LDR Complications

[meltd0wn]

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Hey guys..mag-ask unta ko for your opinion on the following matter:

Right now, I'm not so happy with the relationship I'm having with my girlfriend. Long distance mi rn and she knows how much I don't like to be in this kind of situation kay most likely padung jud na buwag, a trauma brought by my last relationship. Anyway, eventually ni-agree ra ko kay hinuon pd wa jd siya gnahi sa iyang work dire sa Cebu so she has to look for work somewhere else. She went home to Negros. Ang nkalisod ani niya is mura bitawg wa siyay gana mu-communicate. Not only that, sometimes di pa siya magpa-call, like i-drop imung call kay lagi daw nagbantay siya sa iyang nephew. I guess she's telling the truth kay kakita mn jd ko sa iyang pics sa FB na nagbantay sa iyang nephew. Pero ang di jd naku ganahan is the fact na mutext ra siya if ganahan siya. Mura bitawg in-ana. Like mutext once in 3 or 4 days. Then ig-reply nimu, di na pd mureply.

Last time she claimed na wa daw siyay load. Haller!!gi-loadan kaya naku siya. Then i only received 4 replies from her??still, if wa siyay load, she knows pwde jd siya ka-request from me (ang smart kay naa mn ana na feature dba??)..pero wala..maong right now i'm giving her a taste of her own medicine..di ko mutxt if di siya muuna..gikapoy naman gd ko exert ug effort then siya mismo kay di magpakita ug appreciation sa imung ginabuhat..lain, dba??nitxt siya earlier tonight if suko ba dw ko kay wa mn dw ko text2x...then i told her how i felt..guess what??no reply na sad!!

istoryans, what do you think should i do??we've been friends for like 12yrs already and i know she wasnt like this before naging kami..nahug na murag nagsalig siya rn na i'll just come back to her anyway..right now, i'm deciding whether i should let it go already, or just be a little more patient with her.. T____T

[storm_in_cloud9]

mao jud na kakapoy sa ldr if ang usa ra maninguha and then ang usa murag magpagusto lng with regards to communicating.********* na ninyo uy!if paminaw nimo ok iyang reasons for doing this to you then timbang timbanga na lang ug ok ra ba nimo but if paminaw nimo walay ayo or di nasad mo reply then i guess wala na kay importance niya well move on sad ngano man jud na mag-antos ka! as long as wala ky sala niya.frustrating kaayo ning ldr uy ky usahay ibutang jud sa test inyong trust sa usag-usa.hahaaay....

[meltd0wn]

mao lagi dw iyang reason..busy dw siya sa ilaha..actually wa pa siya nagstart work now so didto ra siya sa ilaha bantay dw sa iyahang nephew..and i thought, are you so busy that you can't spare even just a few minutes na mutext naku??or if wa siyay load, she can ask me for it..total kasabot mn ko sa situation na wa pa siyay income, so mkaload ra mn ko niya..other reasons than that, i don't know na jd..

[inc-pankz]

lol. . i know how u feeel brahh. . hehehe. . .LDR truly suxxxxs. .

[j.alob]

kapoyan man ko mobasa ug tag.as hehe mo comment lang ko dritso ha....

im in LDR right now. 3 years name ok kaau amo relationship pero hinuon ulion nako siya matag 3months. lisod kaau ang LDR if dli mo magkita in a year....

depende ra jud na sa inyong duha. unsaun ninyo pag work out.

kay wala may advice nga mo work out sa inyoha kun dili kamo ra jud maka gama ana..

[makie]

Settle it before it gets worse. I don't think nga trabaho iyang rason. Come to think of it, job opportunities are way better here in Cebu than in Negros. Kung di siya ganahan sa iyang trabaho, she can find something else diri sa Cebu.

Di motext? Di magpatawag? Klaro kaayong wala na nay gana. She might not be cheating on you but nawala na iyang gana sa inynog relationship. What you can do is to spice up the relationship. Surprise her by visiting here sa Negros. At least makita niya imong effort. Lambinga siya. Kung in the long run di gihapon siya morespond positively, I think that is the time to call it quits.

Think of what you can do to spice up your relationship, don't just expect her to respond just because she's your girlfriend. It's not about the distance, it's about the quality of the relationship. Been to 2 LDRs before and nindot man ang dagan. We just have to break up because of circumstances out of our control.

[aLohaBby]

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[malutong!]

Try to keep it going bro...

[icon_king]

LDR will never ever work.. mao rana akong masulti. kay wala gyud ka kabalo ug unsa iya huna huna. pabor gyud ni sa binuangan raka kay maghuna huna man ang girl/boy nga dili ka kabalo unsa iya buhaton nga daotan kay you are far from each other. Ug hinaykan maka buhat gyud ug di mao. resulta masakitan lang ka. kapoy kaayo imu time ug effort ani kay mausik ra gyud. Dako paka ug gasto di pa gyud nimu maimuha. Mas maayo gyud nga makig relasyon ka kanang makita nimu ug magkuyog mu permi kay kabalo ka sa iyang lihok. See what i mean

[ArCkz]

Mao jud na ang problema sa LDR basta walay constant communication.

Maybe its a sign to move forward.