HELP Feeling Sorry, Regretful, should I Let Go?

[InChaos]

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Hi all,

ill make my story as brief as possible. long story short i meet this wonderful girl a month or more ago. three weeks ago i i expressed my like for the girl. she said she doesnt wants me to expect anything, or wait for me because she has still many things thats in her mind, many things to accomplished, and she still has pending relationship issues from her previous relationship ro watsoever. but from then it ddnt matter to me and i continue to court her from there on. everything was good. i get to meet her and all talk about anything and was just happy being with her and so was her being with me.

just a week ago everything changed. she suddenly felt sensitive. my usual caring for her meant annoying to her. she said she ddnt like that. and again emphasize that i should not w8 nor expect anything. i felt pain when she said that, not because i knew it already, but because it was the truth. i felt pain, and got mad and talked bak at her why she hurts me like this when i was just trying to be nice and all.

after that fight, i refused to get in touch with her with our usual SMS. but she still keeps txting me. saying she is preoocupied, why we have to be like this and all, and that she cant afford not to txt etc etc etc. i asked why are you telling me this and what did u waht to happen really? she ddnt answer. so i asked if we can sit down and talk.

the day after we got to met and we talk. i asked the same questions especially when she tried to contact me when i ddnt. i thought i could handle her answer. but when i asked what did she really want to happen, she answered my the same dont w8 dont expect thing, and she added that i have to get attached with her becuase i did care but for her it was just nothing or she ddnt care at all. also said that she just wants to be free and just let her do what she wants.

i dont know, but i got mad. coz it seems she is stopping me for what i was doin. i dont know why. everyhting went out of hand and the last thing i said to her, is why are trying to tell me that we keep our friendship when it was YOU who changed. then she left..

that same night we meet again, and with the influence of alcohol, we argued more to the extent of hurting each other(though words, not physical). but i was really to blame coz i initiated that contact. i kept on hugging her that night

i felt regret of what i did because it was suppose to be good already before the fight. i miss handled the situation badly. especially on the last situation. i did got to talk to her yesterday, and said how regretfull i was for what i did, for the words and things i did, and for letting it happen the way it did. i apologize for evertyhing, and that i was able to do such thiings because i cared for her so much. and she just said it was ok and to forget about it. she was good and it was ok and she understood everything.

i know deep inside she had a shattered heart. i knw she is mad and maybe want to box me for what a jerk i made. i knw she jus said it nicely to avoide making the issue bigger. but thats not whats making me incomplete right now. i felt not satisfied, its because i felt guilty of what happened, and i may have lost a good friend. i know being sorry will never fix what i did wrong to her but i jsut dont feel ok and satisfied.

after this has happend, should i w8 if she makes contact 1st and see what up? is this a lost cause now? do i have to forget about her and let go and move on? i still do care for her, i still want to love her, but is there really anything i can do for her right now?

just nid some advice or help. thanks

[histrionic0311]

bro, u shud understand her situation now and try your earnest to talk it out...bt if she forbids u in doing so, think first on your relationship together and decide if u wud risk urslf 2 be together with her or let go... it won't be easy for u bt be patient.. say it on what is in your heart.

[lady_yan]

you known bro, sometimes, girls say na please dont expect anything, but you know what, in the long run, if that person keeps on showing affections to you and always being there for you, the feeling will develop. later on, the girl would realize that she's slowly having feelings for the guy.
been there,, done that,,, i should have not said those "don't expect anything" words..

[lady_yan]

after the incident na you already told her some hurtful words,, i know she was really hurt ato.
since you said na sige mo text and kita, so maybe she already do feel something for you. maybe you still have to wait and see unsay muhappen..

[Soul_Captive]

Lie low on your efforts to win her..The fact that she has been spending time with you could mean something in contrast to what she was telling you..But, you have hurt her, too..Give her some time to think about things between the two of you..And if there is really hope for the two of you, she will do the first move to contact you..

[Baeybe_Bryce]

bro,she's might be confuse right now....just give her time at isa pa sa short story mo wen u did not text her siya ngttext..it might be wake up call na un sknya ...but for d mentime,give her d chance n mkpg isip muna..and hopefully she might wake up one day and she's badly missing u na..hehehe...time bro..give her time...

[InChaos]

tinuod mo. maybe libog siya. maybe pud there is hope. na time will come na makamata ra sya ang may realise she has taken somebody for granted or watsoever.. its nice if ingon ana mahitabo...

but not like thinking negative here, pero isnt it also possible na all she wanted was some attention? attention that i was giving her? kay at first ok ra gud mi. i can get to hold her hand, kiss her sa forehead or chicks, and can get to see her, or sometimes since her bhaus is just a few walk from the where i work, muadto sya. but when i got close to her, mao to mo emphasize nsad sya about dont w8 dont expect thing? and then when i try to make distance from her by not txting, sya daun mo txt ug magparamdam? isnt it sad kinda unfair na when she wants attention, she can get it from me, but when ako na nid iya attention, daghan ayo sya "BS" na isulti?

in anycase, the w8ing is still on.. kay i cant do anything, and i cant even do the 1st move. i think is she really does want me, or i mean really something to her and dili ra to attention or panakip butas iya gihimo nko, she will look for me, dba? pero if dili, i gues the waiting is still worth enough to really know my feelings towards her...

sakto ba kaha sad ko??

[aLohaBby]

padayon lng gud... pero ayaw lang pirmiha para dli sya ma irit... maayo gani siya naay ga mahal niya,kysa uban dha preha nko,wala jd!

[gnox]

why don't you concentrate on ur lyf at the meantime. if she really wants you she will find a way.
you apologized already, I think it's enough. just concentrate on your work first.
let time heal all wounds.

[crush_23]

ahm......sumtyms wat a gurl says is not actually wat she meant....


imho.....nakalike nmo ang gurl pero case is confuse na sya kay naa man kaha sya mga probs....if u reli love her sabta nalang sa sya.....if la ka niya sugta dayon basin naa pa sya giwait nga sign if dapat ba ka niya sugton....right now, pagfrens lang sa mo..she will appreciate it if u will always be there for her esp sa times nga need ka niya.....eventually, marealize ra na niya nga madevelop ra sya nmo...

gudluck sa imong lovelyf ....