Who here has love problems?

[DEMENTIA]

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haaaaaaaa gugma

[chris_kakashi24]

hala ganahan lage ko nimo dr.Love,
hmm anyway here's mine..

Iv'e had a 4 yr relationship with a guy and had a baby, in the long run complications came along the way, i felt so broken and hopeless, but still I had been trying to work it out with him and save the relationship.. However , while I was on the verge of breaking down, I met someone, who somehow helped me recover with all the pains and torments that I had been experiencing with this guy. I opened it up with him, and had an agreement, I could do what I want while on the other hand he could also do what he wants. So it somehow became an open relationship, (with his consent).. At first I thought I could handle it, same with him,but we were both wrong ,coz at the back of his mind He was hurting!.. but in my case, I was already recovering and falling with this "other" someone. I couldn't leave her!.. He wasn't able to bear with the pain and left!.. So I decided to move in with her and became exclusive, until such time, he came back and started to have constant communication with me again,. He is still the father of my son, I thought of!. I don't the have the right to deprive him of his own seed!.. anyway the thing here is, I just felt so madly deeply in love with this girl, which made me decide on giving up everything for her, but what I get in return are all LIES!.. we used to fight because she never liked my honesty, everytime i tell her the truth she over reacts, .. and calls me a liar instead, but when i found out a lot of things about her, I said to myself that I could no longer offer not even my friendship to her, because of what she did!.. she might have "indirectly" cheated on me, but still she LIED about her past.... what hurts the most coz I had been so DAMN honest with her, and was willing to give up everything just for her and this is what I get in return.. Like they say, Karma is B!tch, but she's b!tcher than karma! .. now it's hard to move on especially after almost giving up on him, but on the brighter side he was always there, and did not lose hope, . I just don't know how to bring back the spark that we used to have before, coz I honestly felt so cold for him after everything that happened. But I still wanted to keep this family though..

Hey Wynna!
Read your problem and this is what i think -->
I think you have a problem that is so simple you yourself could figure it out <sorry if it sounds harsh but i'm just telling you frankly> . . . . You should have never left him in the first place . . . . aside from the fact that he is the dad of your baby you should accept the fact that even men are scared when it comes to having a family. . . . and YES complications, Arguments, linabaya ug plato and etc... <ahaha> does occur but that is just normal for a couple <to have fights that is>. . . . you should not give up on him just because of those little frustrations you have with him . . . . the proof of his LOVE for you is already there! Could you not see it? He was always there for you even with your constant rejections for his LOVE . .. . . . . Being a happy family is challenging but both of you should see that having a family is also a beautiful thing . . . i may not be married but for me being in that kind of relationship is difficult but BEAUTIFUL :3 . . . .

SPARK. . . What is this spark you speak of? isnt it enough that the spark could be the baby that you have conceived? arent you glad that he still wants to be with you? . . . . dont treat life as if it was like in the movies because movies are just life based story made with much exaggeration to make it interesting . . . . . .

LOVE him for who he is, talk with each other, take on challenges together as a family, discuss what needs to be discussed open up and share what you feel and accept each others differences. . . . . AND everything will fall in place . . . "Buwag2x" is never the answer to this . unless if he was Hurting you PHYSICALLY THEN that is another story . . . . .

Please do get back to me and keep me posted ^^, i'd like to know how or on what approach you did to resolve this problem . . . this post i have posted is merely an advise and i'm not expecting you to follow it but it's your call ^^,

[chris_kakashi24]

haaaaaaaa gugma

Yes Love . . . . The most Complex of all emotions >_< :3

[chris_kakashi24]

Hi taekitaeki,

Ka-sad sa imo story ka-feel man pud ko coz it's quite similar to my situation. Kalimti na lang jud to sya ug focus na sa imo family. Easier said than done. I know it'd be very difficult.

@TS
naa pud koy dakong problema. Pero kabalo na ko unsa inyo i-advice. Same-same, that is to stay out of his life completely. Lisod lang buhaton. I hope I can make it.

It's not always that easy. . . . as you would know LOVE is the most COMPLEX emotion in the world not all solutions are the same nor will it end up the same way you want it to end . . . . . :3 ^^,


Do you mind sharing it? i'd love to know all about it ^^, I Might have a different approach based on your situation ^^,

[Wynna]

Hey Wynna!
Read your problem and this is what i think -->
I think you have a problem that is so simple you yourself could figure it out <sorry if it sounds harsh but i'm just telling you frankly> . . . . You should have never left him in the first place . . . . aside from the fact that he is the dad of your baby you should accept the fact that even men are scared when it comes to having a family. . . . and YES complications, Arguments, linabaya ug plato and etc... <ahaha> does occur but that is just normal for a couple <to have fights that is>. . . . you should not give up on him just because of those little frustrations you have with him . . . . the proof of his LOVE for you is already there! Could you not see it? He was always there for you even with your constant rejections for his LOVE . .. . . . . Being a happy family is challenging but both of you should see that having a family is also a beautiful thing . . . i may not be married but for me being in that kind of relationship is difficult but BEAUTIFUL :3 . . . .

SPARK. . . What is this spark you speak of? isnt it enough that the spark could be the baby that you have conceived? arent you glad that he still wants to be with you? . . . . dont treat life as if it was like in the movies because movies are just life based story made with much exaggeration to make it interesting . . . . . .

LOVE him for who he is, talk with each other, take on challenges together as a family, discuss what needs to be discussed open up and share what you feel and accept each others differences. . . . . AND everything will fall in place . . . "Buwag2x" is never the answer to this . unless if he was Hurting you PHYSICALLY THEN that is another story . . . . .

Please do get back to me and keep me posted ^^, i'd like to know how or on what approach you did to resolve this problem . . . this post i have posted is merely an advise and i'm not expecting you to follow it but it's your call ^^,

hmmm.. I assume you know this guy whom I'm talking about but anyway, YES, right now, all I can say is that I'm happy, contented and thankful at least I came back to my senses.. and having a STRESS free relationship I could say is indeed the most satisfying thing on earth aside from "youknowwhatimean" haha.. We both learned from our mistakes, and hopefully would not commit the same mistakes again (fingers crossed).. hopefully! hehe

[therenz]

stop being the good guy, I've been there; cge rag give way. be the bad guy, girls like bad guys.

Akong problema ky dali ra ko ma inlove dali rasad ky ko mapul.an

[chris_kakashi24]

hmmm.. I assume you know this guy whom I'm talking about but anyway, YES, right now, all I can say is that I'm happy, contented and thankful at least I came back to my senses.. and having a STRESS free relationship I could say is indeed the most satisfying thing on earth aside from "youknowwhatimean" haha.. We both learned from our mistakes, and hopefully would not commit the same mistakes again (fingers crossed).. hopefully! hehe

Well to tell you honestly, no i don't know the guy ^^, and good that you've managed to solve the dilemma, with or without my advise ^^, . . . . More power to you guys!

[chris_kakashi24]

stop being the good guy, I've been there; cge rag give way. be the bad guy, girls like bad guys.

Akong problema ky dali ra ko ma inlove dali rasad ky ko mapul.an

Not all girls like the bad guys you know ^^, Women just tend to want to be around with "bad" guys because women nowadays wants to have "FUN" before they settle down . . . . that is why there is this what people say "Nice Guys Finish Last" somewhat this is true ^^,

And same here bro ^^, i too have that feeling that i easily fall in love . . . but what you should be asking yourself is really . . . is it really worth it to give up on the one you have loved in the first place without even trying to resolve what is it that makes you become bored of her ^^,

[DEMENTIA]

^love GURO ka sa?

[chris_kakashi24]

^love GURO ka sa?

Love GURO? <Love teacher?>
if that's what you meant nope hahahaha just had a lot of experiences on love from friends and how they deal with it . . . . but the thing is i tend to incorporate the human psychology into the picture. . . and trying to forsee what possibilities a certain problem has to be able to solve it base on the person's attitude and well-being ^^, so it's not really that accurate though but if it helps you can follow my advice ^^,