problema sa gugma,,need ur advice

[DreaderX]

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hi to all isotryans..

let me start off by describing myself nd my gf... im d type of guy who takes things seriously. im open-minded, loving, caring and generous. i love to listen to my girl whenever she talks about her daily experiences..i also make promises and strictly keep them..

my girl...she's d girl who's outgoing and sociable. has lots of girl friends..very close friends..i love her because shes kind, honest, loving and very open about herself.. naa lang jud koy dli ganhan nya....dali ra kaau xa mangluod and almost everytime na mag argue me whether akong sayor or iyaa...she always turns it around making the tables against me..so wala jud koy daganan...even though its clearly her fault, she looks for flwas in me and uses them..

but me? its ok...i can understand her because i love her...but what just happened a moment ago...dli na nako makaya..nag argue me about a certain girl, nangluod xa,dli xa mkg strya nako..magsorry ko dli ko paminawon....even though ikapila na ni nahitabo...musabot ghapon ko niya nd ako ang magpaubos..pero gnha kay nidako naman iya tingog, murag na spoil na kaau xa..pero wala ra ghpon nako padaun rako sorry..gi walk outan man nuon ko niya..nd gahilak xa. i dont know why..

useless akong mga sorry...useless akong mga explnations...

plz help...tell me how to deal with this kind of girl...what should i do?
i want to break up with her na bt i love her too much to let go of her...hayy..

[cjmagowan]

cool down lng sa guro bai...

I've been lyk this... Cant control my anger sad... but im trying to...
Breaking up is not a solution... Communicate and be patient lng. Mao na ako gihimo karn.. almost the same tag kinaiya sa a2 gf. pero ako ang mudako ug tingog namong duha.

though d ghapon nko cya masabtan kaau karn.. atleast im learning and i'm happy.

[joyce_mj21]

she seems to be jealous...i think she really love u if nihilak sya nag walk out nimo just because of that girl nga inyo giawayan. kinahanglan lang jud na storyahan bro. if nisaka na iya tingog, it means to say nga grabe ang emotion nga iya na keep about the incident that eventually triggers her anger. just make her feel important and secured, that is all what we need

[Meebo]

mao2 ra man ni sa akong GF, they want you to leave them alone but at the same time, they want to see how far you'd go to make amends.. ang mga sorry sometimes i-bale wala ra jud na... women HUH? but its all good. thats a part of the package.. hehehe.. sakto cla relax lang.. dont be annoying.. dont leave her as well.. i've always wanted to break up with her pud.. but at the end of the day mag pangita man jud ta nila.. samuk kaayu.. cant live with them cant live without them.. chill lang jud ka bro.. just hold her hand if she'll let you.. give her a big smack.. and look her in the eyes.. and give her a hug.. and when she asks why.. you know what to say! char.. hehehehe.. chill lang btaw bro..! she'll come around...

[aozora]

break up with her. dont be blinded by ur too much affection with her, she dont even feel it!

if she really trusts you then she cud have understand wat ur saying.
yes ur right! u should have not spoil her. maybe u can tell her that!

u cud try and wait for her to contact u(let see if time can help) and dont see her just yet. ni walk out cya, dont go chasing her! (do you want this in ur long term relationship?)
if she really wants to keep u, then she is with u and will go wid u!

wyl ur into that, start looking for other girls just in case.

btw, ur praising ur girl too much that they contradict in ur last sentence. ur too blinded bro.
is she that beautiful?

i may sound diffrnt from the first three comments, but its me! (^ ^)v

[babychique]

i guess, breaking up is not the solution..
i used to be like your gf.. grabeh dali mngluOd..bt f lambingon raku sa akong bf..mwala rmn
bt stil its case to case basis..well, ang buhaton ra ako bf ato.. he's assurng me na ako lng and all the stuffs.. we've talked about ana..and now.. ni lessen na bia akong kaluoran..
now, xa npd mngluod2x..ahahah! well, lambing2x rna bro..

loving someone jd takes a lot of efforts and understndng..^^
yw lng jd xa e spoil.. let her hear you out

[vikkz]

She does sound like a brat, but I think most girls go through that when the guys spoil them. She obviously doesn't trust you yet, so help her learn to trust you. You have to let her know though that if sayop niya, sayop gyud niya. Don't give in and let her win if she is at fault. If you let her have it her way everytime, then ikaw ra magmahay.

"but me? its ok...i can understand her because i love her..."- If you love her, then you should let her know what her faults are. If she loves you enough, she should be willing to change and accept that at certain times, it is also her fault. Having a relationship is not always about taking, but two-way. If you love her, don't let her have her way everytime...it's just like having a kid. You don't spare the rod and spoil your kid if you love him/her right? You have to teach him/her what is right from wrong so that the child grows up to be good. Same thing applies to her.

Selosa lang gyud imong gf. Give her time to reflect on what she did. An apology is enough basta sincere ka and that you can reassure her that she is the one you love...-"but what just happened a moment ago...dli na nako makaya..nag argue me about a certain girl, nangluod xa,dli xa mkg strya nako..magsorry ko dli ko paminawon....even though ikapila na ni nahitabo..."
musabot ghapon ko niya nd ako ang magpaubos..pero gnha kay nidako naman iya tingog, murag na spoil na kaau xa..pero wala ra ghpon nako padaun rako sorry..gi walk outan man nuon ko niya..nd gahilak xa. i dont know why.."
------Like I said, ayaw lang ug sabot gihapon niya ug magpaubos. Everytime you do this (and knowing nga iyang sala kay over lang gyud siya), then she will do it everytime because she knows she can get away with it. You're just allowing her to be that way. She's probably crying because she's hurt, but at the same time she knows she's being a brat...She can't help feeling like that. Daghan siya pride oi. She expects you to take the blame and beg her back even though it is her fault. She knows you will still be there for her despite the fact that she is over reacting. So you should change, so that she can also.

"useless akong mga sorry...useless akong mga explnations..." - Then, quit apologizing if you know it is not your fault. If you know you haven't done anything wrong, then stop na. You said so yourself it's "useless"...so let her be. Let her be the one to apologize this time and accept that fact that she just has to learn to trust you.

"plz help...tell me how to deal with this kind of girl...what should i do?
i want to break up with her na bt i love her too much to let go of her...hayy."
-Breaking up is not the solution here. You guys are probably at that stage wherein you guys are still getting to know each others' personality. Eventually, you will get along if kamu duha ang maninguha...dili lang ikaw. Don't worry, we all go through something like this. It doesn't mean she's not the right one. It just means you two have alot to work on. If it still doesn't work after trying to change things for the better...then that's when you know you have to get rid of her.