How to Get Over a Break up

[rhenz143]

mga mabaw ra nga tawo ang mag.ingon ani .. pakamatyan jud?! tsek! tsek! mga cheap!!

yeah agree ko nimu ana rhakz...mao nay work sa evil mura kag nag offer imung life ni satan

[[Avenging PIRANHA]]

mga mabaw ra nga tawo ang mag.ingon ani .. pakamatyan jud?! tsek! tsek! mga cheap!!

disagree na pod ko ani you can't control the mind of the person if dili na gyud niya kaya unya the only way or the only solutions nga mawala tanan iyang problema is to commit suicide for him/her well iya ra pod ng decisions but ang kuyaw lang sa mgsuicide is when he/she murag musumpa ba nga mobalik siya na ambot na lang gyud luoy kaayo ang iya sumpaan nga balikon magperwisyo pirmi dili gyud na kalikayan miney my love my everything naa gyuy ingana nga mga tawo pero i think not all naman siguro pero sa akong perception i think dili ko magsuicide eyys maski unsa nako kamalas or kadaghang problema kay i know this are all trials that God gives to me and i have faith on Him man pod so mao na siya

[ain]

Think through everything thoroughly, but not obsessively. Go ahead and mull it over, as many times as necessary, within reason. Consider all the reasons you two broke up. Even if it sometimes seems as if there wasn't a good reason, there certainly was one - and probably more than one. Understand that you enjoyed being together for a while, but if the relationship was not what both start a relationship, but just one discordant person is enough to end it. It may also help you avoid many missteps in the future if you can identify areas where you contributed to the demise of the relationship.

you and your partner wanted for life, it would have ended eventually, no matter what. In this case, better sooner than later. Thinking about the reasons why it ended can make it much clearer to you that it takes two people to

1. Don't rethink your decision. If the breakup was your decision, keep in mind that only thinking about all the good times you had with your partner may cause you to forget the reasons why you broke it off. By the same token, try not to second-guess the situation if the decision to end things was not yours. It's very common to romanticize the good parts of the relationship, convincing yourself that maybe the bad parts weren't so bad after all, that maybe you could just live with them. Or that maybe if your ex would know just how you feel, he/she wouldn't want to break up after all. Don't play this game with yourself. Accept the situation and work on moving forward.
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   Keep your space. Even if you and your ex have decided to stay friends, break away completely from each other right after the breakup. This means not seeing each other, not being around his/her family members, no phone calls, no e-mails, no text messages, no Facebook, and no IMs - not necessarily as a permanent measure, but until you feel that you can converse with him/her on a purely platonic level, without an ulterior motive (and yes, wanting to get back together counts as an ulterior motive). If he/she tries to convince you to see him/her, ask yourself honestly what the point would be. If you're reliving the past by seeing him/her, it's not hard to get caught up in the moment and it will be harder to let go again. You may have to have some contact in order to deal with the practical aspects of things like moving out, signing papers, etc., but try to limit this to what's absolutely necessary, and then keep such calls/meetings short and civil.
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   Cope with the pain appropriately. It's okay to feel like you have messed up - accepting responsibility for your mistakes or shortcomings is healthy. On the other hand, you must also accept that you are a good person, and that you did your best and you're not the only one who made mistakes. Of course, a stage of denial is completely natural, but acceptance is the key to being able to start moving on.
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   Deal with the hate phase. This is when you want to just scream because your rage feels boundless. The amount of anger you feel depends on how antagonistic the split was, the circumstances, and how long it took to make the final break. You may resent your ex for wasting your time. You may realize that the breakup was inevitable (hindsight will reveal clues you failed to notice at the time). You may even feel a lot of anger towards yourself, but let go of that feeling fast! It's a waste of time and energy to rip yourself apart over something you no longer have the power to change. There are so many positive things you can do with your emotions and energy. Although it may feel good to replace your feelings of love towards your ex with hate, this can still lead to complications and mixed emotions of love and hate which are never a good thing.

[hyori]

yeah agree ko nimu ana rhakz...mao nay work sa evil mura kag nag offer imung life ni satan

whahahaha!! satanas ung uyab!

disagree na pod ko ani you can't control the mind of the person if dili na gyud niya kaya unya the only way or the only solutions nga mawala tanan iyang problema is to commit suicide for him/her well iya ra pod ng decisions but ang kuyaw lang sa mgsuicide is when he/she murag musumpa ba nga mobalik siya na ambot na lang gyud luoy kaayo ang iya sumpaan nga balikon magperwisyo pirmi dili gyud na kalikayan miney my love my everything naa gyuy ingana nga mga tawo pero i think not all naman siguro pero sa akong perception i think dili ko magsuicide eyys maski unsa nako kamalas or kadaghang problema kay i know this are all trials that God gives to me and i have faith on Him man pod so mao na siya

mao lage.. dili gani ka kacontrol sa imoha pod! kacheap na gud sa tawo kung magsuicide .. as if wala nay laing tawo sa kalibutan kay pakamatyan jud.. imbis malooy ko ana, maglagot ko samot!! do you think kung magsuicide ang isa ka tawo tungod kay nagbulag lang or napakyas siya sa relationship, solusyon na siya sa tanang problema?

[ilovecebu26]

sakit jud as in. lisod kaayo i-cope up. iya ko gibuwagan last November 02, 2010 at 10:30pm. Reason? Naa na daw siya ganahan lai. DAMN. it was the most painful word I have ever heard. wala jud tawn ko naka-utter bisag single word that time. tears just keep on falling down my face. It's been 3 days now since the break-up pero naghinay2 nako ug let go niya. i changed my num, i deleted/blocked her in my emails, fb and etc. pero ang naka-paet cge pa cya email nga she wanted us to be bestfriends despite of everything. ky dili daw niya kaya nga mawala ko iya life and the worst line is..she wanted to introduce her new guy to me ky important part daw ko iya life. DAMN. unsa na kasakit mga istoryans? i replied thru her letter...and told her to let go of everything and respect me for whatever decisions i'll make. mao to iya cge cya hilak daw ky sakit nga mawala ko. but its her loss not mine. this is my first time ever naka-experienced ug pain after break-up. daghan na au ko nauyab pero sakit jud ni nako. maybe because i love the girl so much and i treasured her to the point nga nag-self pity nako niya just to have her back. pero dili na karon. though, im still in love with her pero dili na au ko masakitan.
fellow istoryans, if naa mo mga laag2...apil unya kog jam2 diha..bisag tambay lang and gitara2. thanks for hearing me out.

[[Avenging PIRANHA]]

mao lage.. dili gani ka kacontrol sa imoha pod! kacheap na gud sa tawo kung magsuicide .. as if wala nay laing tawo sa kalibutan kay pakamatyan jud.. imbis malooy ko ana, maglagot ko samot!! do you think kung magsuicide ang isa ka tawo tungod kay nagbulag lang or napakyas siya sa relationship, solusyon na siya sa tanang problema?

maovah ilaha pod na eyys wa tay labot ana kung mao na ilang perception sa kinabuhi pasagdi lang gyud na sila ila man gyud ng trip mao na diha cheap bitaw kaayo ang mga tawong mga ingana pero wala na ta mahimo ila ra pod na wala na silay labot unsay masulti sa uban basta ang importante para kanila ila ng decision makaingon lang ka ana nga as if wala nay laing tawo sa kalibutan pero what if love gyud kaayo nila ang person unya suddenly kalit lang silang gibuwagan b abir what do you think unsay buhaton b? saonz yes solusyon na siya mao nay direct solutions and the best solutions siguro if the person gusto nga mawala tanan iyang problema not just tungod kay napakyas sila or nagbulag sa uban na pod ng rason in general ba pero kabalo ka maski ako man gani pakyas ko pirmi sa gugma tungod lang nahigugma ko sa babayeng dili angay higugmaon wala man gani ko ngsuicide pero akong gibuhat sige ra nuon ko ug hilak

[rhenz143]

basta ako gusto ko happy ka hehe if naa koh xgf i make sure nga happy xa if magbreak up nami...mao na barkadahun jud nako..

[lord]

sa imuha lage brad pero sa uban nga bag-o lang nakaexperience posible jud naa na...tinoud bya ni mas daghan pa rate of death sa mga laki kaysa mga babae coz girls f masakitan muhilak ra after ana mawala na pero ang boys gahi jud dili dayun mapagawas gebati mao na maghikog na lang...

Mao pud... naa sad jud uban na grabi kaau bah.. mao mahadlok jud ko ug mainlove ang girl naku.. mao ako nalang e let go mintras sayo pah.

[tinayko]

Short term:
-dota
-tagay
-drugs
-exercise/sports
-party
-vacation trip to an island
-keep self busy/work harder
-get a temporary chick


long term:
-kill you self. ;p

[tinayko]

Short term:
-dota
-tagay
-drugs
-exercise/sports
-party
-vacation trip to an island
-keep self busy/work harder
-get a temporary chick


long term:
-kill youRself. ;p