HELP My boyfriend wants to leave and asks me to wait for him

[kc_marshan]

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hi
naa koie bf now,actually were livin in for 2 years now,pero not the exact two years kai uli2 man ko sa amo.a. my parents doesnt rili know about it,pero kahibaw cla naa koi bf. ngwork man gud ko here so daz y nakaabot ko ngari.
problem is; i went home last sept. kai na dead ako lolo, in the span of tym na naa ko sa amo.a he's been tellin me how much he loves me n dat spend lng daw ko tym wit my family wyl he prepares 4 our future,kai cya daw mu.ad2 sa amo-a para i.ask nko sa ako parents para we wont be apart na.
now,since busy cya sa work,i understood ngano li au cya katawag,i understood the nature sa job man.wyl am at home wala jud koie laag2 or anything kai homebuddy man jud ko eversince.then fourmonths na lng lain nmn jud ako paminaw mao namugos ko na mubalik njd ko..

now i found out na naa cya lain..sakit kaaU ai..i tot mgbulag njd mi pero i ddnt let go n i didnt give up. ang nakasakit pjud kai kaila ko sa girl n ang girl kahibaw sa amo.a coz officem8 rman sa ako bf.
ang nkalain lang is dat mg.jam gud mi b4 kuyog2 ko nila and kahibaw cla tnan unsa namu ka luv each other sa ako bf. and i know i've mention that wer livin in 2gether since b4.

and i hate it nga 8 days after ko ni.abot aiha pa ko kahibaw sa tnan..den ang himuon na reason is na.burntout daw cya,kana ako cya apason if mg.inom cla. i know its my mistake,pero its not evrytym man na apason nko cya,parang once lang to kai we agreed on something gud,na ok ra if mg.inum cya pero he shud kol me n tell me coz wr livin in 2gther gud.and its not as if wr ordinary couples, i think i have the ryt to know nmn dba?..and besides ok rjud sa ako mg.inom cla,suporta-an pa gne nko cla,mkgjam pa gne ko apil sa iya mga friends,although dli ko mu.inom..

but then pgkahibaw nko, then after we talked n after i explained my side of y i did those and that,he cried and told me nga ngmahay cya y he did that and he realized unsa ko niya ka luv,which is also the reason y dat he still kols me n tell me how much he luvs me n mizd me n makes me wait for him.

they cud have w8d until over na mi dbah?..specially that the girl knows wat kind of relationship we have/had...specially that we became friends b4 pa lang..

wat im rili bothered about is that,ang girl dili sad mu.let go,although ngbreak na cla,the girl wud cry daw ana ana...and i understood man ngano dili pa likayan sa ako bf ang girl, i know hes not that bad..he says he wants to consolidate daw.i know hes also woried wat will his officem8s will say since some of his officem8s knows about us and some knows about them...he did admit man that he fell for her but he says that he loves me sad thats y he doesnt want me to go..ambot lang oie nglibug njud koh..

they just didnt know, triple pa ang pain na ako na feel,only lang i love him so much mao im staying and tries to understand everything,but i told him man na he doesnt need to keep me for pity or for his family..but he says its not the reason sad daw..hes plannin to resign and go away for a while by his own..but he wants me to wait here with his family.im willing to wait man,i dont want to waste the bond that i have with his family and with him.the family makes me feel special jud ai n i really appreciate it.they even followed us k2 pgconfront nko sa girl kai f awayon daw ko or bugno-on ila daw ko tabangan ug bugno sa girl..hehe.pero we didnt know na naa cla nisunod.they also advised me to stay bahala daw kno mgkinaUnsa hehe,kai boto daw kno cla nako..i can see man how my bf is trying to patch things up..wer still sweet as we always r.. pero i cnt take the fact sad nga they're still seing each other and calls each other hon, the girl told him man gud daw na dli lang instant na wala na daUn tanan...i forgave him nmn and i forgave her nasad..im not furious anymore its just that it hurts so bad from tym to tym and it also scares me too and i dunno wat to do..pls tell me something?

tnx for reading this, n i really appreciate if ud interact...tnx a lot..God bless...

[k9]

pero i cnt take the fact sad nga they're still seing each other and calls each other hon, the girl told him man gud daw na dli lang instant na wala na daUn tanan.

is this what you call "him patching things up?"

he had done enough damage already by cheating - then he still entertains the girl? and top of that they still call each other hon? oh come on! which is much important to him ba jud?! your feelings or the girl's feelings?

[W580]

is this what you call "him patching things up?"

he had done enough damage already by cheating - then he still entertains the girl? and they still call each other hon? oh come on! which is much important to him ba jud?! your feelings or the girl's feelings?

I agree with k9...
he is just prolonging ur pain...

[Ryan747]

Maayo na mangilad imo laki both of you should dump him, kamo ra gyud ang gi ilad ana.

[jonz]

move on... he is not everything to you.. your purspose of living is not all about that guy...
pain is temporary ra kau na pero ang regret permanent dyd na cge nimo mabalik2x.. so move on... just think you are beatiful then he is not worth of your love....dmo match.. yaw pmugos....
keep yourself valuable... and that will help you to move on...
in the fist palce kana nga laki dont know what he wants in life...

[kc_marshan]

move on... he is not everything to you.. your purspose of living is not all about that guy...
pain is temporary ra kau na pero ang regret permanent dyd na cge nimo mabalik2x.. so move on... just think you are beatiful then he is not worth of your love....dmo match.. yaw pmugos....
keep yourself valuable... and that will help you to move on...
in the fist palce kana nga laki dont know what he wants in life...

tnx sa advice..its not that namugos kow..peo he does something/says things that makes me hold on man gud..and i wanted to give ourselves a chance,our relationship..i duno oie...bo.ang lang jud cguro ko or martyr ba kaha that i cant let go man jud..
i know this is not because cya ang first love,1st bf n first in everything...it just feel so different although its hurting me...am still here showing him that hes loved and that i forgave him already...maybe one day he'll realized unsa nako cya ka love...maybe he'll realized na there's no one that can love him as much as i do...arrrgg...ambot lang jud...

tnx sa advice guys..keep it coming...bcn naa koie ma-realize..i really appreciate it..

[diem]

In my humble opinion of what you've shared about him, I don't think he's the sort of person worthy to be waited for. Unless he proves himself through good, unselfish acts of love to you I think you'll be wasting your life pinning your heart to him.

I pray that you find the answer that you can live with and lead you to your happiness.

[kc_marshan]

guys..actually this is related to my first thread..
unsay inyong buhaton if u found out nga inyong bf/gf has another,pero he/she still says that he/she still loves u but he/she loves the other too and that he/she admitts his/her mistake pero bothered lang jud cya.and still he wants u to stay?

[zney25]

tell him to weigh his feelings..and tell him that "you can't have 2 things or 2 person at the same time.."weither he likes it or not...wala siya mahimo but to choose,bsan wala nimo siya gpa.choose...ana jud na...

and if mao ghapon nga cge sila sa girl..stop it nalang...lisod siya and sakit buhaton..but you have to..and he have to choose....choosing is the difficult part for him...pero iya mana binuhatan.....

and for you...you should be ready kung unsay out come,and always prepare yourself sa sakit nga imo atubangon..

[love2travel]

get over him, he doesn't deserve you!