Being the Nice Guy

[lhykah]

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not all the time

[Streetcar]

Girls may not realize that nice guys arent attractive to them..at first they might fall in love but sooner or later they will get bored and go looking for adventure and they will find that in a bad boy..hehe but if nice guys knows how to be a jerk sometimes and challenge his woman, then that is enough to create the feeling of attraction.. just my 2 cents...

I disagree. A woman who knows what she wants will not fall for guys looking for just adventure or the bad guy. It has a lot to do with a woman's self-worth. If she falls for that then maybe she has low self-esteem and finds validation and okay from a bad guy. Opposites attract? no opposites distract.

[GOKOU]

nope.. just be yourself... :mrgreen:

[Streetcar]

oh pleeeeease...is the word "nice" to be dreaded? should guys be flattered when described as bad instead of nice? I'm sure you don't want your daughters marrying bad boys....think about that.

and re emotional roller coaster, mapul-an sad ang tawo ani oi...most guys complain about women's emotional instability...somehow you'd like to have some peace and stabilty in a person.

between a nice guy and a bad guy, nganong pili-on gud nako ang bad guy? everyone's eventually looking for a nice person...unless he/she is still attracted to unhealthy relationship dynamics.

what we must be referring to is being spineless, underdeveloped...of being not a strong person. If you are weak, your personal boundaries are not clear...you tend to become a people-pleaser, chaser, beggar, etc. You can't hold your ground, you can't make a stand. These are very unattractive, no doubt.

There are nice guys who are mature and developed as there are bad guys who are spineless..those who don't stand up to peer pressure mao na mag bad bad sad sila.

so for me, being a nice AND mature guy is the way to go. No bad boys pleeeease.

Right on the dot about that Ms. Beau. A nice guy will stand up for a woman. Not take the escape route when the going gets rough and make the woman appear stupid, wronged for whatever happened when in fact he started, created it. I was a victim of this so i know darn well what you are talking about.

[Isteb]

oh? do the other guys leave the woman? i'm not a nice guy. but that doesn't mean i "make the woman appear stupid, wronged for whatever happened when in fact he started, created it. "

[Streetcar]

First we need to closely define what you consider a nice guy vs. a not-so-nice.

[Isteb]

bitaw mao gyud. you start...

[Ms.Beau]

insert ko ha...when u do the definition of terms pwede dili i murder ang word nga "nice"? thanks

[Streetcar]

Kamo sa, hehehe

[nolex]

not all the time..