How to overcome depression on a broken marriage?

[hellraiser]

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I'm a married man for 8 years, with 1 kid and ofc with 1 wife. lol. My partner left philippines to work abroad when our son was 2 y.o. After a months, I was devastated coz she wants me to free her, she wants me to give her space and time. To think she has the whole world of her time and space coz she's thousand miles away. But then, I agreed and things work out well then na normal na ang tanan sa amo relationship. After a year, I left also to work in mid. east, our communication was fine, i love you here, i love you there, and so on and so forth bla bla bla.... After a year nag dungan mi ug bakasyon, we had a happy moments and it was like kami ra duha sa kalibutan. After a month, I left to go back mid east, siya pud mo balik pud abroad after a couple of days...But then, ouch! here it goes again, gusto napud cya ug space and time and she told me that her love for me slowly fading away (at that time naa pa cya sa Pinas.). I was thinking from hell to heaven how it can be after all adtong pag bakasyon namo. I can't imagine kung unsa mi ka happy nga couple adto nga time. Then, I asked her why wala nalang ko niya gi confront personally about ni ana, and she told me dili cya gusto nga e screw amo bakasyon and she wants us to enjoy. But still, wala ko mo give-up. Continue lang gihapon ko sa amoa, pila ka months everything gets to normal, I even asked her if she still have doubt about sa amoa relationship and she told me "NOTHING. THIS IS IT. I LOVE YOU." Ofc me a stpd pinhe@d was so happy and continue our life, work, work, work, ofc for the future of our family.........Until few months ago, I noticed that she's cold to me (she's in Phil right now), everyday I made comments on her friendster expressing my love and adoring her, but she will just replied a "smiley" or just a short word. I deleted my accounts on facebook and friendster coz it hurt me so bad, looking on her photo albums with hundred of photos (friends, relatives, my son ofc) and i only have one photo with my kid hehehe sa usa ka album nya. And she has lot of comments and regards to her friendsters and facebook friends but nothing is for me. Well, she just sent me a msg "Hi.". I petty my self and deleted my both accounts. After a couple of days she broke up with me. We still have a regular communication. And she's telling me that she's sad coz of the burden that she has now, for destroying our family and it hurts her so much. On my side, I want to move on but I can't, memories keep on flashing on my mind and dreams, I want to move my a!$ on, but how? how? how?

wtf?! pasenxa namo ha? may hang-over lang and medyo dili pud busy sa office.....guys and gals kindly give me your wordssssssssssss......salamat!

[Fern]

I'm a married man for 8 years, with 1 kid and ofc with 1 wife. lol. My partner left philippines to work abroad when our son was 2 y.o. After a months, I was devastated coz she wants me to free her, she wants me to give her space and time. To think she has the whole world of her time and space coz she's thousand miles away. But then, I agreed and things work out well then na normal na ang tanan sa amo relationship. After a year, I left also to work in mid. east, our communication was fine, i love you here, i love you there, and so on and so forth bla bla bla.... After a year nag dungan mi ug bakasyon, we had a happy moments and it was like kami ra duha sa kalibutan. After a month, I left to go back mid east, siya pud mo balik pud abroad after a couple of days...But then, ouch! here it goes again, gusto napud cya ug space and time and she told me that her love for me slowly fading away (at that time naa pa cya sa Pinas.). I was thinking from hell to heaven how it can be after all adtong pag bakasyon namo. I can't imagine kung unsa mi ka happy nga couple adto nga time. Then, I asked her why wala nalang ko niya gi confront personally about ni ana, and she told me dili cya gusto nga e screw amo bakasyon and she wants us to enjoy. But still, wala ko mo give-up. Continue lang gihapon ko sa amoa, pila ka months everything gets to normal, I even asked her if she still have doubt about sa amoa relationship and she told me "NOTHING. THIS IS IT. I LOVE YOU." Ofc me a stpd pinhe@d was so happy and continue our life, work, work, work, ofc for the future of our family.........Until few months ago, I noticed that she's cold to me (she's in Phil right now), everyday I made comments on her friendster expressing my love and adoring her, but she will just replied a "smiley" or just a short word. I deleted my accounts on facebook and friendster coz it hurt me so bad, looking on her photo albums with hundred of photos (friends, relatives, my son ofc) and i only have one photo with my kid hehehe sa usa ka album nya. And she has lot of comments and regards to her friendsters and facebook friends but nothing is for me. Well, she just sent me a msg "Hi.". I petty my self and deleted my both accounts. After a couple of days she broke up with me. We still have a regular communication. And she's telling me that she's sad coz of the burden that she has now, for destroying our family and it hurts her so much. On my side, I want to move on but I can't, memories keep on flashing on my mind and dreams, I want to move my a!$ on, but how? how? how?

wtf?! pasenxa namo ha? may hang-over lang and medyo dili pud busy sa office.....guys and gals kindly give me your wordssssssssssss......salamat!

shes must be screwing another guy sa gawas.

think of the worst... and prepare yourself.....

but this this time think of unsaon nimu pag explain sa imung son about waht happened.

"ang sala sa ginikanan..ang anak mag antos"

[hellraiser]

I asked her about that and she told me "NOBODY. NO 3RD PARTY.". I do believed coz she's not a party goer or hanging out with friends, she's the type of gal nga mo gawas ra ug balay kung naay paliton or naay special occasion sa family. I mean she's the type of girl nga "WIFE" jud, mabilin nimo sa balay. I don't know... I feel wasted.

[Fern]

I asked her about that and she told me "NOBODY. NO 3RD PARTY.". I do believed coz she's not a party goer or hanging out with friends, she's the type of gal nga mo gawas ra ug balay kung naay paliton or naay special occasion sa family. I mean she's the type of girl nga "WIFE" jud, mabilin nimo sa balay. I don't know... I feel wasted.

youre wife is a stupid !@#!@$ .... maybe the life you have now is not the life that she imagined before you guys got married... ana biya na kasagaran

does she often tell you about her dreams and aspirations kung unsa nga kind of family iay gusto katong Time nga uyab pa mu?

or basin na kuwangan ra na sa eyot?


pardon my rough words... i just hate women nga ingun ana...

[ballsandword]

dah! nagmahay..may ra..hahahah

[hellraiser]

youre wife is a stupid !@#!@$ .... maybe the life you have now is not the life that she imagined before you guys got married... ana biya na kasagaran

does she often tell you about her dreams and aspirations kung unsa nga kind of family iay gusto katong Time nga uyab pa mu?

or basin na kuwangan ra na sa eyot?


pardon my rough words... i just hate women nga ingun ana...

we used to talk about our dreams, aspirations and plan everything, infact, working abroad usa sa amo steps para sa amo mga plans. we are on our steps towards those but now all gone to waste. maybe she fll out of love kay lagyo mi? and dugay nami nga wala magka-uban? is it possible? but I told her nga mag kuyog mi to work out everything, kuhaon nako cya ug visa para mag kauban mi diria, but she told me nga if ever mangari man cya nako sa mid. east it won't change anything and dili ko mag expect nga ma balik ang tanan.........and the other side of my brain keeps on telling me to stop na and let her free coz these is the 3rd time.......i don't know unsa buhaton...

[Fern]

we used to talk about our dreams, aspirations and plan everything, infact, working abroad usa sa amo steps para sa amo mga plans. we are on our steps towards those but now all gone to waste. maybe she fll out of love kay lagyo mi? and dugay nami nga wala magka-uban? is it possible? but I told her nga mag kuyog mi to work out everything, kuhaon nako cya ug visa para mag kauban mi diria, but she told me nga if ever mangari man cya nako sa mid. east it won't change anything and dili ko mag expect nga ma balik ang tanan.........and the other side of my brain keeps on telling me to stop na and let her free coz these is the 3rd time.......i don't know unsa buhaton...

ako sad.... nag libug ko unsa nasulud sa utuk sa babae.... nag mahay after that unsa man an nga babae oie

have you talked to her parents? about that.


hmmmm.. was she a virgin when you married her?

[hellraiser]

dah! nagmahay..may ra..hahahah

thanks!

[Fern]

something happend to her sa abroad.. thats all i can say.... basin physical in nature and nag mahay cya after wards

[bbnescia]

abi nimo sir...for me kanang larga jd sa gawas ang consequences jd ana kasagaran kay mabuwag jd ang pamilya...stable lagi mo...makakaon, makapalit sa gusto,etc...pero ang other side ang imong gitiguman what i mean is imong family mabuwag lang?basin nangita na ug time and love imong asawa sir..i mean as a wife pud mangit jd kos akong pares, mas nindot jd kung naa mong duha kay ma nurture ninyo ang inyong love ug ang inyong family.don't give up sir! mas maayo mag storyaanay mog tarong i think the love is still there pero natabunan lang nas inyong kuwang sa oras kanang absence ninyo sa usag usa ba... kay natabunan mana sya sir knahanglan pang ukayon para ma reminisce tong inyong love..sa tanan kaminyuon sir kitang tanan naay tagsa tagsa ka pagsuway naa ra jd na nato unsaon nato pagsulbad ang problema.. pray lang sa Lord sir, i know ma overcome ni ninyong tanan.