Reasonable or not??

[lovelots23]

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Is it reasonable if i will say "mo abroad nalang ko kay na broken heart ko sa cebu" .
I have a good job in cebu and if mo abroad ko dili na same job ako makuha.i just want to forget for a while cebu bec. medyo nasakitan ko ug maayo.i'm just worried if ma happy bako sa abroad.if it is reasonable that i will take the risk to lose my comfort just to forget the pain.naa man gud cya sa cebu and iya new gf. my 2 ex-bf is in Singapore and US so i'm not affected with them but now with him i feel like na suffocate ko sa iyang memories here plus i don't want to see them one day in malls or etc.wahhhhh..kalibog.

[TEDA]

when i my last relationship failed, mau jud ni akong gustong buhaton...
i was already there in the airport and pdung nko check.in ato...
ggukod kos akong bestfriend and iyang gi ingon kai...

"ang pain naa sa imung heart, wala sa place. and there's really like no other place that feels like home. kung mlarga ka, mkalimot bah jud kaha ka?"

and mau sad na akong gustong isulti ug ipangutana nimo miga

[_spectre]

I think it's reasonable. Sometimes you just need some distance to forget. Naa ra jud na sa imu, it's your decision. Pero in your case na happy ka sa imu job now, you might want to think about it real hard. Is it worth it? Hangups are normal in breakups. But it'll heal over time. Sa sugod ra na siya lisod. Ang ako advice nimu sis, just give it time first, maybe couple of months and decide then. See if your decision to go abroad still stands.

[lovelots23]

when i my last relationship failed, mau jud ni akong gustong buhaton...
i was already there in the airport and pdung nko check.in ato...
ggukod kos akong bestfriend and iyang gi ingon kai...

"ang pain naa sa imung heart, wala sa place. and there's really like no other place that feels like home. kung mlarga ka, mkalimot bah jud kaha ka?"

and mau sad na akong gustong isulti ug ipangutana nimo miga

@teda: thanks for the very good question.i will think it over.

[yvonne6]

tinuod gyud kaau ni. ang tubag sa broken heart is not leaving kay maski asa ka, naa mana sa imong huna2. mas maau pa diri na lang ka kay naa ang mga friends, ang family. sa laing lugar, samot lang ka ma lonely ug ma depress kay aside sa imong ex nga imong huna hunaon, walay close nimo nga mo comfort nimo. sus girl, gikan nako ana, grabe pa gani akoa. exhusband ug bf for 6 years gyud akong exes. sakit tuod, pero naa raman na nimo. possitive mindset lang gyud. ipa hungaw na lang na diri sa istorya.net. u will eventually get over it and u will find someone else nga makapalipay nimo. break up is always part of the relationship. di puede nga forever jud, kung puede lang unta, but wake up and look around u. that is not the case man gud. acceptance is the first step sa healing process nimo

[lovelots23]

I think it's reasonable. Sometimes you just need some distance to forget. Naa ra jud na sa imu, it's your decision. Pero in your case na happy ka sa imu job now, you might want to think about it real hard. Is it worth it? Hangups are normal in breakups. But it'll heal over time. Sa sugod ra na siya lisod. Ang ako advice nimu sis, just give it time first, maybe couple of months and decide then. See if your decision to go abroad still stands.

@_spectre: bec. im thinking that a new environment is a help since the memories is here.i think the problem is the big changes that i will be facing.you are right.it's real hard and i need time to know what i really want.thanks!

[Klave]

Like sa giingon ni TEDA...

Una, financially sound gyud nga idea ang mularga, but don't make "running away" a reason for doing so.

Maski naa ang mga bad things diri, naa man sad ang mga good things.

And Cebu is your home.

So kung mularga change your resolve a bit like, "So I can have a better future"

or "Focus on your future"

Bonus na lang na nga makadistansya ka sa mga samok sa imong kinabuhi.

[Tirong-say]

Bakasyon lang usa, mas maayo diha na lang ka, we do not know for sure unsay mapalgan nimo nga work sa abroad, otherwise kung sure gyud ka nga maayo imong trabaho didto, then go for it.

[lovelots23]

tinuod gyud kaau ni. ang tubag sa broken heart is not leaving kay maski asa ka, naa mana sa imong huna2. mas maau pa diri na lang ka kay naa ang mga friends, ang family. sa laing lugar, samot lang ka ma lonely ug ma depress kay aside sa imong ex nga imong huna hunaon, walay close nimo nga mo comfort nimo. sus girl, gikan nako ana, grabe pa gani akoa. exhusband ug bf for 6 years gyud akong exes. sakit tuod, pero naa raman na nimo. possitive mindset lang gyud. ipa hungaw na lang na diri sa istorya.net. u will eventually get over it and u will find someone else nga makapalipay nimo. break up is always part of the relationship. di puede nga forever jud, kung puede lang unta, but wake up and look around u. that is not the case man gud. acceptance is the first step sa healing process nimo

@yvonne6: you sounds a strong woman.maka "S". me, i think am not, maybe bec. emotional & homebody type ko.for me, at least sa laing lugar, i have no choice but to survive since that's life in there that includes looking new friends..dili man gud ko tig friend ug una so maybe if naa nako sa gawas ma usab nako, friendly na kayo kokinda a sort of new mind setting.the problem now is i cannot accept that he is just around anyway, still weighing what is good and best for me.

[lovelots23]

Like sa giingon ni TEDA...

Una, financially sound gyud nga idea ang mularga, but don't make "running away" a reason for doing so.

Maski naa ang mga bad things diri, naa man sad ang mga good things.

And Cebu is your home.

So kung mularga change your resolve a bit like, "So I can have a better future"

or "Focus on your future"

Bonus na lang na nga makadistansya ka sa mga samok sa imong kinabuhi.

@Klave: thanks! i think it's a good idea that i will change my perception.instead of running away i should say "to have a better future". yes, truly hard to leave since it's always a home sweet home.