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[monrose29]

halu guys!!!!

its me again....i have an uodate on my "luv problem"

remember, i am the one who is almost like the "3rd party" (almost ra kay gapalayu nmn ko nya para d mi makasa!!!) sa LDR sa aku crush...

hmmm, well u see, sa karun d na au mi magtagad and stuff pero wen i happen to pass by, he'd grab my elbow, or hold on to my bag....then id say 'buhii ko' den hed say 'ayaw sa, kadali lang...' but still, mopalayu ko, kay na! lisud na! temptations,...

anyway, naa xay mga weird hints... gidelete nya ang testi sa iya gf leaving mine alone...and by alone, i mean akoa nlng jud ang testi nga nabilin....then he sent me a txt msg saying 'd most painful thing that a guy can do to his girl is to sit wid his frens saying "pare, paniwalang paniwala xang mahal ko xa pero sa totoo lang, ikaw mahal ko"'

ok ra ta if kato ra ang iya gisend kay, well, circulating quote bya to...pero, he added "karelate ka noh?" wat the h*ll?

libug ko...wats his purpose? can anyone pls interpret this for me

boys will be boys,

i know ur matured enough for that things, sakto na imong gibuhat stay away from him, coz we really dont know what hes plan,

imoha na jud ng fault if mag padala ka sa iyang mga style, klaro na ka ayo para ingnon nag bulag sila sa iyang gf i delete niya ang mga testi sa friendster.. pastilan binata naman na nga moves... or pa impress bahh nga how important u are to him.... susssss ako pa...

then if tinod-anay iyaha.. deli sya mag binastos.. why he will grab ur elbow? just to get ur attention? in ana nalang ka easy..... basin mag to-o na sya easygirl nalang ka ayo ka...

para nako ang babaye deli in ana-on pag approach... if hes sincere he with hes feelings. he will invite for dinner or watch movie, go out some where,

like me.. behh give ur number watch ta movie.. hehehehe joke lang oi..

bitaw friend ayaw padala ana iyang style...

[rey04]

@me0wkyu - i agree with streetcar. its different when your matured nah.

i think the guy's testing the waters on you. Dont fall for it. Not right away for as long as he still has the other girl. For one thing, he can't have his cake and eat it too. If he can do it to the girlfriend, he'll do it to you and the next one and the next. If he is really serious with you, he has to break clean with the girlfriend first. And you also need to be frank with him and tell him that because the problem there is if he changes his mind and loses interest with you and puts his focus back on his now girlfriend, you are going to get hurt and I know you seem to like him otherwise this will not be an issue at all. So be frank with him while early. Some guys do that. They hang on to two, until they are sure who they really want to be with and only then one gets hurt sooner or later. You want to protect yourself from getting hurt.

[ronna]

@meowkyu... i got this advice from a friend and i hope it'll help loosen up things a bit..
jhoepesh wrote:
when it comes to problems of the heart mahirap talaga makialam kasi di naman natin hawak yung nararamdam ng isang tao... we based our advises and opinions sa akong anong tama, pero sino nga ba ang makakapagsabi ng tama kung nagmamahal ka...

usually tayo (mga 3rd party na tumingin lang), neglects the fact na walang right or wrong answers or opinions to this one... out of a hundred peeps na sobra kung ma inlove ilan lang ba yung talagang nakikinig... kasi nga likas na sa atin yung sarili lang natin yung iniisip natin at yung nararamdaman natin...

para to sa girl ha... ok lang ma inlove ka with someone who has promise another woman his commitment, walang makakahusga sa'yo kung bakit mo yun ginawa and don't be scared to admit na you are... pero think about this! in a battlefield would you still fight when you know that you've already lost... its not basically giving up what you've got but knowing what you can't have... admitting the fact that in love meron talagang natatalo at meron talagang nasasaktan... oo nga at feeling mo mahal ka n'ya pero kung talagang mahal ka n'ya do you think wla c'yang gagawin para hindi ka na masaktan... is this the kind of love that you want? you deserve better than this... papayag ka ba sa ganun set-up na nakikihati ka! c'ge considering the fact na he promised you something... did he maintain his promise? madaming paraan to end a relationship kung yung basis na lang n'to is obligation, pero have you thought of the reason why he hasn't? alam ko masakit pero at least sure ka sa sarili mo na nagmahal ka ng tunay... its a fact that one gets hurt when we speak of love and honestly speaking mas gusto ko yung ganun kasi d'on mo lang talaga malalaman na you've given it your best...

para naman sa guy... LDR is not a reason kung bakit ka naghahanap ng kapalit... i'm not gonna judge you na hindi mo mahal yung girl pero at least man lang show some courage kung mahal mo talaga... it was your choice to be in that state so i guess it's your choice din in the end... don't give the crap na may masasaktan ka dahil along the way and wherever we see it talagang may masasaktan ka... nand'yan na yan eh! be a MAN to admit your fault.... i'm not naman saying na maging perfect ka or something pero just be mature... based on this your old enough na to decide d'ba? kung gagamitin mo lang yung girl then i suggest find a person na would ride to what you have to offer.... kasi hindi na uso yung padamihan ng gf's eh` mas sensible ka kung you'll choose one...


siguro what i'm trying to say is in the end kayo din yung masusunod kung anong gagawin ninyo... i can't say na dapat walang naapakan kasi nga meron na... siguro its a matter of straightening things out na lang between the two of you... decide kung maggagamitan lang kayo o you'd get a notch higher... in the long run kung mas patatagalin n'yo yung ganitong relationship magiging malabo na sa inyo kung anong gusto ninyo... lastly, kahit na anong mangyari as long as pagkatapos and kung ano man yung decision ninyo... one thing remains and para sa'kin its the most important thing... you get to retain your DIGNITY at yung pagkakataon to love again... kasi mas masakit yung kahit sarili mo hindi mo na kilala eh!

[MyMaria]

meOwkyU

you know what i can't stand? guys who are just like that.. who are too chickensh*t to end their current relationship for fear of being alone... it seems like the guy does not want to be at a loss here and that he's keeping his girl as a "security thingie".. it does look like he's trying to make a move on you and you know i believe you when you say you are trying not to be tempted -- avoiding him and all that.. and i know it's not easy because honestly speaking, being "a third party" has its unique and extraordinary thrills!

nevertheless, do not be confused. why?

because that guy is a loser... by playing with you -- your mind and your feelings -- in the hopes that he'll get you by the end of this cat-and-mouse game...

and remember, true love is not a game...if you're seriously considering a real relationship i doubt you'll have one with this fella.. oh sure, you'll probably have a blast or even the grandest times of your lives if you do pursue this matter... but hey, reality check... it's not going to last.

on the other hand, if he truly feels for you, he'd have the decency to end his current relationship to start a new one... if he's not happy with the current girl, what makes you think he'd be happy with you in the long run... THINK: He would probably do the same to you considering what he is now doing with his girl.

I'm sorry i have to burst your bubble like this meOwkyU, but i truly believe you are better off without him.
a pretty cool girl like you can have any guy she wants... he's not worth it.

[angelfyre]

sori but i tend to agree wid MyMaria. if he truly likes u, he'll break up wd his gf asap and will let u know wat he really feels for u immediately, instead of sending smoke signals. he wont keep u guessing, least u get frustrated and walk away. dont let him trick u into asking him on wat's the real score, coz if he reli likes u, this may sound old school, he'll do the work, and not just lip service. u said that he already told u that he liked u, but still wid d gf? he's playing. mao nay ingon nga he wants to have his cake and eat it too

[Streetcar]

^^

i agree with most of the advices. The best thing to do for you girl is to have a good talk with him. Never assume anything. Some guys play for fun and keep the girlfriend for real so you want to know where you stand in this situation and the only way to do that is to have a talk with him. If this guy is in your system, obviously, you really like him. So go talk to him about it its your right to do that and there is definitely nothing wrong about talking to him in case you are hesitant. That's the only way to go so you know where you stand.

[meOwkyU]

hmmm

@everybody....

yes, its true... i'm in the losing side here...and i will continue to try to stop the feeling...

but i hate it coz he's been constantly asking me how i feel... he said its matters so much to him...i dunno wat he's trying to say...all i know is that i dun like it anymore, the pain he's causing me that is....

wenever he talks about things like that, i always change the subject and talk about his girl...i insisted that he is juz missing his gf that's y he's acting strange...i dunno if i'm doing the ryt thing by constantly reminding him that he should make a gap between us because he's got a gf...

well, his gf is about to go abroad again...i dunno...im also confused y he is expressing feelings for me when he's already wid Ms. Perfect... brain, body, beauty, attitude, maturity, job, money....

the more i think of her, the more i get to see myself as a little kitten going against a ferocious vixen....

[diem]

the more i think of her, the more i get to see myself as a little kitten going against a ferocious vixen....

@meowkyu, basing on everybody's advice(streetcar, MyMaria, etc), you should think more about HIM and his true intentions for you.

He's the predator right now and you're the prey. While his lady vixen is away, he the fox is out to play with you, kitty dear.

Just make sure he doesn't bite you deep enough for you to have scars.

[Streetcar]

...Meowski, i think you are really getting so affected in this scenario you are in. Try not to compare yourself with the girlfriend. Its bad for your self-esteem. My question is, have you gotten somewhat intimate with him at this point? I sense a lot of confusion, frustration in that he is actually the one in control of the situation. And its really not the ideal relationship that you want but you must be falling in love with this guy.

[meOwkyU]

@diem

i want to break away so bad...but its soooooooo hard....

@Streetcar,

were not so intimate...i dont allow him so, but, the little things he does has so much impact to me...hay, i guess i gotta stop trying to think anything bout him, maybe i should pretend he exists...para lang makaget over...