How to get over "jealousy"?

[ulyssa_marie]

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They say that jealousy is the result of insecurity....

a) insecurity with partner
b) insecurity with one's self.

They also say that jealousy is the result of the lack of trust.

But for some people, even if the points mentioned above aren't applicable, but getting jealous is like some kind of a 'reflex' or something. haha..

what's the best way to reduce it, or better - correct it?

[afro_frog]

learn how to be a open-minded person

[yiennahs]

jealousy is inevitable
it is directly proportional to love

i guess the best way to get over it is when you fall out of love for the person.

[yiennahs]

learn to trust and learn to control your feelings ^^

[risklight]

learn to face the truth and have a rational thinking towards the situation

[initPa]

nya mbuhat jud na ninyo??..normal rmn jud ng maJELLY, part rna s LIFE..we'r human being capable of feeling dat thing

[anjerika]

lisod kaayo ni wagtangong. for as long as di matambalan imong insecurities, padayon jud ni ang pagka selosa. hehe. and insecurities are difficult to heal coz they are part of your past experiences and realizations as you went thru life growing up.

[ulyssa_marie]

lisod kaayo ni wagtangong. for as long as di matambalan imong insecurities, padayon jud ni ang pagka selosa. hehe. and insecurities are difficult to heal coz they are part of your past experiences and realizations as you went thru life growing up.

I agree!

You try so hard to get over it , but it's like a 'reflex' of some sort. Even if u try to keep level headed or think rationally, u end up just going off on a tantrum unconsciously.

Should it be your obligation to keep your jealousy at bay, or the partner's obligation to not provoke that jealousy?

[shey0811]

I don't agree with the two reasons why people get jealous.

For the first time in years, because of unfounded jealousy, I slapped my boyfriend. I caught him hanging out with a lady I don't know and the rest is history. Jealousy, I found out was not because I was insecure about myself but because I lacked trust in him. I didn't really listen to his side of the story and just immediately reacted. I learned my lesson the hard way. I thought I had lost him after that.

A friend of ours made me realize that I was not really fair and advised me to really hear his side of the story.

Jealousy could be real threatening to a relationship. It could make or break the relationship.

[bowee]

@TS

ah.. THE GREEN EYE MONSTER called - JEALOUSY... hehehe

How to get over? I think the right word would be - How to minimize it..

Jealousy stems from insecurities deep within.

I got two advices to you.. .BE HAPPY WITH EVERYTHING YOU DO and induced SELF APPRECIATION to yourself.

Never ever stop to appreciate the finer things in life. It's one way of minimizing the green eye giant. When you appreciate yourself more (whatever accomplishments you did or have), then you will notice sooner that you will also appreciate others for their individual accomplishments.....

That's my take... Good luck!