im i still inlove with him??

[jefelin]

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have a boyfriend...we will be celebrating our 4th anniversary dis coming november..but ryt now im so confused.. im confused if i still love him or i just want him to be around cuz im afraid to be alone...i want him to break up with me but i dnt know if i can take it..im rily confused...i loved him but i dont know if im still inlove with him..if only i have a lovemometer for me to know my real status...i dont know if i still love him or i just want him to be always by my side..i know im so selfish thats y i want to make the ryt decision..pls help me

[joshbonz]

i think what you're experiencing right now sis... is a state of normalcy, monotony and lack of excitement in your relationship.

You have lost interest on why you want to be w/ that person.. you just like him to be there always like a scarecrow on a haystack.. a dummy to be needed and wanted when you feel like lang..

You're absolutely right.. your selfish. Have you asked yourself lately or examine yourself on why did you say yes to this person int the first place, before? or what he did that made you attracted to him..?

Monotony can be a malignant cancer in a relationship (esp. a long one). It grows and eats you everyday until it comes to the point that you despise or hates that person you love everytime you both see each other.

Gusto mo nalang mawala cya..

BUT.. that person has feelings also.. frankly, If i were in your situation.. I would open up communications w/ him.. guys are not hard to explain.. if you just pick the right time, place and words to make him understand.

Tell him that your tired of your relationship.. and you want to explore something new.. If he asks you what you want.. give him some hints that you want some space (dont give him the notion that your meeting somebody else). Not necessarily a cool off, aslo.

You just want a space for yourself.. Sometimes, time and distance apart can make or break a relationship. One way of checking if you still love him is that if mingawn ka nya always.... then probably you're in love w/ him still.. Re examine yourself.. Asked if what you feel before is still what your feeling now... if dili na jud.. then go for the closure.

Guys would rather like to have their girlfriends decide more on the relationship.. Mag agad ra na sila more sa girls, on what your bottomline decision is.. and like ive said.. pick the right words and time to make him understand..

Lastly, remember also that guys are guys.. we have prides also... if our gfs would not want us anymore.. then sometimes if you come back to us (when you regret your decision to break us), we would not want to accept you anymore.. though depende lang jud sa guy ug unsa ka nya ka love..

just my thoughts..

[rhythm_and_blues@40s50s]

have a boyfriend...we will be celebrating our 4th anniversary dis coming november..but ryt now im so confused.. im confused if i still love him or i just want him to be around cuz im afraid to be alone...i want him to break up with me but i dnt know if i can take it..im rily confused...i loved him but i dont know if im still inlove with him..if only i have a lovemometer for me to know my real status...i dont know if i still love him or i just want him to be always by my side..i know im so selfish thats y i want to make the ryt decision..pls help me

dugaya na ninyo sa.... somehow na feel na jud nimo ang puol... hmmmm.... 4 years to 5 years kay daghan na mga pagsulay na moabot ninyong duha... daghan napud mo naagian sa on how to handles almost everything... dba ang relationship kay nahulog cya training... training kay suwayan ninyo if pwede ba mo lifetime magkoyug.... while nagkadugay mo... daghan napud mo problema naagian then nagtinabangay mo pagsolve sa problema... if magpatandog lang ka sa imong confusion.. hunahuna sa makadaghan.... wiling baka na mapapha ra ang tanan ug mobalik ka sa sugod...? murag dili lovemometer ang imong kinahanglan para sukdon lang ang imong gibati... kinahanglan pud nimo sukdon ang relationship... dili dapat ang kaugalingon ang unahon.

mas maau na magtalk mo sa imong uyab...

BASIN FLOODING NAKO DIRI:

Few little acts that you never appreciate.......

My husband is an Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature, and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders. Three years of courtship and now, two years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him before, has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness.

I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings, I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband is my complete opposite, his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about love.

One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce. “Why?" he asked, shocked. "I am tired; there are no reasons for everything in the world!" I answered. He kept silent the whole night, seems to be in deep thought with a lighted cigarette at all times. My feeling of disappointment only increased, here was a man who can't even express his predicament, what else can I hope from him? And finally he asked me "What can I do to change your mind?" Somebody said it right, it's hard to change a person's personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him. Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered "Here is the question, if you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind, Let's say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death, will you do it for me?" He said "I will give you your answer tomorrow...." My hopes just sank by listening to his response.

I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting, underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes....My dear, "I would not pick that flower for you, but please allow me to explain the reasons further.." This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading.

"When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen, I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs.”

“You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you. You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city; I have to save my eyes to show you the way.”

“You always have the cramps whenever your "good friend" approaches every month; I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy.”

“You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom.”

“You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes, I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails, and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand... and tell you the color of flowers, just like the color of the glow on your young face.”

“Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do, I could not pick that flower yet, and die."

My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting and as I continue on reading... "Now, that you have finished reading my answer, if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk.” I rush to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread.

Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone.

That's life, and love. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness. Love shows up in all forms, even very small and cheeky forms, it has never been a model, it could be the dullest and boring form, flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands... and that's our life... Love, not words win arguments.

[candy_ytal]

I have experienced that one with my bf too.. but now, still I was able to hold on and tried to save the relationship. Now, the flame kept on burning.. so far.. don't rush into things.. think more than a million times before you decide something.. you can do it.. go girl..

[marcus2015]

ginhawa og lawm TS nya pg.ihap 1 to 100000000000.. nya paminawa unsa gsulti smong hart bout smong bf.. mao na ang answer...-_-

[2kELEVEN]

Time. Either way, it'll take a lot of time if you really love him. hahaha dugaya na ani wue, basin ga buwag na pud ni sila..lols

[LeeLeePot]

kadugay naba ani....

[yiennahs]

just try to make some effort to lighten up the relationship

[petketz]

2007 paman diay ni nga thread oi...basin nagbuwag na jud ni sila ....