of love. that time will come.

[brown_dog]

That is Life bro. So deal with it. One day mawala rana imong family like my mom and dad and the only family you got that is closest to you is your sister. Because they are the ones that knows best of what a family member feels when they've lost someone.

I even had a brother that did not help me when I am jobless my parents are gone when I ran out of money didn't let me borrow a single cent. Because his wife told him so. He seems to be mind controlled or brainwashed by his wife or na over sa ka under. He's living with his wife's house.
I also have a stroke patient brother living with me basin cya wala ghapon tabangi. There are times when for weeks we only eat 1 meal a day. Sometime I get so down that I don't wanna eat anymore just wanna die of hunger to get out of this life.

Good thing naa ning istorya.net nahurot og baligya ako PC parts and other appliances, Hehehehe.
I invest my last cent to go to an internet cafe post here in istorya to sell my stuff.

Gamay rakau na imo problema bro.

Sus imo sister bro ilad ilaron ra na imo then you know how to get even with her in a good way. Like ingna labhi ni ako laundry then I'll give you P1000 then after laba ayaw tagai. Ilara nasad like I'll buy you a pizza inig sweldo nako if you do these things for me. depende rana sa pag manipulate nimo it to get even with her heheh. Or show her that you are more wiser than her let her know she is a subordinate then she'll respect you. Hehehe. Then one day you will fullfill your promise she will respect you even more.
And you she will treat you as a true brother and you treat her as a true sister.

[Pinkdimensions]

ga-e ko number sa imong sister bro akong sulti niya ana bhe hehehe.. tagam gyud na ba!

bitaw, ug akoy sa imong side na dugay ko ng gibuhat.. it's easier raba than done ang mga advises but worth the try.. were just humans ..

ani nalang bro, singiti ng imong sister, hadloka! hahaha.. ingna..if dli sya mag usab karon dayun she'll hear the worst words gyud! simple as that.. di mag huna2x na na.. ug mulayas awww.. pug-ngi sad hihih..then am2x ba..then storya mo plainly..ayaw lang direct ug sulti nga ADOPTED sya hihi.. indirect lang .. then if mag lain na ang gibati..ana na istoryaha..

bitaw,.. uli-a tung imong ginikanan bro.. lisod raba bro.. gud 4 u kay duol ka kaau nila uban deri layu kaau unya gusto mo uli pero dli ka uli tungod sa work.. nahh.. lipay gani ko mo ari akong bro ug parents sa cebu nga bohol ra amoa .. saon taman dli man ta kadali2x ug uli..

gud luck bro!